1b) If you HAVE NOT met your SO, do you plan to meet soon? Why haven't you met yet? Is money the issue? Have you not told those in your life (parents, siblings, friends)? There are so many different set backs, and we're all aware. What has been the hardest part of being apart so long and not being able to see or touch each other?
Well, I'm going to see Lynds in person for the first time on March 8th, and I could NOT be more stoked. This is the first time because I'm in school and dirt poor, so I have to take what I can get, lol. Quite a few people know about us, including my mom and dad. I know they're not jumping with joy, but they say they're happy because I'm happy, lol.
2) Who was the hardest person to tell your LDR about? Why? How did they react? Are there people who you haven't told yet? What do you think their reaction will be? Elaborate, give examples.
My parents were the hardest people to tell, but that's because we're both girls and not because we live so far away. They're slowly starting to accept it, and being very supportive, which is nice. They're excited to meet Lyndsay in April, my dad is going to Disney with us. I haven't told my best friend Allison yet. It's tough, because we're Southern Baptist and she's a Pastor's kid. I know she loves me and accepts me no matter what, I'm just nervous.
3) What is your favorite love story of all time? It can be from a movie, a book, a tv show, a song, real life... anything. Why is it your favorite? Do you relate to the story in any way?
Oh God, Princess Bride, easily. I love the idea that nothing can come between true love, not even death. I can relate to Buttercup and Westley's distance, but technically she thought he was dead, lol. It's just a beautiful, romantic story, with pirates. :)
4) I know it's unrelated, but what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving? Even if you aren't from the US/don't celebrate, you can still answer ;)
Well, Thanksgiving is past, but I'm Thankful for a lot of things. Lynds, my family and friends...right now I'm REALLY thankful for the grades I've been getting on my tests, lol.
1b) If you HAVE NOT met your SO, do you plan to meet soon? Why haven't you met yet? Is money the issue? Have you not told those in your life (parents, siblings, friends)? There are so many different set backs, and we're all aware. What has been the hardest part of being apart so long and not being able to see or touch each other? We have not met yet. We fell in love too late and while he used to be able to speak to me every night (I used to stay up so late to see him online because the time difference is so huge!) we only now speak to each other occasionally because he is in the army. He does get a 2 weeks vacation, but he won't even be able to use that until he is fully healed which is going to be about 6 months. I am incapable of saving money because the cost of living in California is ridiculous and all of his money is going towards medical bills. I'm hoping he will be able to use the vacation to come out here though. If not, then the plan is him moving out to LA after he is discharged from the army. He has family here, so he will feel at home and be near me!
2) Who was the hardest person to tell your LDR about? Why? How did they react? Are there people who you haven't told yet? What do you think their reaction will be? Elaborate, give examples. I told my most recent boyfriend about Morthewan, it ended up being one of the main reasons we broke up. While Mor and I are so extremely in love we still see other people. I don't believe in preventing him from seeing anyone and I know that our love is so strong no one can get in the way. I havn't told too many other people, just really close friends, or people who I think will understand. It's hard to explain so when I talk about Mor (which I do all the time) to not so close friends I just say "My friend in Israel" but he is so much more!
Morthewan has also told significant others about me. In the end it is usually our significant others who can't handle not being the first person in our lives and leave us. It's all good though, I have Mor and I don't need anyone else although sometimes it gets lonely.
3) What is your favorite love story of all time? It can be from a movie, a book, a tv show, a song, real life... anything. Why is it your favorite? Do you relate to the story in any way? Aaah, I'm not sure if anyone here will know it, but I absolutely *LOVE* Narn i Hun Hurin. It's elvish for The Tale of the Children of Hurin which is a story Tolkien wrote and Christopher Tolkien released the notes/unfinished stories for books like The Silmarillion, Unfinished Tales etc. Think Oedipus Rex meets Romeo and Juliet. Turin, the main character falls in love with his sister unknowning that it is his sister and then they have a very Romeo and Juliet type ending when they find out the truth. It is the most tragically sad and lovely thing I have ever read in my entire life. I reccomend it for everyone. I definitely relate to their love and their loss.
4) I know it's unrelated, but what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving? I had to work on Thanksgiving, but work did cater us and the food was really awesome, so I suppose I am thankful for the food, haha.
