Nicolai ([info]nikikikiii) wrote in [info]wow_ladies,
@ 2007-12-03 16:21:00
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wow xmas gifts
Ok so for Christmas my boyfriend wants a new monitor. I already have a great one in mind for a very reasonably price, so that's fine. I have a great part time job of teaching swim lessons, so I have no problem paying for an expensive gift for someone I care about. He, however, does not have a job and therefore little money to speak of for buying gifts. Instead he has lots of time. Time that can be put towards WoW.

So what did I ask for?
An epic flying mount.

I don't currently have the time to farm one at the present time (tough semester) and he does. He doesn't have a job to make money, but I do. Seems logical, right?

Now my concern is that that a lot of my friends are telling me this is totally lame for two reasons:
a) the gifts should either both be in game or RL
b) this makes me seem like I'm not leet enough to farm my own mount

So is this completely lame and put me "in the same league as the epic mount chick" as one of my guildies harshly put it?
D:


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[info]moober
2007-12-03 09:39 pm UTC (link)
Um, if it works for you, then I wouldn't give a flying flip what anyone else thinks. I think you're both going to get something that makes you each happy, and isn't that the main idea of gift-giving?

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 09:42 pm UTC (link)
yeah that's what my thought was, so I was shocked when I received negative feedback from guild mates and such.

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[info]skirmishgirl
2007-12-03 09:42 pm UTC (link)
Bah. Your friends are worried that he's somehow taking advantage of you by not getting you a real life gift. But, if you know he has no money to get you something, and there's something he CAN get you, for free, that you want, then why on earth isn't it an acceptable xmas gift? I see it as this:

1) it's none of your friends business how you choose to give and receive gifts for the holidays
2) you're asking for something you want, that's within your bf's power to obtain for you
3) gift giving doesn't have to mean you get the Tiffany blue box with a bow. Gift giving is all about love, and everyone knows that the amount of time your bf will spend getting you an epic mount is far and away longer than it's going to take you to order him a monitor.

Tell your friends to buzz off, and do what makes YOU and your bf happy for the holidays.

Otherwise, I see Matchbox cars in your future.

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[info]q_bomb79
2007-12-03 11:17 pm UTC (link)
exactly. For my birthday last year my BF (now husband) farmed me a little green whelpling...I still <3 it to this day.

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[info]yunalala
2007-12-03 09:47 pm UTC (link)
i see absolutely nothing wrong with this. since when does a gift have to be something monetarily gained.*stupid overcomercialization*

Hes giving you something you wan tand will enjoy, isnt that what a gift is about?


and as for the guildie that said that epic mount chick comment, all i can say is that is over the line and they must be jealous or something

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 11:45 pm UTC (link)
thanks, and yes that guy tends to be the guild jerk. You can try ignoring people like him, but their comments still sting sometimes.

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[info]eloren
2007-12-03 09:48 pm UTC (link)
If it works for both of you, what's the issue? I think it would be super to get a Firefly for Christmas. Hmmm, I wonder how much hinting that will take to achieve? I'm also the kind of girl who suggested to my hubby that I wanted Legos for Christmas. For me. But really...look at him!

http://www.allaboardtoys.com/lego/creator/lego_creator_mythical_creatures.asp

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[info]skirmishgirl
2007-12-03 09:58 pm UTC (link)
Well, yeah. How can you NOT ask for that for xmas?!

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[info]titaniumdiva
2007-12-03 09:52 pm UTC (link)
I think you and your bf should do whatever makes the two of you happy. Who cares what anyone else thinks?!

It's not lame at all. I think it's a sign of a good relationship.

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-04 01:55 am UTC (link)
awww thanks :)

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[info]onethirty
2007-12-03 09:53 pm UTC (link)
You have the money to spend on a nice out-of-game gift.
He has the money/time to spend on a nice in-game gift.

I don't really see anything wrong with it, and if he's okay with it as well.. hang what other people think.

If you're worried at all about the in-game/out-of-game reciprocity, maybe he could do something like make you dinner (out-of-game) and you could do something really thoughtful for him in-game (spend an hour or so farming buff food or something he needs/wants, get a mechanical squirrel made for him if he's non-combat pet inclined, etc.)

