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about Birdsong's December Meetings - News & Topics

[Hello I am Celeste, new to this community. When I was looking for a group to help with my own recovery and couldn't find anything I helped start one with the help of a doctor I met at one of the progams I attended, which has now become BirdSong. We are a not-for-profit, non-sectarian, free-thinking organization created by and for Women with a history of incest &/or related childhood trauma that holds weekly, facilitated, peer-empowerment groups in NYC's upper East Side in an atmosphere cushioned by trust and safety.]

Hello, Birdsong Ladies!

We here at Birdsong want to take a brief moment to wish you and your loved ones a happy holiday season!

As many of you know this is a very exciting time for our organization as we are finishing our certifications in Albany and are readying ourselves to begin fundraising!! In addition, we are taking this as an opportunity to announce some very exciting changes in the format of our weekly meetings.

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Season's GReetings from everyone at Birdsong

Soul Curly

Thanks everyone

I just wanted to express my appreciation to everyone who responded to my post earlier this week. I'm sorry I didn't have the chance to respond to each of you at the time, but really, I'd just have said the same thing - thanks for listening, thanks for the good advice and thanks for letting me know I'm not crazy/overreacting. It's amazing how often there's a huge gulf between what you know intellectually and what you feel.
Bear got your back

Weekly Thought Stirring: Support (public)

One aspect of recovery that we all need is support. However, the level of support and type of support that each of us need can vary greatly. For some people, being offered advice can be triggering, while for others, advice is what they are looking for.

It can be difficult sometimes for our supporters, as they can be paralyzed with the "what should I do? What shouldn't I do?". One of the ways that we can get the support we need falls under the "simple but not easy" category of recovery - to identify what support works best for us, and to communicate that to those who support us.

Support can come in many forms, from having someone there just to listen to having someone whom you trust hold you. Support can be everything from a hug to taking you out for a night on the town. There are many different types of support, and forms it can come in, and so it can be difficult to pinpoint a few that work well. So this week, we'll talk about what types of support work best for you

This week's questions are:
- How do you best like being supported? Do you just want an ear to listen or do you prefer to receive advice? Do you want to be held, or do you prefer no physical contact, etc.
- Which means of supporting you are least helpful?

Good but scary

I did something good but scary today. I e-mailed my best friend from high school asking for us to meet up to talk about my anxiety and depression after our uni exams. Everytime I have seen her since I told her about it she has asked very concerned questions. However it has been in public and we haven't been able to talk for long. I want to both be honest with her but reassure her too, that I'm getting help, that I'm looking after myself. I don't want her to worry.

The only reason why I haven't talked much about this with her already, was that during the time when the depression got really bad, she was in China for six months and she was difficult to contact. I think that occasionally made things harder for me but I don't want to tell her that because I don't want her to feel guilty about going, there was no way we could have known that this was going to happen and she isn't responsible for any of this anyway. She shouldn't feel that she shouldn't have made the most of the opportubnity.

I also want to discuss the fact that while I will get better from this time of depression, I will probably have to be treated for it again latter in life.
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