Tags: abuse: control


Thought-Stirring Post: Public (repeat)

This Thought-Stirring Post was initially posted in 2007 by sistahraven. You can find the original post here.

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This week's questions are:
- How did your abuser insist on being in a position of power? Was it through put-downs and attacking your self esteem, was it through limiting your choices, or was it some combination thereof?
- In what ways did that loss of power effect your world?
- In what way could you reclaim some of your own power?

- In what ways have you already reclaimed some of your power?
sara of the woods

Mother, Money, Boundaries

Over Christmas break, I found out my mother has been lying to me all semester about putting money in my account. This has reached crisis point--the straw that broke the camel's back, to be cliche. It's not just about the money: it's mostly about the way she treats me and the boundaries I need to set.

My grandmother decided to set up a meeting with her, my grandfather (VP of investments at Morgan Stanley), my mother, and me to discuss the issue of money. I wrote out an analysis of the problem so that I'd have everything I wanted to say sitting in front of me. I tried to communicate the problem only, not the emotional baggage that goes along with it, and I tried to stay away from blaming my mother. (Hence the frequent use of passive voice, which makes my writer self cringe.)

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Intro Post

Hi- I found this community because I am struggling with something that happened a long time ago. It is stupid and it is anniversary time and I have realized how much these events have shaped my life and the relationships that I have. I would appreciate any feedback and comments that you care to make.

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