Okay, I haven't been diagnosed by a doctor or anything... so i don't know if vaginismus is what i have or if it's something totally different... but aside from my abuse as a child, i've tried to have normal sex life with my husband. in the almost 7 years we've been married, 99% of the time we have full sex, it hurts immensely. i've worked hard to overcome my fears, and can't say i'm fully released to be a free sexual being, but i've come a long way.... and have learned to enjoy the feeling of small things in me (like a finger), but anything big (like his 'thing').... hurts... a lot. anyone else have this issue and or is familiar with this..... and has a solution? or can at least validate me... i feel so 'broken'. wisdom anyone? after 7 years.... i feel like giving up. and i thought after i gave birth, maybe that would help cuz it would widen me... but it didn't help. my body hates me i think. i just want it to feel good... for once. sorry if this was too personal.... but i don't know what else to do.