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May 23rd, 2009
torasama
 | 04:15 pm
Dear USA in general,
Fuck you.
Fuck you for making me feel like I'm not a real person.
Fuck you for telling to shut the hell up about it.
I don't matter to you if I live (discrimination law, hate crime, marriage, blood/organ donation, adoption, the fuck are you out of your closet for? Go use your fountain, fag), I don't matter if I'm sick (hospital visitation rights, health insurance benefits, oh and by the way since you're gay you obviously have AIDS), I don't matter if I die (Don't Ask Don't Tell, like hell my wife [she ain't my "very special friend"] is going to be able to attend a funeral).
It's fine to tell me I'm going to hell, God hates me, my relationships just can't possibly be as good as yours, why don't I just choose to be straight like everyone else, hell, you could even brutally murder me and no one would give a shit. The media wouldn't, the courts wouldn't, Congress wouldn't, society in general wouldn't, I doubt my family would either. Hell, you'd probably get fan mail for killing a dirty queer.
But us gays have it just hunky-fuckin'-dory, don't we? At least you don't execute us like they do in some third world countries, right? You're not the worst out there, right? I mean who the fuck cares if "gay/fag/faggot/queer" = "stupid?" Stop being so over-sensitive!
Land of the free? For who?
Signed,
Me
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/angry.gif) angry
Current Music: REO Speedwagon - Golden Country
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April 26th, 2009
drakyn
 | 12:02 am - creepy is as creepy does
I don't have "an ambiguous gender" or a "unique gender position".
I am a biological male/man.
Tranny-chasers are not cool; even if they are radikewl-cissexual-dykes.
Exotifying a whole group of people is not cool; even if it is Feminist Approved(TM).
When you talk about how "ridiculously hot" trans men are (but, as you say, you "wouldn't give [cis men] a second look") you are being a skeevy, objectifying asshole.
As many people have said (trans & cis; women, men, & genderqueer folks), it really isn't all that different from skeevy straight men harassing lesbians or telling Asian women how hawt geisha-girlz are.
Sex-positive is not telling privileged folks that it is all right to further oppress oppressed people (even if it is "just" their "un-PC" desire).
plx stfu&diaf. kthnxbai.
Why am I still reading Bitch Magazine's post? Why am I still focusing on Erika Moen's stupid, unfunny, disgusting 'comic'?
Someone, please stop me before I develop a way to actually punch someone through the internet.
PS: it isn't that we transgenderoids have no sense of humor. You just aren't funny.
x-posted to ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) trans_rage
Current Mood: pissed off
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April 21st, 2009
ishyface
 | 06:09 pm - NOFX writes a song! And it sucks.
So Fat Mike from NOFX wrote a song about Sara Quin (one half of Tegan and Sara). And it's been making me grumpy aaaaaaaaall day.
Here are some of the lyrics:
( Click if you wanna be grumpy all day too! )
(I do love Tegan's response, though: "nofx + t/s = lots of email/texts/blogs/phone calls. i think punk in drublic is a great record. we r lesbians. sara was creeped. i AM cooler." She's the cool twin, guys, she just wants you all to know!)
Current Mood: annoyed
Current Music: Bikini Kill- White Boy
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April 17th, 2009
asknosecrets
 | 06:28 pm
If you are transphobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are racist, you are not a feminist.
If you are homophobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are biphobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are ableist, you are not a feminist.
If you are sizeist, you are not a feminist.
How the hell can people sleep at night, claiming they're working for "women's rights" while actively trying to surpress the rights of certain women? It baffles me.
(ETA: Triggery stuff now in comments re: Rape.)
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March 14th, 2009
torasama
 | 01:47 pm - "It's Just a Joke!"
Dear everyone who has ever uttered this phrase in the existance of time, in any variation in any language,
Humor is not an absolute defense.
Racist is racist.
Mysognist is mysognist.
Homphobic is homophobic.
Biphobic is biphobic.
Transphobic is transphobic.
Ableism is ableism.
Etc, etc, etc. (Here you should think of The King and I.)
Signed,
The rest of the world.
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March 8th, 2009
torasama
| 07:18 pm
Straight allies, friends, family, etc,
We get it. You don't outrate Hate us. Not to the point of wishing that we were all dead, or something like that.
But there is such a thing as passive biogotry. You, as a person, might not be homo-/bi-/transphobic, but the things you say and do can, in and of themselves, be homo-/bi-/transphobic.
Using a disclaimer at the beginning of your sentence, does not negate your phobia. ("I'm not homophobic but...", "I have gay friends but...", etc.)
When someone tells you that they are hurt by what you say or do, you do not have a right to invalidate their feelings by saying "It was just a joke" or "I was just kidding."
When someone calls you out on something you're doing, you need to recognize that it is homo-/bi-/transphobic in nature so you can fix that. I know it's uncomfortable to recognize your own privilege, but in the end everyone, including you, is better off.
