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Tue, Sep. 15th, 2009, 01:06 am
fleakfragfry: this confusion

My wife and I don't believe in gender. Not really. Sometimes it seems like the whole world is so hung up on gender, so afraid of their own sexuality. We both have this insatiable desire for personal/sexual expression, but in this society, that tends to translate into apprehension, fear, and antisocial behavior. Way back in the stoneage (remember the 90's?) there was this freak badge of honor many of us loved to wear. Turns out all those freaky kids were really just a bunch of squares. And to tell the truth, I'm tired of feeling like a freak. I'm not a freak. I'm just a human who has an understanding of my own primal nature. Or some bullshit like that. Not to get all serious, I mean, I don't really take myself all that seriously, and I certainly can't call myself gay, or straight, or trans, and lately I don't even feel comfortable calling myself queer. I used to say I was a dike, but that's not right either. I don't wanna call myself anything. I don't want to call you anything either. Does this frustrate anyone else? If there's safety in numbers, is there any hope for our sense of security and acceptance?

Mon, Oct. 19th, 2009 01:06 am (UTC)

I really appreciate that. And it's true, ever since getting together with my wife, I don't feel like a freak anymore. Not even "I'm a freak, and proud!" I just don't feel freakish at all. The only thing missing is a small group of people to have drinks with, that sort of thing. I'm not actively searching or anything, I'm just sort of saying it would be nice to see more people out there who DON'T subscribe to some gender based view of normalcy. You, for instance, seem to be cool as shit, right on our level. Why can't there be more people like you? Obviously not just like you, or just like me, but with a similar outlook on how people connect. We're social creatures, and communion with others is almost as important as our most basic needs. Granted, I'm extremely lucky to have my wife. She makes me feel like my gender doesn't matter at all. But hey, as totally awesome as I am, believe it or not (I know it's a lot to swallow) but... yes, it is possible to get sick of me. No, no, don't argue, I know I'm great and all, but still....LOL. In other words, it can still get lonely just the two of us. But not in any dramatic way. Just a sort of vague feeling. Thanks for the support.

Tue, Mar. 9th, 2010 09:58 am (UTC)

Yes, you're not a freak, and not even "in-between." You're you, completely, whether or not there are "words for it"!