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About: So I decided to make a community for giving advice. Am I good at it? Maybe. I just like to help people. So, if you have a question or a problem, post it here. I specialize in Christian advice and what I like to call "common sense" advice, but mainly I will try to be very honest and straight up with you in helping you out. So, ask away!

A little bit about me:
I'm Lynsie
I'm 19
I go to college
I'm a Christian
I'm the cofounder of Rockethical.com

Why should you trust me for advice? I'm honest
I'm straightforward; I tell it like it is
I've got a bit of experience
Although I may not always use it, I have a great deal of common sense You don't know me, I don't know you, we don't have to worry about first impressions or judgement or anything like that

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[Tuesday, February 27th, 2007 @ 10:55pm]
Hey..Maybe a stupid quesiton, but I've been wondering -

how do you define love?
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help [Saturday, August 13th, 2005 @ 2:41am]

[ mood | depressed ]

i don't know what up with me latly. for thoughs how don't know i broke up with with my girl friend about 3 months ago. we where to gether for about 1 year. now the reason we broke up is, she had a lot of dreams when we started to date and i suported of that i love her and was will to do anything to git her to see her dreams. But at the last 2 to 3 months of our relason ship she started not having thoughs dreams any more so we started to fight she started talk about just staying home and being a house wife and doing nothing with her life. so i came to the fact that the problems was me. so i left her.

but here the proble i think that im still whont her and its ben 3 mounths now and im still sitting around thinking of her i don't know what to do and how to git her out of my mind.

mybe im just a hopeless romatic like that but i would love to just let her go on with her life and have the best of it she can. if that means that im out of so be what ever make her see her dreams.

now thoughs how know me know that im not use to being alone. there gitting sick and tired of me ask thing them for help so now im asking you all to help me out so what do you think i should do i don't whont to back with her i don't whont to hert her like that agin. but i don't know what to do.

I have done more in my life then most ppl my age i have ben in the army whent to war ben marriad, im a liced rock climing teacher, i sky dive, i have had 2 kids but later found out that they where not mine, and ben devorced.

i don't have any more dreams becide finding some one to be with and have kids of my own and have a famly you know. i don't know maybe i just ment to be alone the rest of my life.

all my friends tell me to just be paishont but that easy for them to say they all have some one they care about alot and i set here alone when there all out being with the ones they love.

so give me a coment on what i should do. My ex whont me back should i go back to her and let her go back the whay she was with no dreams or should i whait and pray to find the girl of my dreams.

wech at this reat probly will close to never or what you tell me.

you friend

levi bailey

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all alone [Sunday, August 7th, 2005 @ 3:14am]

[ mood | curious ]

have you ever felt all alone you all know what i mean by that to
like today i felt like if it wornt for my best friend misty i wouldn't have any one to hang with you know

to explain she left to day for a family thing and now that she gone i was all alone none of the ppl i normaly hage with whonted to do any thing or had ether plans
so i have a wered filling they don't hang with me for me the hang whith misty im just normaly there

so i gess soner or later i well find out how my true friends are or do you all think im just being scard and depressed give me you true thouts

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[Monday, April 4th, 2005 @ 12:32pm]

For some reason, I wasn't able to accept a recent post made to this community. Something about not having access to so and so's journal. It just wouldn't post it and therefore I wasn't able to reply to it, so I'm going to post it here (added anonymity!) and reply to it this way. Here is the original post:

"I am a 17 year old female... I have another account... but I am pretty embarrassed of this situation, therefore I will use this account to post anything about my sexuality, or relationship issue. Anyway... I think I like this girl... you might even call it love. I've told her several times how I feel, and she hasn't been shocked. She will tell me that she feels the same way, and what not. But the day after, she will act completely different, and weird about the whole situation. We won't talk for a few days... and then it will be weird when we talk, and eventually the whole thing starts over, where we explain our feelings... it gets weird etc. Currently we are not speaking and I have no clue why. She is always the one that IM's me... and she just doesn't anymore. It's been like 3 weeks... I don't want to be the first to give in, and IM her... I don't want to seem too desperate. Anyhow... when we first started speaking, everytime I'd IM her, she 'had to go' so I never would IM her again. Oh, and what makes this whole thing even more complicated is that she lives in another state. I can't talk to anyone about this situation, because nobody knows that I am bisexual... I actually don't really consider myself bisexual, or straight.. ahh I don't know. Can you tell I am confused??"

