Many times, after being abused, survivors feel they don’t have a right to set boundaries and limitations of what type behavior is allowed from the people in their life. During abuse, our boundaries were so violated we often don’t feel worthy enough or important enough to create limits for how people can act towards us, nor feel the boundaries will be respected even if we make them. One part of healing is learning that we are important enough to set and maintain boundaries that keep us feeling safe and respected, and knowing that the people we interact with will respect those boundaries.
- Do you often have problems setting and maintaining boundaries? What boundaries are the hardest for you to set and maintain?
- When was a time that you set a boundary and it was respected? How did that make you feel?
- If you were to add one boundary to your life now, what would it be? How could you go about implementing it? What kind of support would you need?