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  • tc_lmt

Anybody get the license plate of that truck?

I am so damn tired!

Hubby had to get up early to be in Skaneatles for a news TV spot and I barely stirred when he kissed me goodbye. Yesterday was a long work day for me. I had 5 clients scheduled, one of which was an iffy new male client, so of course I was nervous about him. He ended up a no-show and I was way too relieved about it. My boss and I are discussing looking into the legals on me refusing any new male clients. He said he thinks there's a clause that allows you to only except male clients that have a direct referral from a current client. It also allows you to grandfather in any other male clients that you've already seen. I need to look into this. The only problem I forsee with this is that since our staff only consists of me and my male boss at the moment, so if we have a new couple coming in for side-by-side massage I'm not sure how we can handle that one legally.

My boss also told me he tried to look the male client up on google by his phone number, but he's apparently unlisted. He had been reading that a lot of MTs are doing this now to try to get an idea of who they're dealing with, for security purposes. I had never heard of this before. I do like the idea, though.

Anyway, as I said the male client didn't show, but I still did 4 hours of massage yesterday and then the Hubby and I went to the mall to pick up some prescriptions for him. We didn't get home until around 7pm and by then I was just done. I could barely pull myself out of bed this morning. I guess it's time to step up my work outs so I'm ready for the Holiday season.

sensual massage

Today I got a phone call from a guy who moved here from the East Coast (I'm listed in the phone book)
The conversation ensued in a 30 minute debate. He began the conversation with telling me how liberal massage therapists are on the East Coast and was looking for someone like that out here in Utah.  

I asked him exactly what it was he was looking for - he said a situation where there was no draping and where the therapist didnt leave any part of the body out of the massage, as it is very professional to treat the whole person.  lol *cough* okay, I said, I don't know about the laws on the East Coast - but I do know that in Utah, that is illegal and is concisidered prostitution, he debated with me on that  issue for a while, then asked if I knew anyone who was more "liberal" in these matters..  I pointed him in the direction in Vegas, and told him to ask for a "happy ending"

He said that wasn't what he was looking for.  I explained to him that there are laws and regulations that under my licensure I am required to follow, and just as a point of concideration, that he should be careful when seeking out theses types of massages here..(easy answer out I suppose) .... I purposly left out that I have  many clients whom draping isn't an issue, as they are there for therapuetic reasons, not for anything sexual. Nudity isn't an issue, its the intention that is the issue..  but we have had a working trusting relationship for years. I even have some clients that prefer Esalen style (sorry spell?) where both client and therapist are nude- I have taught sensual couples massages too in a private trade-like situation.  I am not conservative in any manner, I am just very careful in what I will and wont do - I left out that I have provided many a sensual massages, but never sexual, I would never cross that line with a client.  

I told him that I was about the least conservative therapist where I live that didn't border on prostitution, but that I didn't feel i could meet his needs.  I told him I love massage therapy and would be devastated if I were unable to practice massage therapy anymore, therefore, I must abide by the states laws...

Does anyone else have to deal with this? if you do, how do you deal with it?
  • ajayne


How do you build your client base? Do you advertise in newspapers/online or do you do referrals? Do you ind marketing yourself hard to do?

I am horrible at marketing. I work out of my home for the most part (and in a salon in San Francisco whenever there's work, but that's another story.) and I am weary about letting just anyone into my home. I like to have some sort of connection to the person who gets a massage. I have had good luck advertising at Curves. (They are actually the group I want as clients... women.)

How do you handle the "raised eyebrow" response when you tell someone you're a massage therapist? Have you refrained from using "masseuse"?

Oh, and do you prefer working on men or women... or does it not matter to you?

(Like a dork I posted this in my journal by mistake instead of in here...hehe)