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Turtle Hope Afloat

Weekly Thought Stirring Question: Inner Children and how we care for Them (public)

There's been a lot of good discussion this week about our inner children, and I couldn't pass up talking about it!

For many survivors, especially survivors of abuse as children, the aspect of ourselves that is innocently happy, vulnerable, and unweighted by responsibility is often shattered by our abuse. When we're abused as children, we're shown again and again that the responsibility of how our abusers feel rests on our shoulders. If we don't act perfectly to their rules (which often change at the drop of a hat), we're abused. If we don't allow ourselves to be abused, our siblings, friends, or family will be threatened or hurt.

So much weight rests on our shoulders so young, and many of us report feelings of having always been an adult. After all, when the happiness of your household depends on your behaviour, you're an unhealthily important provider for your family!

For those of us who were abused in our teens or even in our adulthood, we often feel like our innocence, the innocent outlook of our youth, has been stolen from us. Often, since our trust of the world around us has been shattered, that inner child of our gets put on the back shelf for her or his own safety.

So often, it's very difficult for us to heal that aspect of ourselves. In order to begin healing that part of our lives, we need to be able to identify why our inner child was hurt, how she or he was hurt, and what our inner child wants in order to be happy. Furthermore, while we're giving our inner children what they ask for, we must be vulnerable in a way - we need to have some semblance of safety in order to be able to feel carefree.

Since we have so many people here who are in various stages of healing, I thought this would be a great discussion to open up - what's worked for you, what hasn't worked for you, and how you connected with that inner child of yours.

So this week's questions are:
- Do you feel like you lost part of your childhood? Do you have struggles in helping your inner child?
- How have you connected with your inner child?
- What activities does your inner child most enjoy? Are there any activities that you need to avoid when connecting with your inner child?

Bonus question:
- Do you have any advice for our members on how to connect with their inner child if they're struggling?
Just Listen

Regression

Regression-

Not too terribly long ago someone made a post about regression. Regression into childhood ways/attitudes/feelings. Well I just wanted to make a post about this, I don't really know why. I guess because I think it happens because of my abuse.

It's almost like I have multiple personality disorder, except that it's not like different people, or that I'm not aware of them. It's just that you can catch me at say 8AM and it's like I'm one person and and hour or two later, I'm completely different. At certain times I'm this totally strong, independent, yet very angry person. At other times I'm this very innocent, childlike, loving person. Yet still at other times, I'm this weak-willed, incredibly sad person. And it's not just a change in emmotion, it's a change in everything. Depending on what type of personality I'm portraying, I have different opinions on things, and even different tastes in things like music, and such. Sometimes I'm completely against the death penalty, at others I'm for it, same with things like abortion, or the president. Sometimes I really like pop style music, at other times I despise it. Sometime I'm in love with screamo, other times I think it's stupid. I can watch South Park and laugh like an idiot, the next night I think it's the dumbest thing I've ever seen.

I guess I just want to know if this is normal, or if it happens to anyone else in the group?