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Monday, December 24th, 2007
10:02 am
New link.
I am pleased to annouce a new link on our profile page.
seeing that the USA is a big chunck of the internet community, I think a US based organisation could be useful. Please feel free to spread the word and link to this group in your LJ and other relevant communities.

Friday, February 9th, 2007
9:31 am
The media in Britain recently reports that several celebrities, like British actress Honor Blackman, are taking part in a campaign to raise awareness of Domestic violence.

Honor, best know for her roles in the TV series 'The Avengers' and the James Bond film 'Goldfinger', has appeared on a poster, with her face covered in cits and bruises. The 'injuries' are the work of skilled makeup artists, of course, but the poster says
"If this *really* happened to a famous face, it would be headline news.
However, many women who are not famous get injured like this every week..."

The poster also goes on to show that two women a week die as a direct result of assaults inflicted by their partners.

the response from commentators has been mixed, some declaring that these women are just seeking publicity, but many have got behind the message.

Friday, December 22nd, 2006
9:04 pm
Posted here to raise awareness -
Reality Rape TV?

What could be more fun...?

This is the worst idea ever. The BBC is planning on airing a "reality" show about a rape trial. Basically, the show will recreate a rape trial and then have 12 celebrity jurors reach a verdict. Cause what's more fun and entertaining than rape?

Understandably, some folks are a little concerned:

…the inclusion on the jury of the likes of former MP turned perjurer, Jeffrey Archer, and Stan Collymore, the former footballer involved in well-publicised domestic violence and "dogging" incidents, has already sparked concern about the motives of the programme-makers from rape charities and support groups.

Even better is the fictionalized story the jurors are supposed to be judging:

The case involves a young woman called Anna Crane from Epsom, who goes to see the musical Chicago with her best friend in London.

After the show they wind up in a hotel cocktail bar where the friend spots celebrity footballer Damien Scott and his friend, a less successful player called James Greer. They retire to Scott's suite where one of two things happens to Anna Crane: either she has consensual sex with Scott or she is gang-raped. Both defendants plead not guilty.

Crane decides not to go to the police. Instead, her best friend sells the story of her alleged rape to a Sunday newspaper for £30,000 and covertly tapes Anna describing the assaults. This tape was played in court to the celebrity jury who have to make up their minds as to whether it is a harrowing confession or a fake tape concocted by two money-grabbing girls. (Emphasis added)

Because trivializing rape through a celebrity reality show just wasn't enough--depicting violence against women wouldn't be complete without giving credence to the idea that women make up rape charges for cold hard cash. Classy.

Complaints can be made to the BBC here,

or by writing to Anthony Salz, Acting BBC Chair, BBC Complaints, PO Box 1922, Glasgow, G1 3WT.

© Jessica Valenti, Alternet.org

If you are a UK resident, please contact the BBC via the link and voice your dissaproval.
Thank you.
Thursday, November 16th, 2006
10:51 pm
We made the front page!
Yes, on the front page of today's Metro, a police report said that the use of Rohypnol, the so called 'Date rape drug', was very rare. Most women who accused a man of rape, when tested, had no trace of Rohypnol, 'GBH', or other similar drugs in their system, but many such women had a high intake of of alcohol.

in a study of 120 cases, more than half showed alcohol , often to high levels.

A spoksman for White ribbonsUK pointed out that this may indicate that men siply used alcohol alone to lower a woman's resistance to his advances, and insisted that whether a woman was drunk or not, it was a mans responsibility to ensure that his partner was genuinely and knowingly consenting before having sex with her.

Sad to say, the Daily Mail spun it to blame the victims and never sought a quote from anyone from the White ribbons campaign.
The Metro newspaper is distributed on the London Underground, but the story also appeared on the inside of many daily newspapers.
Monday, October 23rd, 2006
8:23 pm

I'm sorta new here.

I'm presently in the middle of what has been a bit of a rough relationship with a guy I met through a friend.

I just want to commend you guys on what you're doing. It's really amazing/beautiful.
Tuesday, February 28th, 2006
10:08 am
Amnesty Internation launch campaign.
Amnesty International, famous for campaigning on behalf of political prisoners around the world, have launched a campaign in the UK to eradicate violence against women.
the End Violence against Women Campaign has gathered support from the Trade Unions Congress, and the Womens Institute and many other orgaanisations.

The campaign focusses on an early day motion in the commons calling on the government to adopt an intergrated strategy to end viloence against women in British society.

