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3rd-Jul-2006 05:59 pm
ali and lilo
Hello all!

I've just recently been inspired to create a few different art pieces as part of my healing process, and I'm hoping for your input!

Thus far what I've got in mind is to create a series. The first will be a tribute to the fact that, in many cases, we said no and our abusers went on anyway. It will be called "I Said No". The background will be a collage of everything our abusers said to us to try to get us to do what they wanted, or really just anything they said to us before, during, or after...

Examples of mine are "Come on just do it, why wont' you just do it? Are you too young to kiss an old man like me? Porque no, eres virjin? I think we should just follow our instincts like animals and just do it", etc.

I'm hoping to cover the background with these kinds of phrases, coercions, threats, what have you, and then over the top paint in red, dripping letters "I SAID NO."

Here's where you come in! If you would like your experience to be a part of this healing expression, reply to this post with what he (or she, but please specify if your abuser was female as it may end up going into a different piece) said to you before, during, or after the abuse occurred.

Also please be aware that by posting you are giving me permission to use what you share in my artwork. If you want to share but don't want me to use it, please just let me know!

You can also email your words or experience to me at expressionheals@yahoo.com. If you are replying to this entry specifically, please put "I said no" in the subject line so that I can organize your replies more easily - thanks!

The design of the piece is still developing, so if you have any ideas you'd like to share, please feel free to do that as well!
4th-Jul-2006 02:51 am (UTC)
I'd love to take part! I'll be e-mailing you my words
4th-Jul-2006 03:04 am (UTC)
It's quite difficult for me to come up with phrases that were said to me because he took advantage of me while I was passed out. But I remember being conscious at one point and I told him to stop and he didn't say anything. Then I said, "No, that hurts" and he said, "That hurts? Too bad" and he hit me. The next morning I didn't remember this. He had videotaped my rape and I saw the camera at the end of the bed and watched it. He had come out of the shower at this point and said, "I see you found the tape. Things got a little crazy last night."

I'm not sure if you have any intentions of posting pictures of this when its done but the piece intrigues me and I'd love to see the finished work.
4th-Jul-2006 06:08 am (UTC)

Thank you for sharing that with me.

I'll definitely post pictures. It'll probably be awhile before its anywhere close to done, as I've just come up with the idea, but I'd love to share:)
4th-Jul-2006 01:44 pm (UTC)
That's Ok, I just think it's such a neat concept, and the way you're laying it out with the words and everything.. I'm sure it will be really powerful.
4th-Jul-2006 02:23 pm (UTC)
My abuser was my father, and he never said anything. Ever. It was a fragile situation as I pretended to be asleep, and he let me pretend to be asleep. And nothing was ever ever ever said about it, one way or another.
4th-Jul-2006 03:57 pm (UTC)
Oh wow.

I'd like to be able to honor your experiences as well, even though there weren't words involved...

I wonder how you'd feel about me leaving blank space to honor the words not said?

**Thank you** for sharing with me.
4th-Jul-2006 11:05 pm (UTC)
I would be honored if you would do that.
5th-Jul-2006 05:28 am (UTC)
I"m glad. It will be made a part of the piece.

**Thank you**
4th-Jul-2006 02:58 pm (UTC)
oh wow! i'd love to be part of it as well. this is an amazing idea!
4th-Jul-2006 04:01 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! I look forward to honoring you through my art.
4th-Jul-2006 05:47 pm (UTC)
I'll contribute, too, you have a wonderful idea. I imagine such a piece will be very powerful.
6th-Jul-2006 11:04 am (UTC)
“What’s a pretty little girl like you doin’ out this late at night all alone? When I’m done with you, your mommy won’t be able to recognize your face and they’ll have to identify what’s left with dental records.”

This other part I can't remember 100% verbatim, but I remember telling the police that he remarked something to this effect in the report I made: "Good girls don't go out alone at night, if you were good, this wouldn't happen to you."
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