I am concerned about our situation, and would like input from you ladies/guys. My husband quit his job about a month ago. It was a cooking job at a bar that was giving him a lot of stress. He was putting in 60 hours without days off, and having to split his shift very often. We decided together that he should quit. In that time, he's been looking for a new job, but not having much luck. He's burnt out on cooking, and wants to find something that pays more.
What we're not agreeing on: I say that he should find a job to 'tide him over' until he finds something better, so we have his income. He says that he doesn't want to keep jumping from job to job, because it will look bad on a resume. (He worked at a country club that kept cutting his hours, then went to an Italian restaurant for a few months and quit to move closer to me, then was out of work for a while, then started working at the bar in October, quitting at the end of January). There are reasons why he quit the places, and why he couldn't get a job for a while. Now, he's able to get a job (he was finally able to get a state-issued ID), but it feels like he's holding out for a great job to just fall into his lap.
I understand that employers may frown upon his spotty work history from the last year, but I am in charge of the finances, and it's starting to get difficult. We have a comfortable living, because I'm working two jobs. I originally started working two jobs so I could pay down my debt with the money from the second job, and have less to worry about. Now my two jobs are keeping us afloat, while the debt that I owe is barely getting paid down.
I'm just a little resentful that I have to work so much now, and I can't quit even if I wanted to (which I do, because I'm getting burnt out). It feels like we're at a standstill, and nothing is going to get resolved soon. I've been looking for a different second job, so I keep an eye out for jobs for him. He has been inquiring about jobs, but not really getting responses back. He's been looking to get into a newer (to him) field, which isn't helping, either. School is kind of out since we aren't able to get him school loans (since I'm going back in August).
Which is more ideal?
Working a crappy job while looking for a better one.
Looking for a job full time.
Other (please comment).
And don't think of him a bum, because he's definitely not. While he's been home, he keeps the house (mostly) clean, does dishes, laundry, and other household chores. I appreciate it very, very much, but it's not bringing in income. We plan to have kids in which he'll stay at home to take care of them, but that's not going to happen any time soon. I want to finally go on our honeymoon at the end of the year, but that won't happen unless he gets a job so we can save up for that, too. Sorry to ramble, but I feel better getting this off my chest, and hopefully hearing from people who have been there.