Tags: boundaries


Thought Stirring Question: Public

Going along with last week's theme of practicing coping skills, this week we're going to focus on practicing boundary-setting, asking for things you need, and standing up for yourself.

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This week's questions are:
- Have you had difficulty learning how to set boundaries?

- How has the abuse or rape you survived affected your boundaries, or your ability to set boundaries?

- What are some small ways you can practice saying no, asking for what you need, or standing up for yourself?

Thought-Stirring Question: Setting Boundaries with Parents.


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Questions for this week:
  • How did your childhood environment with your parents (or those who raised you) affect the way you developed and maintained personal boundaries?
  • What "red flags" and/or "green lights" have you experienced regarding your relationship with your parents?
  • How have you ultimately had to change or adapt your boundaries with your parents in order to better aid your own recovery?

Thought Stirring Question - Public

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  • Do you often have problems setting and maintaining boundaries? What boundaries are the hardest for you to set and maintain?

  • When was a time that you set a boundary and it was respected? How did that make you feel?

  • If you were to add one boundary to your life now, what would it be? How could you go about implementing it? What kind of support would you need?

Thought-Stirring Question: Boundaries

In the American Heritage Dictionary, the word "boundary" is defined as “an indicated border or limit.” Healthy boundaries enable us to see ourselves as individuals and make independent decisions and actions. They also allow us to interact with others--friends, family or intimate partners--comfortably and in a way that encourages growth.

As abuse survivors, we have, at some point, had our boundaries violated in some way by our perpetrators. We may have been called upon to examine our own boundaries and figure out what they are, how to maintain them, and how they have fluctuated in relation to our trauma.

--What are, in your opinion, some key signs of healthy boundaries?
--What kind of (psychological/emotional/physical) boundaries do you have?
--Do your boundaries change depending on where you are or whom you are with?
--How were you boundaries affected by your abuse?
--What are your goals concerning your boundaries now?

Thoughts from the night

This year has been a lot better than last year. My depression has improved and I'm about to cut my dosage down under the watchful eye of the doctor.

Tonight is a little worse than usual because I've been sleeping poorly all week due to weather, stress and tense muscles.

Seting boundaries for myself, self confidence, self criticism and telling MY truth are all things I've been thinking about. My self confindence, seting boundaries and self expression are all getting better but I particularly need to work on the self confidence and stopping the self crticisim. Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions?