Mikaboo (mikaboo) wrote in _marriedlife_,

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Career students vs. family planning

My husband and I have been married almost two years, and we are both in undergraduate programs. Since we are not the typical age for undergrads (I'm 28 and he's 34), we will have the difficult task of deciding when is the "least inconvenient" time to start a family. My husband will finish his BSc in Computer Science at the end of next year, however I have a full year (Psych major/Criminology minor) to go after that. He plans on getting a master's degree. I do as well, but because of the program I'm involved in, I pretty much have to get a Ph.D. before I can do anything worth while with my degree.

I'm wondering if any of you guys have had experiences with having children while in grad/PhD programs?

I know a few people who do this IRL, and I see quite a few families on campus, but I don't know any of them well enough to ask how they deal day to day. Ideally it would be awesome to wait to have kids until we are finished school completely, but I don't see that as realistic. Though I'm set on having kids in our lives no matter how we run across them (biological, adopted, fostered, being the cool aunt/uncle).

Also, as a side question... Is there anyone here who has a job where you deal with violent people? My main career goal involves either studying or dealing with violent offenders and I'm interested in how people deal with their work so it doesn't interfere with family life.

(Clearly this post is brought to you by "I want to do anything BUT study")

*edit* I want to thank all of you for the awesome comments! I will try to respond to all tomorrow. I didn't think I would get this much of a response!
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