Signed,
Your LBGT friends, family, coworkers, etc.
Dear straight anti-gay activists, pundits, politicians, lawyers, judges, etc.,
What you're doing isn't based in "hate," because Hate is for monsters. You aren't burning crosses, you're just telling us to conform to the norm. That feeling in your gut, when you see someone breaking those precious norms, can't be wrong. So the only thing to do is to rationalize it somehow.
So you'll look for an obscure Biblical passage or cite whatever you can from any source in order to prove your point.
Let us tell you something. What you're doing is exactly what "prejudice" is.
1: injury or damage resulting from some judgment or action of another in disregard of one's rights ; especially : detriment to one's legal rights or claims
2 a (1): preconceived judgment or opinion (2): an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge b: an instance of such judgment or opinion c: an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics -m-w.com
Prejudice is a watered-down form of Hate.
And Hate is for monsters.
Love, despite all you do,
The LBGT community
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December 22nd, 2008
stoneself
 | 01:30 pm - if you're straight, stfu about the queer response to warren.
dear straight people,
if you're straight, stfu about the queer response to warren.
seriously.
you don't know what what it's like to be queer.
you will hear queers say stuff you agree with. and you will hear queers say stuff you disagree with.
and then you will cherry pick the things that suit you. you will think you understand something you don't really understand, and you will try to "school" some queer with the arguments that align with you point, while totally disregarding the arguments that don't. in fact it's unlikely that you will have heard the arguments you don't agree with.
some queer people will see warren and see it as a bone to the funnymentalists. some queers will see it as emblematic of queer oppression - a symbol on the national stage at one of the most momentous events in us history.
you straight people do not get to tell queer people what is or is not important. you don't really know what traumas in a queer person's life make them so hurt over this. you do not get to dismiss our pain as unimportant.
when we queers disagree over the emphasis, we are not dismissing that pain - that pain lives in us always. those of us who are telling other queers to let it slide, we are putting the focus elsewhere - often times to avoid that very pain that lives in us. those of us who express our pain and want redress, we know we could let it slide - but the pain and memory of pain are too much.
you straight people don't know our pain. don't tell us what to do about it.
love and forbearance,
me
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November 7th, 2008
stoneself
| 01:14 pm - one of these things is not like the others
this is what's being added:SEC. 7.5 Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California. it's being put between the equal protection clause:SEC. 7. (a) A person may not be deprived of life, liberty, or
property without due process of law or denied equal protection of the
laws; ( cut lotsa text )
(b) A citizen or class of citizens may not be granted privileges
or immunities not granted on the same terms to all citizens.
Privileges or immunities granted by the Legislature may be altered or
revoked. and the nondiscrimination in employment clauseSEC. 8. A person may not be disqualified from entering or pursuing
a business, profession, vocation, or employment because of sex, race,
creed, color, or national or ethnic origin. * * *
dear "yes on 8" voters,
if you should ever read the california state constitution to see what you have wrought, the contrast should be obvious.
you should read those words and be ashamed.
no love,
me
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November 5th, 2008
mresundance
 | 09:42 am - Dear American Queers and Liberals:
I won't disagree that it's disappointing these anti-gay measures passed, but in the big picture, I am a whole let less worked up about it simply because I think we have gained more than lost, for once. California is a particular disappointment, but I doubt that measure will last too long. The California courts might fight it in some way, just has they have fought other bans on marriage - and succeeded.
I think I am personally tired of some liberal and radical liberal's constant cynicism and nay-saying, which is not anyone in particular, per se, but a general sense of bitterness amongst some queer liberals that "not enough has been done for us". ( Read more... )
ETA:
For the record, this post was a reaction to events outside of this comm and does not refer to anyone or any posts here.
I was not trying to invalidate others' rage. If I didn't make that clear enough for some, ok. People have a right to their anger and to expressing their anger in whatever manner they need to, barring hurting themselves or others, obviously. The opinions - irritation, anger and impatience - I expressed were my own and I can only speak for myself on some things. I am not angry if other people are angry necessarily, or frustrated about our setbacks. I am as well. I'm just additionally frustrated by the attitude that "not enough is done for us" (queers), expressed by a few, who seem to think our rights - and issues - are the only things worth considering or impacted by this election, or that they are not also connected with a number of other issues, including but not limited to race, sexism, and class.
Further (very minor) edits made for clarity.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/smile.gif) optimistic
Current Music: It's A Good Day to Die, Robbie Robertson
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October 31st, 2008
asknosecrets
| 06:13 pm
Dear co-worker,
Given we were talking about personal lives, "Do you have a girlfriend?" is a reasonable question. "Do you have a boyfriend?" is also a reasonable question. When I say no to both, "Which do you want?" is... a bit more personal, but eh, we were chatting. However, "I'm not bothered, I like both" is a reasonable answer. Asking and asking isn't going to change it. And when you ask "But right now, which do you want?", "Actually, I'd rather have a Mars bar" is also a totally valid answer - I was hungry!