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 11:37 pm UTC (link)
oh! that's a great idea!

he mentioned he wanted some spicy hot talbuk for his rogue and maybe he can get me a spicy chicken combo :P

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[info]sventhelost
2007-12-03 09:54 pm UTC (link)
Would it be lame if he spent the time to make you something by hand, rather than buying it? No. I think it's sweet. You're both expressing your love for each other. The money you're spending is from your time working. His present to you will be from the time he spends working. In the end, you're giving each other some of the time you might otherwise spend on yourselves, and that's the important thing.

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[info]karen_hm
2007-12-03 09:58 pm UTC (link)
I think it's a fine idea! If I had a boyfriend who could do that for me, I'd ask for it too. But I don't... *Sob* XD Ignore what your guild mates said.

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[info]natlet
2007-12-03 09:58 pm UTC (link)
Chiming in with everyone else - if it works for you guys, and you're both happy with it, do it, and tell the naysayers to bugger off! Gifting is about the love and not the money spent anyway, and if you guys are happy that's all that counts.

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[info]jumpinjessflash
2007-12-03 10:01 pm UTC (link)
It makes perfect sense to me, and I can't imagine why your friends would say crap like that to you about it. I agree with all the above comments.

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[info]sapphybelle
2007-12-03 10:03 pm UTC (link)
I agree with everyone else here... its your business and nobody else's what you get each other for Christmas. I think it's sweet, btw.

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[info]indigo_tide
2007-12-03 10:03 pm UTC (link)
I think it's fine. He's your boyfriend, doesn't matter what the guild thinks. What it comes down to is that he has to spend time and effort to do this for you, just like you spending time in the pool teaching lessons that allow you to buy the monitor for him. I don't think it's a bad idea at all.

It's the effort behind it. My ex was big on not buying me anything for things like Valentine's Day (!!!) and my birthday because "He didn't know what to get me." If he had made effort to do anything, dinner, a drawing, whatever, I might not have been so hurt when these things happened, nor be single at this time :P He never did understand the "where there's a will there's a way" kind of thing. meh.

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[info]k_wedge
2007-12-03 10:17 pm UTC (link)
God, boys are so clueless sometimes. *rolls eyes*

< /sexism>

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[info]power_puffs_lab
2007-12-03 10:03 pm UTC (link)
I think it's great. You are each getting each other something that is thoughtful and fits within your means (time/money as you can).

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[info]dragnblak
2007-12-03 10:10 pm UTC (link)
Makes perfect sense to me. I don't even see how they can compare you to epic mount chick as you're not whoring yourself for it (literally OR metaphorically). Are they whining because you'll be spending money and he'll be spending time? Just tell your friends what the goblins say: "Time is money, friend!" ;) In fact, this gives me an idea of something to get for my sweetie... hmmm...

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-04 03:50 am UTC (link)
hehehe, I do believe that is the perfect retort.
thanks a bunch, I defiantly plan to use it :D

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[info]kardoth
2007-12-03 10:13 pm UTC (link)
I think it's a great idea and I might steal it. I'm a SAHM and my husband works so it's hard to sneak a gift in without him noticing the money that was spent.

If it works for you guys, awesome. Your guildies need to butt out.=D

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 10:56 pm UTC (link)
hehe, yeah I thought this was a clever solution. If your husband is super busy and doesn't have the time or patience to farm it, I assure you that he will be thrilled to get one.

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[info]hellbait
2007-12-03 10:18 pm UTC (link)
I know it's the total cliche but it really is that thought that counts. If it works for you that he's putting time and effort into getting you a flying mount since he can't really afford to get you anything else -- then I say that's the perfect gift :D

Though I may be slightly biased since I'm less than able to buy good rl gifts this year ^^;;

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[info]clevermynnie
2007-12-03 10:30 pm UTC (link)
I agree with everybody else; if it's what you want, of course it's a good present! I only recently got my epic flying mount, and it was so much time and boring dailies and scrimping... in short, such a huge pain in the ass, that I think it's the best present you can give someone in WoW. It's like he's giving all that grinding time to spend on more fun in-game stuff. Seriously, it's such a good present.

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[info]lougara
2007-12-03 10:38 pm UTC (link)
i say it's a wonderful idea- if my bf bought me an epic flying mount or the training I'd love him forever- the most gold i've EVER had was 1200, and that was because i got lucky and sold a firefly for 1k on the AH.

your guildies need to QFT.

