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Thought Stirring Question: Public

Nightmares, and nightmare reduction:

Many survivors experience frequent or disturbing nightmares as a result of their abuse. Nightmares serve two purposes: our subconscious mind can process the horrors we’ve experienced in a “safe” setting, and it can also continue to feed hypervigilance during waking hours. Dreams give us the ability to revisit the abuse, in a setting which is physically safe. This can help us unlock feelings about our abuse which we have repressed or not yet identified. For survivors who experience hypervigilance (a heightened sense of awareness or fear about your surroundings), nightmares can also feed the cycle of fear leading to hypervigilance.

For whatever reasons we have nightmares, frequent or horrific nightmares can leave us drained, dissociated, and hypervigilant. There is a method (which has no official name) which can help reduce both the frequency and intensity of nightmares. Along with your other methods of processing/healing (talk therapy, counseling, medication, exercise, meditation, etc.), it can help to reduce your stress during waking hours, and help you have more energy to face the cycles of processing after abuse or rape.

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This week’s Questions:
- Do you have nightmares relating to your abuse? Did you have an increase in nightmare frequency or intensity after your abuse?

- What type of nightmare do you tend to have the most? Being attacked, overall anxiety, gory, feeling stalked, etc.?

In relation to the method for reducing nightmares:
- What types of activities could you avoid in the hour before bed? What activities do you consider non-triggering, that you enjoy, that you could start doing before bed?

- What focused soothing could you do in the 15 minutes before you go to sleep?

- What smell is the most comforting? What is your favorite happy memory – and is there a smell which reminds you of that memory? What object is instantly soothing for you to have nearby?

- Based on what type of nightmare you tend to have, what are some ways in which you could re-write those nightmares?

nightmares

I really don't expect anyone to read this...but if you do....thanks...
Just thought of some more things that could be triggering to some people...talk of pastors, arms being tied together, taping mouth shut, anal rape(just a brief mention), physical abuse running away/scared/crying/etc, there's 2 perps, and double penetration
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Sorry the post was so long...I hope I didn't leave out any triggers...I just needed to get it all out....I don't have a lot of people to talk to about it...so I thought I would write it here....

SideNote

I'm sorry it's been so long since I've existed, on here...Everything's been going well, pretty much and to be perfectly honest, I thought that I was "better and didn't need LJ anymore

*rolls eyes at self* so, as you can see, I'm still as lost as ever

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much safe love to you all and I very much hope that everyone here is doing well because you are -all- wonderful people. *hugs* to any and everyone for persevering through the lives they were given and being strong and for surviving.

Dream

I don't think it will trigger anyone...but I'm going to put it behind a cut anyways. Possible trigger for running away from an unknown attacker...
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I don't know what the dream means or anything like that...I just needed to get it off my chest. I really hope I don't have the dream again tonight.