Rynzi (rynzi) wrote in _survivors_,

I'm new here, not a surviver but I read the user info and said anyone looking for advice could also join. And I'm looking for advice.
My boyfriend was rapped as a child. (From what I gather several times by another guy.) He told me this and I never pushed for anything else, figuring if he wanted to talk more he would. I didn't feel right by pushing for more information because I didn't want to upset him or anything.
Well this weekend I was at his house and we were talking about revenge. He said he never gets revenge and he just wanted a little. He also said the closes he got to revenge was fighting back and that wasn't really revenge. I gathered he was talking about what happened to him as a child. Well actaully I narrowed it down to the physical abuse he suffered from someone or that. But I thought it was probably the rape.
He has done this before kinda, mentioned things about it but never really talked about it.
As far as I know only a few people know about it, (Not his parents) and he's never seen anyone about it.
I was wondering if I should sit him down and tell him I'll listen if he wants to talk, no matter what. Or would this be a bad thing to do? I believe he knows i'd listen but I never actaully told him I'm more then willing to be there for him.
So any advice on this would be great. Thank you

EDIT-Sorry this showed up in my friends page and I freaked out so I had to delete it. To those of you who already posted thanks! I still have the posts. Sorry about the re-post.*blushes out of embaressment*
Tags: abuse: csa, revenge, seeking opinions
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