February 25th, 2007

Arwen/Aragorn-One Love
  • joykinz

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Your name: Joy
Age: 21
Location: Orange County, California
Your significant other's name: Eldor (I call him Morethwan)
Their age: 19 (almost 20!)
Their location: Israel
How long have you been together? We have known each other for about 5 years and have been in love for about 3 of those years.
Have you met in person? Not yet. Because he is an Israeli citizen he has to serve in the army and until he is free from the army we won't be able to meet. He has another 17 months to go.
Are you in a long distance relationship at the moment? No. We are in love, but since we know nothing is going to happen anytime soon we both see other people, even know we know that in the end we will be together.
Before you got involved in this relationship, what did you think of online love? I always thought it was silly and impossible, but I have been proven wrong.
Are you in love? If so, when do you think it happened? Yeah, I am. I slowly feel in love with him the more I got to know him. Apparently he loved me too, but neither of us wanted to say anything because it all seemed kind of ridiculous since we live so far apart. We finally admited it to each other about 3 years ago.
What are some of your hobbies? I perform the Rocky Horror Picture Show (Janet) and write. I mostly write and read in the Tolkien fandom which is how we met.
What are some of your significant other's hobbies? He likes to shoot things. Haha. He also writes really amazing..well, everything, but the poems are my favorite.
What kinds of things do you both have in common/like to do together? We don't get to spend much time together because his internet access is limited. We only talk once in a blue moon, but we write to each other constantly. We used to write Tolkien fanfiction together, but it has since stopped due to the whole army thing.
Write a brief summary of how you met (if it's long, put it under an lj-cut): Myself and two good online friends were the moderators of a Tolkien online roleplaying game. He auditioned for Feanor with this really amazing piece. He joined the game and I decided to pick up Nerdanel (Feanor's wife in the Tolkien stories) to play off of his Feanor. We got to know each other a lot better that way and we slowly fell in love. 

Unfortunately Mor was recently almost killed by a grenade (thank god he is still alive!). He is in the hospital with a collapsed lung, 200+ pieces of metal all over his body and other such internal organ damage. He just had his first of 3 or 4 surgeries and is due for the rest of them over the next week. The doctors say he will live, but I still can't help but be a fretting worried mess. After he is fully recovered (they say 6 months) he still has to go back to the army and finish out his time. There would still be the possibility of another grenade and the possibility of him not being so lucky this time. I don't know if I could live with myself if he died and I never even had the chance to kiss him and tell him how much I love him. 

I suppose I just needed someone(s) to listen as my friends just don't get it.
Farscape-Galaxies Apart
  • joykinz

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1b) If you HAVE NOT met your SO, do you plan to meet soon? Why haven't you met yet? Is money the issue? Have you not told those in your life (parents, siblings, friends)? There are so many different set backs, and we're all aware. What has been the hardest part of being apart so long and not being able to see or touch each other? We have not met yet. We fell in love too late and while he used to be able to speak to me every night (I used to stay up so late to see him online because the time difference is so huge!) we only now speak to each other occasionally because he is in the army. He does get a 2 weeks vacation, but he won't even be able to use that until he is fully healed which is going to be about 6 months. I am incapable of saving money because the cost of living in California is ridiculous and all of his money is going towards medical bills. I'm hoping he will be able to use the vacation to come out here though. If not, then the plan is him moving out to LA after he is discharged from the army. He has family here, so he will feel at home and be near me!

2) Who was the hardest person to tell your LDR about? Why? How did they react? Are there people who you haven't told yet? What do you think their reaction will be? Elaborate, give examples. I told my most recent boyfriend about Morthewan, it ended up being one of the main reasons we broke up. While Mor and I are so extremely in love we still see other people. I don't believe in preventing him from seeing anyone and I know that our love is so strong no one can get in the way. I havn't told too many other people, just really close friends, or people who I think will understand. It's hard to explain so when I talk about Mor (which I do all the time) to not so close friends I just say "My friend in Israel" but he is so much more!

Morthewan has also told significant others about me. In the end it is usually our significant others who can't handle not being the first person in our lives and leave us. It's all good though, I have Mor and I don't need anyone else although sometimes it gets lonely.

3) What is your favorite love story of all time? It can be from a movie, a book, a tv show, a song, real life... anything. Why is it your favorite? Do you relate to the story in any way? Aaah, I'm not sure if anyone here will know it, but I absolutely *LOVE* Narn i Hun Hurin. It's elvish for The Tale of the Children of Hurin which is a story Tolkien wrote and Christopher Tolkien released the notes/unfinished stories for books like The Silmarillion, Unfinished Tales etc. Think Oedipus Rex meets Romeo and Juliet. Turin, the main character falls in love with his sister unknowning that it is his sister and then they have a very Romeo and Juliet type ending when they find out the truth. It is the most tragically sad and lovely thing I have ever read in my entire life. I reccomend it for everyone. I definitely relate to their love and their loss.

4) I know it's unrelated, but what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving? I had to work on Thanksgiving, but work did cater us and the food was really awesome, so I suppose I am thankful for the food, haha.