In the American Heritage Dictionary, the word "boundary" is defined as “an indicated border or limit.” Healthy boundaries enable us to see ourselves as individuals and make independent decisions and actions. They also allow us to interact with others--friends, family or intimate partners--comfortably and in a way that encourages growth.
As abuse survivors, we have, at some point, had our boundaries violated in some way by our perpetrators. We may have been called upon to examine our own boundaries and figure out what they are, how to maintain them, and how they have fluctuated in relation to our trauma.
--What are, in your opinion, some key signs of healthy boundaries? --What kind of (psychological/emotional/physical) boundaries do you have? --Do your boundaries change depending on where you are or whom you are with? --How were you boundaries affected by your abuse? --What are your goals concerning your boundaries now?
This year has been a lot better than last year. My depression has improved and I'm about to cut my dosage down under the watchful eye of the doctor.
Tonight is a little worse than usual because I've been sleeping poorly all week due to weather, stress and tense muscles.
Seting boundaries for myself, self confidence, self criticism and telling MY truth are all things I've been thinking about. My self confindence, seting boundaries and self expression are all getting better but I particularly need to work on the self confidence and stopping the self crticisim. Thoughts? Ideas? Suggestions?