If you are a UK citizen, you can check if your MP is in support here
http//edmi.parliament.uk/edmi and either write to thank them for their support or encourage them to sign up.
Wednesday, January 25th, 2006
8:49 pm
Years ago, I was told "You can be the boss, or you can be liked - but you can't be both."
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Wednesday, January 18th, 2006
11:51 am
A new community...
Although the focus of this group is about men challenging other men on the issues around eradicating violence against women, the Campaign, internationally, has alsways welcomed women's participation and support, as does this online community.

I have recently come across discussfeminism, a communitythat has only been here a ashort while but has already put up some interesting topics for disscussion. If there are no objections, I would like to link our community to them on our profile page, as they are a good source of feminist theory and discussion.
Sunday, January 15th, 2006
10:49 am
Ok, a lot of guys are wanting to know why I appear unconcerned about these poor divorced dads who are fighting custody cases. In the UK recently, a group of men have climbed onto the front of Buckingham Palace in superman suits and run up banners to publicise the fact that they want 'Justice for Fathers', and got newpaper headlines and a lot of media coverage.

Maybe Minto is getting cynical, or just plain forgetful in his dotage, but I don't recall anyone, ever, getting onto Buck House and shouting for access to their kids while they were still married. I have not seen a single union enter negotiations with managemnet for extended paternity leave (and I am an ex union rep, remember) - the Unions have won us the right to 'discuss it' with management - but has there ever been a single all out strike, a mass march on Trafalgar Square, a single question in the house? When...??? Does anyone think that the RMT, or any other Trade Union would settle for "the right to discuss" a shorter working week, or a 5% pay deal? Hell no, if management won't meet our legitimate aspirations, brothers, we have no alternative but to take industrial action. But when it comes to parental leave, we will settle for "the right to discuss". Cluck cluck cluck.

Let's be honest, most men who become fathers are not going to 'downsize' their career in order to give more time to their offspring. They are not going to speed dial the school and the pediatrician on their mobile, or insist on taking equal time to change nappies or give feeds at 4 am.

If you think I am being unfair, please say so, but it seems to me that a lot of guys are leaving all that to their wives, and suddenly, when this child is a toilet trained individual who is old enough to be of interest to them they are yelling for access.

If men really want to get taken seriously, they have got to 'get in on the ground floor' and start making a serious investment in thier child when the work is hard and the rewards are small. Don't worry, guys - you still get to skip morning sickness, back ache and four hours in labour, but if my experience is anything to go by, if you are the sort of guy who is seen shoving a pushchair round Tesco's on a Saturday afternoon when you 'should' be down the pub with your mates, people are gonna think you are odd. You won't be thought of a s a wonderful guy and a great father - oh no. You are hen pecked. A loser. Someone who is 'under her thumb'. Trust me, I have been there and done it. I was not always married to Lila Grubb y'know.

Society may allow women to drive trains and become Prime Minister, but the idea is still persistent that women are second class citizens, and that a man who does a woman's work is somehow demeaning himself and not being a 'real man'. its quite ok to take your son to a football game or go fishing - but do babycare? You are getting out of line, pal! You are making the rest of the guys look bad!

So, yeah, if you have been divorced and want access to the kidsshow me that you did the spadework, that you your child off her hands when it was changing time or it needed a feed, and not just to take them down to Macdonalds on a Saturday afternoon.

If you really want to change the system, guys, you have got to change the way the system thinks.

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Friday, January 13th, 2006
9:17 am
I now know why someone has taken me off of their f/list. Maybe this is not an exact quote, but this is the gist of it. Most people who get into activism do it quietly. They do not make an issue of things. This friend of mine would have been a lot more impressed had I decided to raise money for my local Women's Refuge Centre and not said anything about it.|

Yes, I can see the logic behind that. I get thatthere are people who quietly do things every day that are slowly changing the world. perhaps I would be a better person if I was like that, but right now, I am not.

Not to put too fine a point on it , but i was abused as a child. A lot of people in my position have done drugs, booze, suicide. All because they cannot cope with the pain and anger that they feel inside. I have seen this happen. For others, the pain and anger goes outwards, and they become violent, anti social. they become gang members or gang leaders and take their anger onthe street.

Me, I have become an activist. it is my way of coping with the anger and the inner pain. Ok, a lot of Feminists out there are saying "It is not about you, Minto. it's our cause. We do not need you to play "rescuer". You say that you are doing this because you care about us - maybe you do - but it's really that you are doing this because it makes you feeel better.

Well, ok. I see the logic. sadly, I do not feel strong enough right now to alter the habit of a lifetime. maybe I need to talk about it to those closest to me. at present, I am too shocked to think straight, but a wider perspecive may help. Any input from others gratefully recieved.

X posted in my LJ.
Thursday, January 12th, 2006
10:49 pm
International Women's Day...
March the 8th this year marks International Women's Day. it falls on a Wednesday.
Does anyone have any ideas for marking it? Do any women in this community feel that it has any relevance or not?

It could be used as a day for fund raising, or writing letters to national or local media to highlight women's issues. It is also a time when we could flag it up in LJ communities of a neutral or aligned nature and talk about this community. Any other ideas welcome.
Saturday, January 7th, 2006
8:43 am
Happy New Year everyone.

As I said in previous posts, I was hoping that someone would join the feminist community and act as our 'ambassador' there, relaying info to us, talking to them about us and representing our campaign in that forum.

As it happens, they have accepted *my* membership. however, it would be good to have a few members from here in any large forums on LJ. I am thinking that we should not be just putting up a plug for the campaign, but commenting on any issue while it is 'hot'. we can follow a news story while its still running and put in our POV. not only recruiting as we go , but also raising awareness and aligning people towards our aims.

If anyonw knows of any events that are upcoming that would make a good platform ( International Womens Day, etc) or any communities that might prove useful, I would welcome posts here so that any who wish to could use the info.
Saturday, December 31st, 2005
11:23 am
The Muslim Community in Australia speaks out...
Following this post by maryxmas, I decided to do some research of my own.
Sheik Faiz Mohamad's name came up in this article, so did he actually say what he was accused of? Er, yes.
Go here for a couple of links. However, note the extreme right wing spin on this. What the anti Islamic faction cannot disguise though, is that this prominent Muslim leader actually did lose his position of office as his own community turned against him.



The next link puts the aftermath of the Sheikh's comments into even clearer perspective.
Here is an edited extract from the link above...

"SYDNEY'S Islamic community yesterday condemned one of its own leaders who claimed rape victims had no one to blame but themselves.

But as Muslims inundated Arabic-speaking radio stations to deplore Sheik Faiz Mohamad's controversial comments, the Muslim leader apologised.

Arabic radio station 2ME morning host Anis Ghanem said he was inundated with calls yesterday from people outraged by the comments.

He said the station had received more than 100 calls, with just three defending the Sheik's right to free speech.

A dozen Muslim organisations yesterday joined forces to deplore the comments, saying: "The responsibility for an evil act such as rape lies solely at the feet of the person who commits it. There is never an excuse for rape. Rape, being one of the most heinous of sins, can never be justified on the grounds of dress."

The organisations include the al-Ghazzali Centre for Islamic Sciences and Human Development, the Australian Muslim Civil Rights Advocacy Network (AMCRAN), the Muslim Village Network, the Islamic Foundation of Australia (IFA) and the Muslim Women's National Network of Australia (MWNNA).

Jamila Hussain of the MWNNA said the Sheik's comments would "only really reflect a very small, very conservative minority of Muslims"...

So, it would appear that within Islam, a struggle is going on between those whowant to be part of a modern, plurlist society and those who want to establish a caliphate run along medieval lines. although we cannot ignore the remarks of the likes of Shiekh Mohamad, we need to recognise, support and encourage the moderates in his own community who oppose him.

It may well be that mysoginsm is deeply rooted in the minds of certain young men in the Islamic community, but it is not entirely dead and buried in Western society, either. I don't know about the rest of the world, but we in Britain have made inroads against a pro racist culture, and we need to over the current pro rapist culture also.
X posted on my LJ.
Thursday, December 22nd, 2005
8:05 am
Here's the deal...
Next year, I want to organise a few events.

I want to go to Covent Garden and do some karaoke with my music machine on the street corner. I also want to pop up to reading and see my mate malvino. we will prolly need an indoor venue, because i don't think reading has got any decent outdoor venues where we can do this sort of thing.

The idea is we collect money and give it to the local Womens Refuges, as well as flagging up what WEhite ribbons is about.

People ask why I bother campaigning . Let me tell you this. When I was a kid, you could open a paper and read the ads "Rooms to let - no coloureds."
It was also true that In my teens, if a man beat his wife , the cops would not intervene in a "domestic incident".

