|
Happy moments for the gender-wise
|
|
|
| Came out at work! |
[Sep. 25th, 2009|09:44 pm] |
Well I officially came out at my day job! I messaged my manager and one of the owners to see if they could chat with me in private. They both agreed and we met in the conference room. I was really really really nervous! I basically said, "I have something I want to tell you. I am transgender, and I am in the middle of physically transitioning." They both had a slight surprise look on their faces, but they also look like they were expecting something like this. They both told me that they are fully supportive, and will help me work with the rest of the staff. They said that if I have any problems with anyone treating me different after we tell them, to come straight to them about the issue.
We talked for about 1/2 hour about things. I started to lay down my plan, and they requested some more resources on how to deal with other employees about this. I felt pretty good about telling them, and I think they took it pretty well. Now I need to tell the HR at my other job, which has about 5 times as many employees. I plan on doing that in the next couple weeks.
Peace Melissa!
x-posted ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) transgender share_good_news |
|
|
| Wrong bathroom! |
[Sep. 16th, 2009|09:10 am] |
Oh my gosh! I am at work and I walked into the mens bathroom, because I present more male at work. This guy who I never seen before looks at me as I was entering and he was exiting and says, "Oh my gosh. I am sorry. I must have went in the wrong bathroom." Then he looked back and saw urinals. I said, "That's alright. It's cool." He gave me a second look and then exited. I was so taken back by it. My hair and face are more feminine in male mode, and I wear girl jeans, tees, and a hoodie. I didn't think I would pass for female, but I for sure thought I would pass for male! I guess I have more of an androgynous look. So whatever gender cues people see first is what they will gender me. I loved the comment from the guy. It has helped my confidence a bit!
Anyways I had to share that because I can't tell anyone here what he said!
x-posted in transgender,share_good_news |
|
|
| I'm out! |
[Aug. 28th, 2009|12:08 am] |
| [ | mood |
| |  relieved | ] |
Tonight, I came out as MTF to the last of my roommates who didn't know. I'm pre-everything, and my roommates are the only people aside from my therapist who know. It's not much, but now for the first time in my life I have a place where I can be myself. ^.^ |
|
|
| Awesome Day Yesterday!! |
[Jul. 14th, 2009|04:19 pm] |
|
I got my T letter yesterday!!! I am still so friggin happy!!!! I knew that my therapist was working on it, but I didn't think that she would have it done yesterday. On top of that excitement, I got a job too and I found a ride for my fiancee to come this weekend so we can celebrate our anniversary and go to our friends' wedding!! |
|
|
| She called me by my name |
[Mar. 22nd, 2009|12:58 pm] |
| [ | mood |
| | grateful | ] |
In the fall of last year, I told my sister I was transitioning. She was the first in my family to find out. After making sure I was being careful medically, she was supportive. But, she avoided using my new name. First she attached to just my middle name, which was more familiar to her. After a few months, I asked her to use either my whole name or just my first name. She didn't say no, she just stopped using any name for me. It seemed strange to me that she could say she was supportive but keep avoiding this. It was really beginning to bother me. Finally this week, she left a voicemail message in which I heard her address me by my name for the first time! |
|
|
| I did it |
[Mar. 21st, 2009|02:03 am] |
So, I've been on hormones for about 14 months, with a 3 month break where I couldn't get a refill.
In that time, I've only done my shot by myself 3 times. The first two, were because I got in fights with my gf (who does my shot normally), and did it out of spite. The 3rd time was yesterday. I did it on my own, just because I wanted to. She was here and willing, but I did it on my own.
I'm pretty scared of needles, but had the hang of it until that 3 month break. Now every shot I've had since then has gone pretty badly. I haven't been able to relax my muscles and stay relaxed. I always flinch/tense when she puts the needle in so it always hurts, and is sore for a few days after. The times I did it on my own I didn't have as much tensing, so I decided to try it own my own again. It went great! No problems at all! I think I may do it on my own from now on.
Had to share. |
|
|
| NO MORE GIRL NAME!! (yay!) |
[Dec. 29th, 2008|12:35 pm] |
| [ | mood |
| | satisfied | ] |
It's official! As of 9 a.m. Central time today, December 29th, my name is now Lucas Martin R*****!NO MORE girl name!! I did the petition, and order, and publication stuff all without an attorney. I feel very accomplished that I knew more about the name change than the JUDGE did! *cheshire cat grin* Oh and I have a serious smirk on my new license! Luc
(x-posted a few places)
I have helped, PRIOR to doing my name change, 5 OTHER guys do their name changes, and ANYONE in Missouri or with a Missouri birth certificate is WELCOME to contact me through my lj email and I will be HAPPY to pass the form and notification and order and publication stuff on to them... |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Sep. 30th, 2008|09:31 am] |
Apparently, yesterday, one of our patients from a couple of years ago was admitted to our unit. At shift change this morning he came to the nurses' station and called out a name. Everybody there started looking around, puzzled: there's nobody here by that name!
He looked at me and called out the name again. I cocked a head at him and said, "I'm sorry, you must have me confused with someone else. My name is Kim," and held up my name badge. He said, "Oh, I'm sorry, miss, you just look a little like someone who used to work here."
