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I am reading a fantastic book that I want to tell you all about. It is called Widdershins, by Charles De lint. It is a fantasy book about the world of magic and faeiries overlapping ours, but I am halfway through it and he is suddenly writing such a well crafted, moving story about a woman dealing with her past ghosts of sexual, physical and emotional abuse.

The main character is a woman that the world can't stop hurting. Despite her past and a car accident that puts her in a wheel chair, she is an upbeat and positive person. The main characters can travel through different worlds...the faeirie world, the spirit world, the human world, etc. And on her journeys she gets stuck in this bad world that she ends up realizing her mind has created. It was a place she made in her childhood, and all her old monsters are there to deal with. the thing is, all the power the bad guys have in this world of memory is power that she is letting them have by believing in them still. I'm at a point where she is trapped in her own head and fighting out all her old battles that she thought was behind her.

It may have some triggering parts in it, but I recommend it, even though I haven't finished it yet!

fuck up faerie

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Just wanted to make a book recommendation for those with abusive partners or who are recovering from them...

Why Does He DO That? by Lundy Bancroft.

Great book, it's by someone who 'works with' abusive men, and explains why they do what they do and the mindset behind it.

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I have an author that I would like to share with all of you. Pema Chodron. She is a Buddhist nun that writes eloquent and inspiring books that really relate useful coping tactics of Buddhism to Westerners. No matter what religion you are, Buddhism has great ideas of compassion and healing. This ties in with a previous post about developing compassion for ourselves. She writes in a way that is not preachy, but is open and honest and kind. Its as if she is holding you while you read it. I was once in a place where my emotions were uncontrollable, ruled by fear. Since finding these writings, meditation and the help of wonderful friends, I have gotten much better.

Someone recommended me to a therapist they thought I would mesh well with. When this therapist mentioned Pema Chodron on the first session I knew I had found a good match!

Here is a web site about her at her publisher.


Here the books of hers that I have found most useful. I think I'm at a place in my life to reread "The Places That Scare You"!




A Survivors Helpful Tool

As I was going through my shit last night, I happened to find a book my doctor gave me a few years ago to help me understand what I was feeling and why...its called Surviving With Serenity and its by T. Thomas...its a book of daily meditations for incest survivors...and it has all the days of the year, but without the actual year, so you can use it forever...

Thought stirring

(I apologize in advance that this question won't come with as much of an explanation, as I have a very nasty migraine, and the computer monitor's killing my eyes, so this week's will be a little quick.)

Sometimes in on our paths to recovery, we encounter fictional characters that remind us of ourselves, or that inspire us to keep going through the hard times. Many times this can help us either by making us feel less alone, or in showing us how to keep fighting despite crazy odds. Sometimes it's simply a character that reminds you of innocence and love, or a character who's grown so hardened that he/she has become invincible. Sometimes we can connect with a character, understand what they're going through, and be able to process our own emotions better.

So this week's question is: What fictional character (from any media from movie to poetry to song to maybe even mythology) has helped you on your journey, and how have they helped you to do so?

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This is sort of confusing...

I am still reading the book that I posted about earlier. I read in it that rapists who are actually turned in are usually only imprisoned for a couple of years. While I think that they are probably kept from doing a lot of damage in those two or three years, what about when they get out? I've read before that sexual offenders tend to go right back to their prior behaviors when they get out, so why not just keep them in there forever? Or castrate them and THEN release them. If rapists are so rarely turned in, then why wouldn't the courts keep a tight grip on the ones that they actually get? I don't expect any of you to answer this, I just don't understand. I wish people were more educated on the consequences of rape and sexual abuse on the victims. Maybe then these sick-os would be locked away forever. And here is some sad news that I am just realizing: since most rapes go unreported, this is just an estimation. Every 3.5 minutes, a woman is raped.

A book

I just started this book last night called "AFTER SILENCE: Rape and My Journey Back", by Nancy Venable Raine. I read the first chapter, and I must warn you that it is very graphic. She includes many details about her attack. But the message to her readers before the first chapter is very good. It had me crying, the way she could express in words, feelings that I have felt. It makes me feel good that parts of my story are actually written down, even though this is really her story. I just wanted to share this with you all incase anyone was interested enough to go and purchase this book. This is kind of my therapy until I find the strength to talk to a councelor.

Surviving to thrive

I am currently reading "Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. I would like to share a small excerpt, her views on surviving. Although it is written in a different context (discovering your inner, instinctual, wild woman self), I feel it very aptly speaks to my current personal feelings in regards to my own healing from rape and an emotionally abusive father, and hopefully some of you may find it interesting (and relevent) as well.

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