Miranda kerr

Be strong!!!

I get so frustrated sometimes with how a lot of women allow themselves to become dependent on men. Even right now in the midst of such a "modern" society, there is an alarming amount of women stuck in abusive relationships taking crap from their husband or boyfriend, or settling for less than they deserve; not out of love, but because they've sacrificed their careers/education to accommodate that of their man. I myself am also guilty of this. I sacrificed a great paying job, my friends, my family. For what? A man? I'm from california, and I left everything to get married and live in colorado because I was young and stupid and my then fiance said he wanted to take care of me, of "us". He had a good stable job and connections in colorado. So of course "we" decided that I would leave everything. I stayed a lot longer than I should have because I became dependent on him. But now it's so obvious to me that women are strong resilient creatures and we don't need someone to "take care" of us. And we should instantly be suspicious of anyone that wants to "take care of us". And so it frustrates me to see women sacrifice their independence, their aspirations, their backbone, because i've been there. I have SO been there. I just feel like shaking them until they turn blue and telling them that anyone that truly cares for them will want them to be their own person. Anyone that truly cares for you wont want you to be their side-kick in life and instead of suppressing your inner strength, that person is going to encourage and support you. What i'm trying to say is, the women of today need to start being stronger, more ambitious and we need to start making the world realize that we WILL not settle. Because if WE settle... what kind of world are we giving our future daughters, grandaughters, nieces etc.?
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I am not a housewife. And I wonder am I subversive, but I have to say watching this community has been the best thing that I did all day. Its nice to see that there are normal, interesting human women out there. I have been scared of groups of women to be honest, I never felt like I was part of that group because I didnt feel like i was 'womanly enough'... whatever the hell that means. Women who can bake intimidate me. Who can sew, who can raise kids and do charity work and all lthat jazz. I respect and admire them hugely, but just not sure I could ever be that. Its something i could only ever aspire to be i think. Why?? not sure really... I think I'm afraid that when i get married I'll lose myself somewhere along the way. That if I have kids the independant person in me will run screaming from them. that im not good enough to do all those womanly things lol.

I'm 21, young enough i suppose to be thinking about all this stuff, but its been in my head ever since I've witnessed how other women do it all. Anyway, hurrah for your community :D you've just opened a door for me.

Because every BBQ should have a Sissy Maid!

This weekend saw our first BBQ/soiree as a married couple. And, more significantly, our first entertaining done with the welcome assistance of impeccably trained service on hand. Normally we're delighted to have Sissy Stephanie join us as a guest - she's graced our Thanksgiving dinners for several years running - but this time we actually took up her kind offer to attend in a more official capacity.

At first I was a bit uncomfortable letting go of tasks. But soon I realized how delightful it it is to have an ever-replenished pitcher of sangria magically on hand - not to mention the ability to truly relax with our guests and make sure that everyone is happy and properly mingling.

So, many thanks to Sissy Stephanie for her service and our lovely, lovely guests for venturing forth on such a brutally downpoury day.
Ann Boleyn


Why is it that women are so awful to each other??? This bothers me and I've noticed that it's very prevalent among military wives (me being a Navy wife and all).

I think that women need to stick together and form true friendships and strong bonds. Am I the only one who feels this way?
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Hi, I'm new to this community.

Remember after bathtime when you were little, how you'd wrap up in your towell and go dump yourself in front of the heater/fireplace to drip-dry? I loved that.

During some delightful pillow talk the other night, my lover pondered on the fact that nudity rules when you're an adult seem to be inverse to what they were when you were a child. His example was that as a child you're allowed to run around naked as much as you like, and the only thing to stop you was your parent's embarassment, but you always had to sleep in your pyjamas; As an adult, you most certainly can not run around naked as much as you please, but feel free to sleep skyclad every night if you want to!

I want to have a bath and then dry in front of the fire.....
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Activism made easy


Apt quote:

* Those who profess to favor freedom and yet depreciate agitation, are people who want crops without ploughing the ground; they want rain without thunder and lightning; they want the ocean without the roar of its many waters. The struggle may be a moral one, or it may be a physical one, or it may be both. But it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand; it never has and it never will. *

~ Frederick Douglass
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Hi, I'm Carla and I'm where Betty Paige and Martha Stewart intersect. I actually like a lot of that MS stuff, but then Betty was hot and despite my age (older than all of y'all) hot matters.

I'm a nurse and I specialize in lactation. Sound purty traditional but I have my own twists.

I feel that the "traditional" female arts are valid choices when we ourselves choose to embrace them instead of having them rammed down our throats.

I'm also a writer and editor on www.everything2.com, an amateur naturalist and gardener, mom/wife.


2006 A World Beyond Capitalism Conference Volunteer Meeting And Call for out-of-state volunteers

..Dear friends,
I would like to invite everyone to the Volunteer Meeting for the 2006 A World Beyond Capitalism Conference,
An Annual International Multiracial Alliance Building Peace Conference.  Time and Date: 7pm-9pm, Wednesday, October 19th, 7-9 PM, 2005, Location: Laughing Horse Bookstore, 3652 SE Division St. Portland, OR 97202. No charge.  Free, light vegan refreshments.  Detailed driving directions with maps (for local or out of state origins) are found on the website.  The conference greatly welcomes the help of not only face-to-face volunteers but also volunteers who can only help from out-of-state, or out of country who work-from-home with or without the internet.  Workshop proposals will also be accepted.  More details on today's entry of my journal.  Thank you.
Love for the people..........

"There comes a time when the operation of the machine is so odious that you cannot even tacitly participate, You’ve got to place your bodies on the gears, the wheels, all the mechanism. And you’ve got to indicate to those who own it and those who run it, that unless you are free, the machine will be prevented from working at all." - "Unless You Are Free" Song Lyrics by Utah Phillips/Ani DiFranco

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bitmoji grad student


I just joined, because I saw this community on some of my friends' profiles. Looks like my kind of place.

Anyway, I'm Karyn, 30 years old, and I've been married for almost 2 years (our anniversary is on Tuesday). I live in Germany right now with my husband, who is in the US Air Force, and I gave up any career potential to be with him and to have the opportunity to live in Europe. So I find myself to be a housewife, for the most part. I am also a substitute teacher (a job I don't particularly like, but it pays well) and a freelance writer.

I'm not the typical military wife. I'm not one of these girls who got married right out of high school and went straight from under my parents' wing to under my husband's. I went to college, had a few jobs, went to graduate school. I'm not all about God and apple pie and making babies and RAH RAH RAH AMERICA KICKS EVERYONE'S ASS!! My husband and I are childfree. I'm not religious. And I do make apple pie occasionally, but my prowess in the kitchen is about the only domestic thing I have going for me. I'm also a liberal in the midst of women who worship George W. Bush like he's God.

My life now is eons away from my old life as an academic. I still have a difficult time reconciling the two. But overall, I feel like I'm coming into my own pretty well.

So I just wanted to introduce myself and say hello.