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-04 03:25 am UTC (link)
Yeah, I was able to save 1k for my snowy griffin, but after that I could never really make it past 900g (farming and raiding do not mix well). I ended up loaning 700g to the bf for his epic flyer, so he still owes me for that. I guess my interest rates are pretty nasty, huh? :P

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[info]yueni
2007-12-03 10:47 pm UTC (link)
I totally agree with everybody else. Why should you care what your guildies think? They're not in this relationship. You and your boyfriend are! If this works for you guys, then do it. Giving gifts is not always about the money spent.

I personally think that this is a wonderful way to give gifts.

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[info]snowflakelike
2007-12-03 10:54 pm UTC (link)
I think in general, not in all cases and in no way to put down the awesome gift you plan to give him, that spending time on something is wayyy more meaningful than spending money. Of course, it depends also on how much money you have and how much you have to sacrifice to get it, but I think today people are all too much about buying their way out of things.

Now, if he were going to buy you the gold for your mount on ebay, THAT would be so totally uncool.

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 11:08 pm UTC (link)
I completely agree!
time > money

Sadly, all my time is overwhelmed by lots of other things right now so it is something I must ration. Needless to say, wow doesn't get priority over school or work. This being said, I think it makes his gift even more meaningful.

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[info]iwanttobeasleep
2007-12-03 10:59 pm UTC (link)
I think that totally works and don't listen to anything anyone says. It might be lame, but come on, we spend $15 a month for a fake world and many of us spend as much time doing boring shit on it as we do our real jobs, no WoW player has any right to look down on you for being lame.

. . .And I'm kind of worried about what your guildy said. If someone thinks asking for a gift (of any kind) can be compared to prostitution, especially from a boyfriend. . .and you're getting him a gift too. . .

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-03 11:13 pm UTC (link)
haha thanks!

yeah this guy is known for being an ass and specifically targeting me (I think he believes he is "joking" around and "teasing" me, but most of the time I tell him to shut it, but this time I was worried that he might have a valid point.

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[info]surlywench
2007-12-03 11:15 pm UTC (link)
I think that the ONLY two people who get to have a say in how your gift exchange works is THE TWO OF YOU. tell everyone else to go mind their own business and stfu.

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-04 03:42 am UTC (link)
thanks, I agree. :)

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[info]q_bomb79
2007-12-03 11:15 pm UTC (link)
do they seriously think that half the people out there farmed their own money for the flying mount? Darn near everyone I know got at least some help.

You aren't '1337' enough to farm your own money...but you have a job...which is more then a lot of people can say.

I see nothing wrong with asking for that for christmas. Especially if it is something that your boyfriend can easily do for you for christmas without breaking the pocketbook.

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[info]gaederon
2007-12-03 11:56 pm UTC (link)
Just a "Guy" perspective, but... how many hours of your real life are you going to spend to get him a present? I mean, how much is the gift, and how many hours of your life will it cost to earn that much?

Now, how many hours of HIS life is he going to spend to give your your gift?

I think you are both Winners in this exchange!!!

You get the real "expensive" prize... he is going to spend a huge chunk of his life to get you a gift you will use a lot, you will spend a few hours from your busy schedule to get him something he'll use a lot. It's pretty much equal value, if you ask me, but he'll be spending more time on yours cause he can afford the time.

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[info]haut_rian
2007-12-04 03:11 am UTC (link)
I'm glad I came across this, you all have given me really good ideas ^.^ I'm unemployed at the moment (yey for temp work, and being laid off three weeks after starting my first job), and I had been playing to buy my BF a bunch of WoW trading cards, but I never thought of trying to get something in WoW for him :P He's buying me a plane ticket to see him, so I'll have to get some pretty leet stuff, but it gives me hope ^.^

I personally think it works, in the OP's case--you both get something you want, and you're able to show each other just how much you love each other. That's the real point of Christmas and whatnot I think (awwww!). I can understand a little how your BF might feel being unemployed, and trying to think of what to get people, I stress too kinda :(

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[info]nikikikiii
2007-12-04 03:38 am UTC (link)
yeah that is why I recommended it in the first place, I wanted him to feel like he was reciprocating within his means. I see no need to spend lots of money on gifts (I actually do lots of cheap artsy gifts for my friends, be he is in desperate need of a new monitor). To echo what many others have said I believe its the thought that really counts.

If your bf is part way to his 5000g mark, maybe you can give him a "gift certificate" letter with 1000g or something? Or perhaps help out with rep grind of his choice?

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