Sex can be a complicated issue for any abuse survivor for a variety of reasons ranging from lack of trust to specific physical or emotional triggers or even just the vulnerability involved. For that reason, a person's own sexual fantasies can also be upsetting, particularly because they arouse physical responses that might be unwanted or triggering, and because they are difficult to untangle from the web of feelings and reactions we deal with every day as a result of our abuse histories.
This week's questions are:
1. How have your sexual fantasies evolved over time?
2. How have your sexual fantasies functioned as a coping mechanism for you in relation to your abuse?
3. In what ways do you think you could possibly integrate your fantasies into your life in a way that is healthy for you?
4. Are there alternative ways for you to achieve the emotional goals that your sexual fantasies aim to reach?