Now, making such an ad would get you in trouble. And the cops will not even consider wifebeating is a civil action. it is a criminal offence. they will go after the scumbag, even if his partner is too scared to testify, they will use any other evidence to nail him.

It took 30 years or so to make it happen, but we are here. yet racial murder and domestic violence is still with us. we still need to fight, but we are making ground. i want to build on what others did in going before me. i want to rally those who feel the same.

""Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed it's the only thing that ever has"
- Margaret Mead.

So, next year, lets do it!

I am knee deep in xmas at present, pople are coming down to see us and there are preparations to make. i will not be online much , but let us look to the new year and making changes.
merry christmas, and a Happy New Year.
Minto Grubb.
Tuesday, December 20th, 2005
12:13 am
Message received
I sent a message to UK National HQ of the WRC, and got the following reply, which I thought may be of interest. It is cut for brevity, not content. Also edited for typos...
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Monday, December 19th, 2005
11:25 pm
Well, when a community decided that free speech was more important than the feelings of about half their readership, we called them on it. now, they have lostquite a few good people, including two personal freinds of mine who decided that they wanted nothing more to do with them. the community is sliding into decayand will soon contain nothing but trolls passing asinine conmmmnts to each other in n efffort to stay cheerful.

So, what did we get for our trouble? Once again, we got our issues put in fromnt of a lot of people, some of whom posted on their own LJs and linked me, and even us, as a community. As a result - we have a few more new members! Welcome aboard folks!!

We also have new a community to work through and work with. liberal_bias seems to be our kind of place, and contains many members who may want to stand beside us if we can make the right approach.
I also want to flag up a post by malvino. A really excellent link appears on his LJ, and i would encourage him to post it on here. I would like to ask his permission tooadd it on our info page, as it is the story of a survivor, and makes some excellent points.

It has not been a total success, however. Some people have said that they found direct quotes from sexist people to be triggering. My bad. I shall put anything likely to cause distress behind LJ cuts in future and post warnings.

We - myself, malvino, ringbark (an old friend, not of this community, but a really decent bloke) penguinonthelam and kibbles were banned from Trollpile 2! Go Us!!!!
7:21 pm

"Rachel North nearly died in a vicious rape and thought she had suffered the worst ordeal of her life. But then she boarded a crowded Tube train on July 7 this year..."

It's a couple of weeks old, but I only just found it (thanks to DSTPFW). I think it's worth reading, and brings up some uncomfortable questions, especially page three.
4:13 pm
Never doubt that a small band of commited people can change the world, indeed, it is the only thing that ever did...
Margeret Meade: Anthropologist & writer.

Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut that held its ground.

Welcome to any who have recently joined. Let us be the change we wish to see...
9:19 am
A Recent Encounter

I'm white and in my thirties, and most of my working colleagues are black men in their twenties.  We find a lot of surprising topics to share at times, but often we are too culturally apart to do more than grin and wave at each other.

Today, as I entered work, I heard one of them use the expression "Spanish Fly" and I pounced.  I did it kind of Adam Sandler in "Big Daddy" style when he interrogated the kid's classmates about drugs and alcohol.  They exaplained that "Spanish Fly" was an unfortunate term for an attractive latina (sexist, yes, but not misogynistic), and they both made it clear that sex with a woman incapacitated by alcohol or drugs was not an option for them (and not something they would tolerate a buddy doing, either).  I told them about White Ribbons and we had a really good talk about consent and modern clubgoing.

The lesson that I got from it is, if you keep your ears open, you will see windows of opportunities to bring up White Ribbons in a way that is brings you closer to others,

Current Mood: accomplished
9:07 am
The recent comments made in liberal2 have sparked one of my friends to link to it in an attempt to start a meme, kudos to kibbles, but most feedback so far has been muted.
My thanks to ringbark and malvino for thier support.

However, some have said that they found the comments triggering. It was not my intention to caus futher suffering to women, here, but rather end the conditions that make these things happen. I want to carry on the campaign, but not at the cost to the women here. I shall put any material likely to cause triggering behind an lj cut, and I ask others to do likewise.

I would also welcome feedback from the women in this group. I realise that good intent does not justify hurting people. I take responsibility for what has happened and will try to prevent such occurances again in future. one woman I spoke to on my F/list has shown some interest, however, it is hard to say yet what action if any she will take.

i look forward to hearing from others.
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