December 5th, 2006

i work with a rapist...

i just need to get this off my chest. it's kind of a rant i guess you could say. i read everyone's posts, but i hardly ever comment since i really dont know what to say half the time. and i wanna tell you all that youre all so supportive and brave for everything youve all went through.

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i'm gonna try to be more active in this community cuz i think it would really help me. thanks for listening/reading.
Mine, Dru, Spike

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In case anyone was worried, I just wanted to say that I'm fine. We moved, but we finally have internet again, at least for now. My birthday was on Thanksgiving... That's about all the update I have.
*hugs to everyone*
Mine, Dru, Spike

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If anyone here is comfortable talking about it, can anyone tell me if their being Wiccan relates to their healing, and how?

I don't know if anyone here is, even, and I know it's impolite to ask directly if someone is Wiccan, so I figured I would phrase it this way.

I've been reading just a little about it, and something about it feels as though it would kind of mesh with my healing. Like it would make it so much stronger. Can anyone comment? Or on their experiences with any religion, and healing? Thanks. :)

-Lost
Cat nap peace

Weekly Thought Stirring: Soothing Bedtime Routines (public)

Nightmares are a common symptom amongst survivors. Also, many survivors feel anxiety or depression around bedtime, or may experience insomnia as well. Whether it's because of our nightmares, or because of your abuse, going to sleep and getting restful sleep is something that so many of us struggle with on a daily or weekly basis.

One of the great ways to combat nightmares and bedtime anxieties is to have a soothing bedtime routine. Devoting 15-20 minutes to relaxation before bedtime is a great nightly routine to have. Putting ourselves into a calmer state of mind around bedtime can make it easier to fall asleep, and to have more restful and nightmare-free nights of sleeping. Having a consistent routine can reduce the number of nightmares you have over time, and going to bed more relaxed makes it easier for us to fall asleep.

But for many of us, finding something that can soothe us around bedtime is very difficult. It can be hard to find something that can relax you and help you get a better night's sleep. So this week we'll open the discussion up about soothing bedtime routines. Many of us have little tricks that help us relax, and discussing our methods of relaxation can often bring insight to us when we're stuck.

The most effective soothing methods tend to reach us on more than one of our senses: for example, having a soft blanket to wrap up in and having soothing music - which affects touch and hearing. Soothing things reaching us on two or more senses at the same time can have a much greater effect than just soothing one sense at a time.

Also, don't forget about your sense of smell! Scent is the sense most connected to our emotions (think about the smell of freshly baked bread, and immediately most people will have a pleasant feeling arise in them), and aromatherapy on any level can be a great addition to any soothing routine. Sometimes something as simple as a shirt that smells like someone we know, or an air freshener can make a big difference

So this week's questions are:
- Do you have a soothing routine for bedtime?
- If so, what do you do? What works best for you?
- If not, what soothing things could you do in the 15-20 minutes before sleep?