It was only then that it hit me that the name he'd been calling had once been mine. |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Feb. 6th, 2008|06:39 pm] |
|
I wore my binder in public today. :) |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Nov. 8th, 2007|11:54 pm] |
This weekend, I got this passed by my political party's Federal Council. I've been working on it for over two years now, starting it from the provincial level, then getting it prioritized at Convention, and then to Federal Council, and it's finally done. It passed unanimously. I'm terribly pleased.
BTW, you may -- especially the Americans, who have been so cruelly disappointed this week -- may be interested to know we're working on this. And we'll keep at it until we get it. It took fifteen years the last time (when we got sexual orientation in there), but we're not ones to cut and run. |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Oct. 22nd, 2007|02:26 pm] |
|
the boy i guess i'm dating, from my last post here, after asking him if he was in fact straight (which he is, for the record) said he'd still be interested if i was a hot guy. awww! |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Oct. 18th, 2007|12:09 pm] |
I got my letter! I got my letter!
I have an appt. tomorrow morning with a doctor who is actually going to prescribe T injections. Long story, but my regular dr. flat out told me last week that she will not help me. And, I thought this new doctor wasn't taking new patients, but lo and behold, she is! I am so excited! I'll probably get my first shot before the end of this month. |
|
|
| First mammogram |
[Sep. 19th, 2007|10:57 am] |
| [ | Current Location |
| | work | ] |
| [ | mood |
| | cheerful | ] |
| [ | music |
| | the computer fan | ] |
Warning for those who tend to plug your ears and go "LA LA LA LA", this may be more than you want to read. So stop here.
I had my first mammogram this morning. It wasn't anything like the horror stories I have heard. Maybe because I am small breasted or just like having my breasts manipulated but the pressure was not all that bad. No pain at all.
Two x-rays were taken of each breast, one from the top and the other at an angle. Nice digital imagery and I got to see the pictures on the screen. The tech had the doctor look at them and the doctor saw a spot on one that was in question so she took a third x-ray of the left. Everything looked OK then and there was no reason to do any ultrasounds while I was there.
I will get the results later from my doctor but I don't expect anything to come up from that. |
|
|
| Messing with people's minds |
[Aug. 8th, 2007|09:48 am] |
| [ | Current Location |
| | work | ] |
| [ | mood |
| |  flirty | ] |
| [ | music |
| | 60's on 6 (XM) | ] |
Another nice encounter last night and another opportunity to mess with someone's mind...
I was doing some running around and as I was coming out of one of the office type stores, I saw someone I knew from a company I used to work for passing by with one of his daughters. I told him that he probably didn't want to go in because of the rush for school supplies currently going on and as he turned back I said to "Take care J******." He looked and looked, trying to figure out if he knew me. I told him that I used to work for S***** and he still looked puzzled. I told him that I was a little different then and after a couple more pauses, finally told him who I used to be.
He kind of registered it and asked how things were. I told him that everything was wonderful. He maintained his cute smile and said that he would never had guessed. Obviously my change from then and now was very drastic and I received very positive vibes from him as he just took me for another woman walking out of the store. We said goodbye and I told him to take care as I walked away somewhat elated that it went well. |
|
|
| airports |
[Jul. 15th, 2007|10:28 am] |
|
I hate flying, I hate airports. Mostly the 2nd. Especially the pat down part. But I had a small victory this trip, in that when I rolled up to the security area, they yelled out "Male check!" and nobody gave me a second glance. Sometimes in the past that has been an issue, but this time it wasn't. |
|
|
| Birth Certificate Amendment |
[Jun. 15th, 2007|12:57 am] |
|
YAY! Today my Birth Certificate Amendmant finally arrived! I have been waiting for this stupid thing forever. OK not forever, but over a year. And it finally got here today. *happy dance* It's not a changed birth certificate or a revised one, it's just a paper that says yes indeed my name is legally changed...so it shows my old name and gender, but it's one tiny step in the right direction! |
|
|
| (no subject) |
[Jun. 7th, 2007|10:18 pm] |
|
A friend from high school asked me which pronouns I go by without prompting on my part. |
|
|
| Whoa... |
[May. 9th, 2007|01:29 pm] |
| [ | music |
| | Bob James - Pure Imagination | ] |
My wife and I were mall-crawling last week, and we decided to get her hair done at her usual place. She usually wears a short, masculine cut, and once she reassured her stylist that yes, she really wanted her hair that short, the two of them started discussing why she wanted her hair that short, and various orientation/gender stuff.
During the discussion, she mentioned that her mate is transitioning (which is cool - she's got my okay to do that), and then pointed me out in the waiting area. I was in total male mode - no makeup, just t-shirt and shorts.
The stylist - bless her heart - asked which way I was going, MtF or FtM.
She. Couldn't. Tell...
I was bouncing off the walls for the rest of the night.
(edited for a lack of clarity and ability to write) |
|
|
| photo op! |
[May. 8th, 2007|09:59 pm] |
People will think this is funny who know my journal or my ftmvanity posts, but today i did something that was hard for me. I did a photo shoot as just me. Not Sister Mischif... not really posing. Just me. In 3 different outfits i actually wear...not costumes... and it was challenging. But really healing and good. I'm proud of myself for being a camera whore :D I don't have any of the pics to share yet... but it felt good
Edit:
Got the pics, posted some to my LJ, some to ftmvanity and as requested, here's one here: |
|
|
| navigation |
| [ |
viewing |
| |
most recent entries |
] |
| [ |
go |
| |
earlier |
] |
| |
|
|
