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[25 Jul 2013|10:33pm]

fatbitch247
Please someone im begging you
1st i need to know how to cober my scar,s on arm
2nd good anorexia tips
3rd a friend to talk to
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Add me [25 Mar 2011|02:31am]

x_sleepercell_x
Hey there,

If anyone needs to talk I'm here to listen
and help out as best I can

Add me

Stay safe
S-M-I-L-E
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Help Please [22 Mar 2011|04:52pm]

adison4eva
So on Thursday I have a meeting with my parents, all my teachers, the school councelers, and the prinicipals/vp's at school and I'm freaking out. When I was told this last night, I had a panic attack and wouldn't settle down. My parent's responce: It's no big deal. So I thought it over and I was like, Well I'll be with my AVID teacher in there, so I'll be okay. But I talked to him about it today and he told me that he might not be going because  he has other plans. But he said that if It means that much to me and I really want him there that he would cancel his other plans and go to be with me. I was crying badly at this point because I'm so terrified of Thursday, I just don't know what to do. But then we got sidetracked in class and we couldn't talk about it anymore. And I don't see him tomorrow. Then It's Thursday and It's to late. I'm so freaking scared. And I can't even cut because last week my mother decided to go through my things and take everything sharp. Even as I'm writing this, I'm freaking out like crazy. I thought that I might be able to get through  it with my AVID teacher, but if he doesn't go I really don't know what I will do. I need some advice please.
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[13 Feb 2011|11:16pm]
ex0rdium
((I posted this in another self harm community but I feel like I might receive better feedback from this one.))

Hey everyone. I'm Aisling and I'm twenty years old.

I'm new to this community but self-harm has been a problem in my life for about fifteen years. I think I started when I was six years old. I was a very odd child with an learning disability. I had little to no friends for many, many years. Even though my social life has bloomed into something wonderful, I still feel the great urge to self-harm.

I harm myself in a rather unusual way. I tear the skin off my feet. It's less than obvious than cutting my arms or legs... but it's embarrassing when I have to expose them. The guilt of self-harm then intensifies more than usual...  I have hurt myself to the point where it's difficult to walk.

My way of self-harm belongs in the ICD spectrum (Impulse Control Disorder).  Some consider it to be OCD. Does anyone else have ICD in this community? I would like to hear someone who suffers from the same disorder, whether it be skin tearing or hair pulling. It's not very common. I find it difficult to stop hurting myself. The urge is always there, hell, I sometimes do it without even noticing. I also do it when I'm anxious or bored.

I've joined this community in hope to get better. The longest I've gone without harming is a few months... I wonder if it's really possible to stop self-harming. Will the urge to harm always be there? I once spoke to a man who was addicted to nicotine. Even though he stopped cold turkey, he still thinks about smoking every day... but somehow, he just doesn't give in. It makes me feel so weak.
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1st Video Blog [12 Dec 2010|05:35pm]

lauralovesnaley
I've made audio blogs in the past, but a birthday gift has allowed me to make my first video blog.  In it, I deal with telling my parents about my self injury and updates in my life. Video under the cut. Hope you guys like it.

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Still recruiting participants for study on self-harm [01 Dec 2010|02:11pm]
perl_sfu
Hi there,

I know some members from this group have participated in our research, so I wanted to send along a quick update and to let you know that we are still recruiting participants for our research on self-harm.  The Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury Study began in March 2009. Since we began, over 350 people from 18 different countries have participated in this study. 83 people are currently participating in the longitudinal portion of the study, completing questionnaires every three months. This part will help us understand patterns of self-injury over time, as well as what motivates people to recover or stop from self-injuring. 

Below is some more information about the study. Please email us at perl@sfu.ca if you have any questions or if you are interested in participating!

Best wishes!
The Personality and Emotion Research Lab




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Hello again from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm? We are currently recruiting participants for the second phase of our research on self-harm, and we want your help! Participating in the study takes 2 hours, and you will receive an online gift certificate worth $10 CAD for each time point you complete, plus a chance for a $25 bonus if you complete all the follow-ups for a total of $75.

If you are interested in participating, please email us at perl@sfu.ca. All your information will be kept confidential, and no identifying information is linked to your responses.


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THE DETAILS:

Background Information:

Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help! We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help.

What you can do:

If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 2 hour to complete. Later, you’ll have a chance to complete follow-up questionnaires over a 12 month period. Although the first session is long, the follow-up questionnaires are shorter, and usually take on 30 to 90 minutes to complete.

Who can participate:

We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.You must be at least 16 years old to participate.

What’s in it for you:

Participants who complete the questionnaires will receive a $10 (Canadian currency) gift certificate each time you complete the questionnaires (from amazon.com or PayPal). In addition, you will receive a $25 bonus if you complete all five follow-ups in the first year! Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

Important Information:

This study is the second phase of this line of research, and builds on the previous study. If you have already participated in our research (in a study called “Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury”), you are still eligible to complete this study.

Please contact us at perl@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)
Simon Fraser University
Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6
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distraction tips [29 Nov 2010|04:26pm]
potterfreak1
When you are triggered the best thing to try and do is ground yourself by doing activities such as the ones on this list:

1. breathe slowly and deeply. In for 5 seconds. Hold for 5 seconds. Out for 5 seconds. and keep repeating it over and over.