Love, because you were bemused, not malicious,
The single guy who didn't get his Mars bar because the vending machine was out.
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October 27th, 2008
hynkle
 | 04:09 pm - Family
I've been dating a great guy for something over two and a half years. I live in Georgia and he's studying in upstate New York, which means that we only get to see each other during various school holidays. Christmas is always especially nice, as we travel to his parents' place in Edmonton, Canada. We both love his family and his family loves both of us. I never really felt I was missing out by being forced to be away from my family for the holidays. I get to see the part of my family that I'm close to I see plenty of other times during the year, and the family that I'm not close to I don't particularly miss (you know, what with the not being close to them).
But since this is going to be my last year living in the southeast, I figured it would be kind of me to stay in the region for Christmas and visit all my relatives. Even if I'm not particularly close to my mom's side of the family, they love me (grandparents can't really help it), so I knew they would appreciate getting to see me. But I'm hardly going to spend one of the few times I could possibly see my boyfriend without him, so we decided he'd come down here as well and meet my extended family.
Turns out, my maternal grandmother and her husband "just aren't ready" to meet my boyfriend and spend time with us together. Granny says she believes that I truly love him and that we're emotionally stable and that our relationship is real—which, to be sure, is really quite an impressive feat for her. But actually seeing him? Nope, can't handle that.
My mom suspects that the same will be true of her father.
So I'm pretty angry that I'm going to be spending my holidays hanging out in a region I detest rather than going to visit a family that I see very rarely and that loves me very much.
Additionally, Granny says she understands that their inability to meet my boyfriend could mean that they'll never see me again. And it does mean that—I'm just sad that they realize it, and still can't bear to meet him. I've never gotten the whole familial love thing, but I didn't think it worked like that.
And I guess this means too that they won't ever get to meet their great-grandchildren. That ought to be a sad thought for them.
This is just too sad to really rage over.
At least my dad's a total homo and his family is too polite (or scared; I'm not sure) to say anything negative about us. Hanging out with them should be fun. And my mom, while hardly happy that I'm gay, is at least perfectly willing to spend time around my boyfriend. Even my mom's half-brother and his wife will be happy to see us—and they're young and awesome and occasionally swear in front of my mom. Score.
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September 11th, 2008
1_2_suckerpunch
 | 12:02 pm - x-posted to tranny_rage
Dear P&P* teachers:
You have no right to call me she. I was presenting male when we met, I used male pronouns, I have a male name, everyone in my class treated me as male...and just so we were totally clear, at the end of class I went up to you and told you straight up that I'm transgendered, that I hands-down wish to have male pronouns, and that the only reason I was telling you was because of the nudity element of the class*. And yet, somehow, I've been called "she" multiple times on not one, not two, but FOUR separate occasions.
You can't do that! You have no legitimate excuse. If my sister can start calling me "bro" after 18 years, you can surely remember not to use female pronouns. For fuck's sake, there's no switch to make! It would be understandable if we had built a rapport while you knew me as female; still annoying, but understandable. BUT YOU'VE NEVER KNOWN ME AS ANYTHING BUT MALE. I met you a week ago! There is no fucking ADJUSTMENT.
A little grudging love, because you're not being entirely awful about the whole thing,
Ian
*it's a massage therapy class. Hence, we have to get somewhat naked. Dumb choice for a tranny, right? *sigh*
Current Mood: aggravated
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August 22nd, 2008
fallintheblinks
 | 11:30 am - tl;dr: I hate words.
Dear biphobics, both straight and queer:
Stop. Stopstopstop fucking stop.
Bisexuals just want to do it with everyone.
No. As a matter of fact, I hardly want to do it with anyone. I've got a grand total of one sexual partner, and would have more if I so desired, but don't. Let us not forget the part of the asexual community that experiences romantic attraction to either gender. Also, anyone's sex life is not your business unless they are talking about it TO YOU.
This is ridiculous. I've been out as some part of "glbtqa" for almost five years. Initially, I came out as bisexual, since I identified that I had feelings for men and women. I started hearing a lot of "you're not bisexual, you're just pretending to be edgy" and "so you want to have sex with everybody?" or "THREESOME PLZ". So after a while I sort of withdrew my identity and started labelling myself as a lesbian. All of a sudden, all my queer and straight friends just sort of shut up.
During that time, however, I had dated men, become sexually involved with men, etc. I could have continued to identify as lesbian, but the term really didn't seem to fit me, personally. I don't think that I'm a lesbian. I think I used that term as protection: since several of my queer friends were the ones making biphobic comments to me, I felt ostracized from the queer community and thought the only way that I could maintain any part of my identity would be to hide behind a different "brand" of queer, if you will.
