Thought-Stirring Question: Control
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This week's Thought-Stirring Questions related to control are:
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This week's Thought-Stirring Questions related to control are:
- How has your own personal perception of your control over yourself varied because of your abuse (before/during/after)?
- How, if at all, do/did you attempt to maintain a semblance of control while experiencing abuse?
- How do you try/have you tried to regain that control in your life now? Are there particular areas, activities or feelings that you focus on?
- Are there some things that you don't want or need control over in your life? How does this benefit your recovery?
- How do you think your own behaviors might affect others' need for control? Has this changed since your abuse?
- Some survivors might first attempt to control things intensely, only to realize that it's way too much, then drop back down to being completely out of control, only to realize that that's not enough, and then repeat the cycle in smaller "waves" until we get the right balance. Have you experienced this? How did you evaluate for yourself that certain levels of control were "too much" or "not enough"? How have you attempted to move closer to finding a balance for yourself?