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What kind of friend are you?!

*posting early because tomorrow night, I will be out at my work's tenth anniversary dinner*

This entry serves two-fold: a response to the excuse_me___ prompt --Not even you-- and a rant.

Not even you can tell me how to feel about all that’s going on because you won’t even tell me what it is in the first place. I have to hear about it from my best friend. And, what did you think she’s not going to tell me these things? She’s my best friend; that’s what friends do—we talk to each other. And, that’s so obvious from YOUR behavior that you don’t want to be my friend.

“Oh, he doesn’t want to talk to you until you reach out to him on your own.
“He’s mad that since you started dating your bf, you stopped hanging out with him.”

That was two months ago that I was told this. And, I’ve made a couple attempts to make good with you. Still nothing. I didn’t realize that we were or weren’t communicating. It helps if you include me on our friendship (or lack of) decisions.

Then, last night:
“He’s bringing Kim over, so I thought it would be really fun if you brought over your bf and he brings over his gf. He didn’t like that idea.
“He said he doesn’t want to see you.”

I just don’t understand how you can be this stubborn about all this and not talk to me about what you’re thinking or feeling. If you had asked me why we haven’t been hanging out or talking since my dating the new guy, you would’ve gotten an honest answer. When have I ever lied to you?

But this whole thing just rubs me the wrong way. Once you mature a little and realize that friendships aren’t constructed on your terms alone, you know where to find me. Until then, I do wish you and Kim well. And, I also hope that if you want to continue building something with her, you better pray that this side of you either never comes out or you finally realize you’re not going to have any friends if you don’t do something about this characteristic.

So, no, not even you can tell me how I feel because you won’t even ask.

x-posted in excuse_me___ and dove95