2. Use your 5 senses. Smell 5 things where you are now. Taste 5 things. Hear 5 things. See 5 things. Touch 5 things. BUT if one of the senses is what triggered you don't use that sense, skip over it and use another one twice.

3. Call someone you trust, like a friend or your T

4. Write in a journal

5. Draw

6. Change your scenery. If you are outside go inside and visa versa.

7. Write poetry or a story

8. Read a book

9. Play video games

10. Write a letter to someone who hurt you. Then crumple it up and throw it away. Put all the thoughts down on paper as if you would show the person but tear it up and never show them. That is a way for you to get it out.

11. Go for a walk or jog. Be mindful, look at your surroundings and feel the sun, rain, snow, hot, cold.

12. Hold ice in your hand. The cold will snap you back to the present and wont leave any marks

13. Snap a rubber band against your wrist. Once again it will bring you back to the present.

14. Repeat phrases such as "I am safe now" "It's over" "It's just a memory"

15. If you have a pet like a dog or cat pet them, brush them, hug them. Pets hold unconditional love for their owners and are amazing at making people feel better.

Add your own to this list...

http://selfhelp.yuku.com
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Please Help Us Understand Self-harm [24 Oct 2010|10:17pm]
perl_sfu
 Hello again from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm? We are currently recruiting participants for the second phase of our research on self-harm, and we want your help! Participating in the study takes 2 hours, and you will receive an online gift certificate worth $5 CAD for each time point you complete, plus a chance for a $25 bonus if you complete all the follow-ups over one year for a total of $50.

If you are interested in participating, please email us at emotion@sfu.ca. All your information will be kept confidential, and no identifying information is linked to your responses.


**************************************************************
THE DETAILS:

Background Information:

Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help! We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help.

What you can do:

If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 2 hour to complete. Later, you’ll have a chance to complete follow-up questionnaires over a 12 month period. Although the first session is long, the follow-up questionnaires are shorter, and usually take on 30 to 90 minutes to complete.

Who can participate:

We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.You must be at least 16 years old to participate.

What’s in it for you:

Participants who complete the questionnaires will receive a $5 (Canadian currency) gift certificate each time you complete the questionnaires (from amazon.com or PayPal). In addition, you will receive a $25 bonus if you complete all five follow-ups in the first year! Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

Important Information:

This study is the second phase of this line of research, and builds on the previous study. If you have already participated in our research (in a study called “Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury”), you are still eligible to complete this study.

Please contact us at emotion@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)
Simon Fraser University
Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6
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[13 Oct 2010|08:09am]

die2beperfect

There are nails in my head

There are claws in my heart

There's a hole in my being

That's falling apart

There's a light in my soul

And there's hope in my mind

There's a tiny voice begging

To be left behind

There's a ribcage that's heaving

There's a whole mass of bone

But there really is nothing

I can call my own

There's a path to forgiveness

But it's too hard to tread

And the weight of contrition

Is heavy as lead

So I dance on the ceiling

And I wave with my head

I might as well live life -

I'll so soon be dead.
 


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[07 Aug 2010|07:30am]

die2beperfect
[ mood | tired ]

Okay so its 7.20am and I have not slept a wink.....not even dozed for like 2 minutes!!!! I am so tired right now its unbelievable!! Also for the past week I have just binged and binged and binged. Its like I can't stop!!! I haven't weighed myself because I'm too scared but I'm sure I've gained at least 2 kilos. Its my birthday on Tuesday and I want to feel good for once so I'm hoping to fast until then at least maybe longer if I can get away with it. My life is so crap atm I feel like there is nothing to live for. I wan to cut so badly but I won't....I'm going to stay strong!! I've decided I'm going to get my racer bike back from the repair shop and go for a long cycle. Then I'm going to do some core work and upper body strenghtening as well. I'm going to the movies this evening with my anorexic friend who also self harms so at least I won't have to worry about food around her : ) I am jealous of her though because she is so tiny and she can;t even see it!!!! I wish I could be like her!!!!

Also on another note, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months now and we still haven't had sex. This is because of my reluctance to do so. I'm afraid he will see my scars and freak out but I'm also very insecure about my body. Also I find that sex hurts and I get no pleasure from it. So I'm afraid my boyfriend is going to dump me either because he's not getting any or because I'm crap in bed. This has scared the crap out of me for the last while and I just dunno what to do. Sorry if theres a bit too much info but I feel I needed to get that off m chest! Does anyone know what I should do???

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[29 Jul 2010|12:44pm]

amibarelyalive
Hi.

My name's Sarah, I'm 17 and from the UK.
I've self-harmed (cutting) since I was 13.
I started because of bullying which got me down alot.
I developed depression and an eating disorder.
I started getting help around January time.
Been doing alot better but the Summer hols are getting me down.
(I don't really like being at home and having nothing to do).
Plus, things are worse since my parents found out about everything.
Now they force me to eat 3 meals a day, seven days a week.
I'm hoping to stop cutting by the time I go away to uni.
I want to study Psychology so I can help others like myself.
The last time I cut was this morning =/
I've cut twice this week so far but before that it had been 3 weeks.