And here is my answer:

Yes, I can absolutely tell that you're confused, in fact I think you may be more confused than you think. This can be a kind of tough subject to deal with, so I want you to know that I don't want to sound like I'm judging you. In fact, I'd like to say to all my readers and to everybody that ever submits a question to me, that I do not pass judgement on you, I am not condemning you, I do not look to you as anyone less than a beloved brother or sister in Christ, and I always pray before I respond to your posts that God would bless the entry and give me the right word to say to you that will reveal truth.

With that said, I will continue.

First of all, your situation is very common with both males and females alike, straight, bisexual, or homosexual. Plus, for people your age (including myself since I'm 19), it tends to seem even more complicated. "It" being those feelings for other people which we sometimes define as love. We are sexual beings, and sexuality can be very tricky and confusing to us. But one thing that isn't tricky is what God says about sex. God says that we should abstain from sexual immorality (Acts 15:29, Romans 13:13, etc) and in 1 Corinthians 5:11 we are told to not even associate ourselves with a person who calls themselves a brother or sister in Christ yet falls to such sins as sexual immorality. Sexual immorality includes but is not limited to: premarital sex, incest, adultery, homosexuality (including bisexuality), beastiality, etc. God calls us to keep the marriage bed pure (Hebrews 13:4) and to not give in to these sins. I don't know what your sexual history is, but from what you've written to me I will assume that all you've had are feelings for somebody of the same gender as you are. Although you have not yet physically comitted a sexual sin since they are only thoughts and feelings, the truth is they are not "only" thoughts and feelings, because Jesus told us that even entertaining sinful thoughts and feelings in our minds is just as sinful as actually doing them; when He uses adultery as an example in Matthew 5:28.

But, it is natural for you, and for all of us, to be tempted to do things that God says are wrong. I think quite a bit of us have been tempted with homosexual desires, I certainly have, and I don't know anybody who hasn't been tempted with the "everyday" sexual desires. However, although sin is natural for unbelievers, that doesn’t mean God wants them to remain that way. God can set us free from our sinful nature (Romans 7:23–8:2), give us new desires (Ephesians 4:22–24), and help us withstand temptations (1 Corinthians 10:13).

There are a couple of books I would like to recommend to you which may help you further with things like this. The first is "Not Even a Hint" by Joshua Harris, and the second is "Every Young Woman's Battle" by Shannon Ethridge. I have read them both, and they are very easy to read, the first book was a really quick read, and they offer a lot of really important godly advice. I am a big fan of Joshua Harris, and I like the way Shannon Ethridge writes (she uses a lot of stories and examples from her life and the lives of other young men and women).

You should also pray about this situation on your own, because truthfully, bringing this to God is the one and only surefire way to get this resolved and to clear your confusion. Talk to Him about it, read His Word, and ask for guidance. Remember that Jesus died to cleanse us of all our sins, no matter what they are. If you haven't already, ask Jesus to come into your heart and free you from the weight of sin and to renew your life. You will be amazed at the weight that is lifted off of your shoulders when this happens. Set aside some time in your day to meditate on God's enduring and faithful love for you. It really is amazing. I will keep you in my prayers and I pray that what I've said has helped.
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[Monday, November 22nd, 2004 @ 6:54pm]

So, here's the first post.

A little bit about me:
I'm Lynsie
I'm 19
I go to college
I'm a Christian
I'm the cofounder of Rockethical.com

Why should you trust me for advice?
I'm honest
I'm straightforward; I tell it like it is
I've got a bit of experience
Although I may not always use it, I have a great deal of common sense
You don't know me, I don't know you, we don't have to worry about first impressions or judgement or anything like that

check out the userinfo page for a little bit more information.
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