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Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry

This week's topic is one that has been repeatedly requested by our members, quite possibly because it is not only so prominent a phenomenon, but also such an overlooked and minimized form of abuse.

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This week's questions:
  • How has emotional abuse affected you?
  • What particular forms of emotional abuse were most difficult for you to recognize as abuse?
  • How does the way you view/treat/talk to yourself compare to the way your emotional abusers view(ed)/treat(ed)/talk(ed) to you?
  • What further questions do you have or what further areas of emotional abuse would you like help with?

Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry

Holidays are a stressful time of year for many people, but can be especially taxing on survivors of trauma and abuse. With Thanksgiving coming up in the States this week and Christmas around the corner, I thought it might be time to address our holiday concerns. It was definitely a popular topic in the TSQ poll from last week!
  • How do you feel about holidays in general?  Are some more or less stressful than others?
  • How does your trauma history play into your opinion/feelings about/experiences with holidays?
  • What are your plans for the upcoming winter season in regards to holidays?
  • What, if any, positive coping methods or changes have you made with regard to holidays that have really helped you?
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Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry

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This week, it might actually also be extra helpful if, when submitting your comment, you list the religions/belief systems you mention--that way others can decide whether to read or skip over your comment until they are feeling up to it. 

Without further ado, here are this week's questions!
  1. What kind of experiences did you have with religion/spirituality in regards to your abuse history? 
  2. What kind of impact have these experiences had on your current belief system?
  3. How does your current belief system and/or the practices related to it affect your recovery path as a survivor?

Thought Stirring Question: Public

Selective Desensitization is a process by which to reduce the severity of trauma triggers.

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This week's questions are:
- To which triggers do you have the greatest reaction?

- Which triggers would you like to desensitize most? Which are the ones you encounter most often?

- In which ways could you safely expose yourself to those triggers?

- Who in your support network would be best to help you desensitize those triggers?

Thought-Stirring Post: Public Entry

Originally posted by sistahraven  on January 10, 2006

What is your favorite smell?

This one might sound a bit odd, so I'll give you some background. Many of us have learned coping skills out the wazoo to deal with our panic attacks, flashbacks, depression, anger, nightmares, etc. Studies have shown that using a few coping skills, which focus on different senses at the same time (as in touch and sound, taste and sight, etc.) are the most effective. By soothing our bodies on multiple levels, we're able to tell our bodies faster that we are safe and okay, despite what our emotions are doing at the time.

One of the easiest things, and often the most overlooked, coping skill is aromatherapy. Think about it. How much more comforted do we feel with the smell of warm apple pie in the oven, or fresh baked bread, or the lilacs in the spring, or maybe even the smell of your family dog. Adding the component of smell to your coping is an all-encompassing aid, that doesn't intrude on cuddling with a loved one, reading a book, listening to music. And with all the various scented candles, air fresheners, and potpourri available... well, you can find just about any smell - from fresh cut grass to a warm cup of coffee.
  • So what are your favorite smells?
  • What good things do they remind you of?
  • How can you bring those smells into your life when you need that extra bit of comfort?