1a) I've never been the sort of person who gets the jitters about something until just before it happens. I packed, I got on the flight, I rode on a plane for over 20 hours. It wasn't until I was in the hotel, counting the minutes that I wanted to call it all off. The best advice I can give is to let your nervousness bring you closer. He or she is likely just as scared as you - when Tom and I met, before we said a word, we hugged and shivered for a good long while.
Other than that, have faith. It doesn't have to work right away. You're in a new situation with this person, face-to-face for the first time. It's going to be different, regardless of how long you've known eachother. Don't worry if things start slow or are awkward. Give it time.
2) For five years I kept my relationship a secret from all but my sister and a few close friends. When I became ill and was in the hospital for two months, I decided it was time to come clean. I knew my mom would be most supportive, so I went to her and she suggested that when I get better we go to visit him.
The last person to know was my father - he had no idea until I had gotten back from the trip. He has reacted better than I could have hoped, but he is still skeptical of us. Nonetheless, he is going to tolerate Tom while he stays at my mom's house this winter.
3) It's a tie between two. First, Serendipity. The movie is about two people who meet by chance and leave their relationship up to fate. The man finds the business card that the woman set free in a used book, years later, and begins to search for her. It's a story of hope and faith, believing that things happen for a reason and that everything will be okay.
Second, A Walk To Remember. Typical popular boy falls in love with a free-spirited girl and does remarkable things to win her over. When she begins to lose the battle with her leukemia, he marries her. I think everyone would like that to happen, if they were in the same position.
Also, Fools Rush In with a close third.
4) I'm thankful for my health - it's been a long battle; I'm thankful for the supportive family I have and that we're doing our best to make a tough situation work, and I'm thankful for Tom, my guiding light, my best friend, partner and soulmate. <3
1a) If you HAVE met your SO, what advice would you give to someone who is meeting theirs? Meeting a loved one for the first time can be very scary. Did you do anything to relax that you think would help? Did you panic and wish you hadn't? How did your meet go? My main piece of advice is to RELAX. Don't panic! I was scared to DEATH about meeting my boyfriend for the first time. I was extremely self-conscious and thinking of the absolute worst. I think it's important to wait until you know you're ready to meet before doing it, though. I think it was extremely important for Matt and I to hold off on meeting for a few years because although it was very painful at times, it let us get to know each other very well so the initial panic after meeting didn't last too long. I do wish I was more relaxed meeting, but mostly because I felt like I was going to throw up for the first week thanks to nerves and because it just made the whole thing more stressful. My meeting was AMAZING. So if you're scared just try to chill ;) It'll be fantastic!
2) Who was the hardest person to tell your LDR about? Why? How did they react? Are there people who you haven't told yet? What do you think their reaction will be? Elaborate, give examples. Oh my god, telling my mom was the scariest thing ever. I really don't know what made it so hard because my mom has plenty of friends online, but just the thought that she might not approve was awful. She told me she had already figured it out on my own, and so long as I was happy, she was too. My dad found out on his own too, and he made that clear to me. I DID hold off on telling him though. It was scarier to tell my dad than my mom because he had always been very scared of the internet and my interaction with people on it. He was always so paranoid I'd run away or something silly like that. People always ask me where I met him because I make the distance part pretty clear. I still can't come out and say "the internet" because I have no idea what they'll think. I tell them we met through a mutual friend, which IS true.
3) What is your favorite love story of all time? It can be from a movie, a book, a tv show, a song, real life... anything. Why is it your favorite? Do you relate to the story in any way? CORY AND TOPANGA. Haha I kind of love Boy Meets World more than anything ever which is part of the reason I love it the most, but it's also because they've gone through so so much and managed to be the happiest couple ever in the end. It's good to see couples struggle through things and come out on top in the end ;). I guess I kind of relate, because this whole distance deal IS a big struggle sometimes, but in the end with love and strength, we can all overpower it. I feel like I've done a lot for my relationship and have gotten over so much. It makes me proud :).
4) I know it's unrelated, but what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving? Even if you aren't from the US/don't celebrate, you can still answer ;) I'm thankful for everyone who loves me :) I'm very thankful for my baby boy and what he's given me despite our distance. I'm thankful for the charity I gave to today, and all those that I've ever given to. I'm thankful for the red cross and that I have the ability to give blood to them. I'm VERY thankful for my life and health. I'm also thankful for all you guys ;)