Denise ([info]clead_fan) wrote in [info]rochester_pride,
@ 2004-10-26 14:40:00
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Apologies

Sorry to everyone who read through the prior post from me and the responses from people...Some people that I had invited to this community took it upon themselves to respond to my invite quite angrily. I guess I posted to someone's personal LJ when I wasn't a friend. They took it personally that I posted and wasn't more "personal" as they call it and decided to call me a spammer because I posted an invite to this rochester community, as a reply, to something they posted on their LJ. Sorry to be considerate and actually invite people, as a community, to talk and get to know other. Sorry to be so inconsiderate and not ask how your family and auntie em are doing....Well, I then got slammed and was told that not everyone needed a community, that some are comfortable in their sexuality. That is fine! I'm very comfortable in mine as a matter a fact. BUT...Some people out there are not, and that is part of my resoning for this, to help others who may be struggling to reach out to others who are comfortable. We have all been there! I was then told by another comrade of this person that my "advertising" was more of a harassment. Now, I sent the same post/aim/e-mail/what have ya, out to everyone...Did anyone else consider my invite a harassment??? My AIM: dafinns5


 


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Hey
[info]brendan_777
2004-10-26 01:13 pm UTC (link)
You were exactly right, Because im one of the people here that is getting support and help.

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Keep It Up Sweetie!!!
[info]amberastro
2004-10-26 01:21 pm UTC (link)
Hey babe! Well, I didn't get one of those "invites" ur talking about obviously since u just had me join (which I thank u for, I have met some awesome ppl already and it hasnt been long since I joined), but I still wanted to write back to u on this.

People are IGNORANT jerks sweetie. You can't help it you happened to offend some random people. Like I told you before, you are EXACTLY what we need in the lgbt community. If I could, I would replicate you a million times and spread you all over the world ;) You are making a HUGE difference in a lot of people's lives right now just by giving them a place to meet people to get to know and familiarize them with lgbt life and allowing them to get comfortable with themselves. And for those of us who are already comfortable can help others get comfortable. So, don't NO MATTER WHAT let people like that get to you. Just keep doing what you're doing; you're doing a great job ;)

And just on a sidenote...I just want to say thank you. With me being where I am and having no support with things like this, you make a HUGE diff in my life every time I talk to you. Just so you know, you have done more emotionally than friends here that I have known for years. You are so easy to talk and so open to listening when I need to talk. So, I want to say thank you for being there for me when I need you to be. You have no idea how much I appreciate it...hope we talk soon, take care doll!! ;)

*~*Amber*~*

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I Broke Down
[info]clead_fan
2004-10-26 01:29 pm UTC (link)
I apologized to the person...I'm a sucker! I talked to my friend and I did infact invade "their space." I mean, I don't think like some others, and some people do get offended and think they're being spammed when they don't know you. So I basically just said, I'm sorry I invaded your space, you jumped on me and I jumped on you, we had some heated conversations, I apologize, take it as you want, best regards, *me*

That was that. I do feel better though. I mean, I don't understand it very much. Personally I love invites from friendly people for conversation and I love meeting new people, but it's obvious that not everyone is like me.

I am here to help people, but then again, being the coordinator and creator of the community, I also have to "back pedal" and make amends when I am in the wrong. We were both in the wrong in many ways. If they don't respond or talk again, that is fine. I did my part on both ends and said my peace!

I'm a peaceful person and I hate fighting. It's just so hard when someone jumps up in your grill and accuses you of wrong doing when you think you're in the right.

I preach an open-mind but I don't want to be so open that people walk on me either...

So, I guess all in all, it's a balance.

Anyway, I erased the nasty comments we both made to each other to save face and make the community look like it isn't a "fight club" :)

Thx for the positive messages! I am very happy to know that people are getting positive experiences out of this :):)

Talk soon! :)

~ Denise

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[info]childoftheabyss
2004-10-26 06:35 pm UTC (link)
rochesterians are chronically uptight. it comes from our cynicism and our constant disappointment with the weather, haha. don't worry too greatly about it. there's a book that was written about rochester called "smugtown, usa" which i'd love to read but is only in the reference section of the library.

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[info]clead_fan
2004-10-26 06:38 pm UTC (link)
WOW...LOL...I had no idea there was a book out, hehehe...Yes, I agree about the weather though, its sooo gloomy. Syracuse wasn't much better though. I'll take the california weather, I love it out there :)

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