XxX
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Please Help Researchers Understand Self-harm [27 Jul 2010|02:36pm]
perl_sfu
Hello again from the Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)!

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm? We are currently recruiting participants for the second phase of our research on self-harm, and we want your help! Participating in the study takes only 90 minutes, and you will be entered into a draw to win one of five prizes of $150 CAD. If you are interested, please email us at chapman_lab@sfu.ca. All your information will be kept confidential, and no identifying information is linked to your responses.

**************************************************************
THE DETAILS:

Background Information: Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help! We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help.

What you can do: If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 90 minutes to complete.

Who can participate: We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), AND those who have self-harmed in the past and quit.

What’s in it for you: Participants who complete the questionnaires will be entered in a draw to win one of five prizes of $150 CAD. Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

Important Information: This study is the second phase of this line of research, and builds on the previous study. If you have already participated in our research (in a study called “Characteristics Associated with Self-Injury”), you are still eligible to complete this study.


Please contact us at chapman_lab@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

Thank you,

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)
Simon Fraser University
Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6
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Volunteers Needed for a Research Study on Self Injury [25 Jul 2010|10:54am]

odu_researcher
Dear LJ Community,
 
The recruitment for our self injury study is now complete.
 
Thank you for your support of our research. Please feel free to email me with any questions you may have.
 
Sincerely,
~Tatyana Kholodkov
Graduate Student
Old Dominion University 
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research [19 Jul 2010|11:55am]

of_unsound_mind
Hello everyone. I'm asking for a little help wiith my research. I have a 33 question questionnaire on self injury. These questions are to aid my research by comparing similarities and differences in attitudes and behaviors of self injurers. The question will be posted below under a cut. Feel free to either post a comment or email it back to me at painfuldreams@yahoo.com All answers will be anonymous and i will not share anything you don't want shared, and this is on a voluntary basis.

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New Cutter [12 Jul 2010|02:39am]

sleepytaco
My name is Rain
I cut for various reasons. I do it because I think I'm fat, because I like the scars, and the feeling, and the blood. Something about cutting makes me feel empowered, makes me feel in control. I don't want to stop, not yet. I just want to relate to someone - it seems all my friends who I used to talk to have abandoned my issue. My best friend used to cut herself, but she doesn't anymore - well, not as much. She wont even talk about it anymore. I just need someone to talk to about it, maybe if I do it will give me a chance to stop.

I used to see a counselor, but I ran out of health insurance, and I have no job or income or anyone to pay for me to go back. I am on my own, I have no money for my anti depressants, and I have nothing left in my life to be proud of.
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I'm new too [06 Jun 2010|07:54pm]

tairadactyl
[ mood | calm ]

 My name is Altaira, i'm 22 married and 5 months pregnant. I'm falling further and further into depression. I'm alone all day, i can't find a job for myself and all of my friends and family have lives and jobs like normal people so i don't see them or hear from them much. I use to be a really bad cutter. My tattoo on my left arm is huge so it covers all the old scars but my right arm does not. When i was in the hospital for a check up my nurse asked me what this huge gash of a scar was on my arm and i told her i use to cut myself. talk about awkward silence. But it made me go back to all the times i spent in my room as a teenager and young adult, comforting myself with music and slicing up my arms till i felt numb enough. I guess i'm lacking security in my life, and stressed so i'm starting to think about how much of a security like feeling i use to have. I know and you all know, self mutilation is not something we should resort to. Its harmful to us aswell as our loved ones. Not to mention i'm pregnant. but still i want to cut so badly. is this so wrong of a desire?

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Audio Blog [31 May 2010|03:42am]

lauralovesnaley
This is another one of my audio blogs.  This time I discuss my recent relapse into self-injury, my opinions on triggers, and how isolation has affected my self-injury.  Nothing I say is too triggering as I don't go into gory detail, but if you're easily triggered this might not be for you.

Audio Blog behind cut...Collapse )

So, what'd you think?
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[03 May 2010|07:32pm]

nevajudgeme
hiiyyyaa , my name is libbby , im new to this community
where to starrtt , ive been self harming since i was 13 i am now 17 , i am diagnosed as depressed buut everyone has given up on trying to help  me , i feeeel like i cant be cured .
my legs aree just scars and now my arms are new cuts and old scars ,
i never wear short sleeves without a cardigan or something , and i dont wear skirts or shorts without dark coloured tights,
i cut everyday!  , if i dont i staart shaking and feel as if i am goign to be sickk ,
, well thats my story sorry to rant on just thought id let you know who i am :) 
xx
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[25 Apr 2010|03:27pm]

20yearssinking
This is a poem about me debating whether or not I should go inpatient again. It's somewhat triggering for cutters. Please tell me what you think of the poem and of whether or not I should go!

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sigh fucked up again [20 Apr 2010|07:36am]

theravensclaw
nothing is even wrong atm yet the urge has been so strong that i slipped up. Its only a little but i'm so angry at myself now. :(
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