I've found the label "pansexual" to be a better fit to my sexual identity. I'm irritated about the lack of consciousness among my peers of the term "pansexual". I don't want to have to explain it over and over and over whenever I'm discussing my sexuality with friends. Coming out as pansexual to my friends would also mean opening the door for some of the ridiculous biphobic comments that I used to endure, and that scares me.
I've been using "queer" for a long time, but that usually leads non GLBTQA-involved people to assume that I am exclusively attracted to women. I've even had people assume that using the term is me trying to be elitist about my sexual identity. I once received an anonymous comment on myspace via the Truth Box application that said "lmaonade, youre lyke so ~*~QUEER~*~ and stuff". :/
So what the hell do I identify as? There's no easy fucking term.
On a side note: I hate that there's no connotation-neutral word for "promiscuous" in my vocabulary. I'm a firm believer in "other people's sex lives != my business" and a proponent of sex work, but when I try to discuss these issues, the word "promiscuous" keeps popping up in my head -- and although I've sort of washed that word of negative connotations in my head, having it coming out of my mouth would make my argument sound hypocritical to anyone else. :S
Current Music: Atmosphere - Angelface | Scrobbled by Last.fm
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July 23rd, 2008
July 22nd, 2008
ihasstopwatch
 | 04:51 pm
To the two people who came out of the SFFD truck just to ask us a couple of questions,
Where the fuck are you from? Seriously. You asked me, Dani, and my roommate who we were waiting outside the club to see that evening. We told you the names of all four bands: The White Tie Affair, Innerpartysystem, Medic Droid, and Kill Hannah. The former three you had no problem with, but apparently, Kill Hannah is just too strange for your little minds to wrap around. And not just because of the name. Oh no.
I showed you two pictures of the band. This one, which was a poster that the band's street team had hung up in several spots around the club, and this one (something from a photo shoot that didn't include their mohawk-sporting drummer). You took one look at the pictures and said, "What are they, some kind of gay death metal band?"
I'm sorry, but when does the way a band looks have any real influence on the kind of people they're attracted to? Yes, one member of Kill Hannah is bisexual, but that's not the point. Glitter, eye makeup, and great fashion sense do not automatically mean that they're "all a bunch of homos", as one of you put it. If you don't like the fact that makeup can be worn by anyone without affecting their sexuality, then you might want to think about getting transferred.
By the way, it was funny as hell when your faces did something along the lines of - o_o O_O O_o o_O - when we were trying to explain that glam rock (the band's real genre) does not equal homosexuality.
Current Mood: amused/annoyed
Current Music: Kill Hannah - The Chase | Scrobbled by Last.fm
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July 20th, 2008
July 18th, 2008
bizzlefout
 | 03:27 pm
so, my mother is getting married today. second marriage, in a catholic church [and the whole process of her annulling her 16-year marriage to my father so she could do this is a whole different kind of rage], and i am not looking forward to being there.
this is part of the entry i just posted in my regular journal, but it seemed to fit here as well.
last night, in the midst of the bahama-breeze-rehearsal-dinner-from-hell, we all got presents. there's five of us kids, three girls and two boys. paul's daughters are pretty girly and his oldest has the whole bleached-hair-tanning-bed look, but they're nice.
so they gave us identical gifts.
the boys got this pretty sweet silver band that's exactly like some of the wrist accessories that i like to wear.
the girls [including me] got a frou-frou charm bracelet with ReAl SwArOvSkY cRyStAlS on it. and my mom even admitted, "i know it isn't really your style..."
so...
dear mom,
appreciate the gesture, but did you really have to conform to the gender binary so strictly that you got me something that was honestly awkward to open because i have NEVER leaked enough estrogen in my LIFE combined to know what the fucking hell swarovsky crystals actually WERE. so because i have the vagina, even if i've never really been a girlish thing my entire life, i get the girl gift?
it's bad enough that my mom's new "family" consists of two cis-gendered boys, two cis-gendered girls, and jessi, the genderqueer dyke freak, but don't pigeon-hole me.
no love,
jessi
ps- even though you just called me, two hours before your wedding, to tell me that my lip ring was not allowed in the church, it will still be worn. i mean, unless you're willing to ban earrings as well. i don't care if "society says that a piercing is okay if its on a woman's earlobe".
and no, i am not going to wear a sweater over my dress in 95 degree heat because my back tattoo would be poking out. you fought so hard to have your wedding in a catholic church, so far to say that my family never actually happened, that i think you can suck it up and live with your choice.
and no, i'm not going to bless myself with the holy water when we walk in the door, because i'm scared of the third-degree burns to my fingers. HISSSSSSSSSS.
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July 9th, 2008
revengetherapy
 | 05:08 pm - more of an irking than a rage...
dear fd.net users,
granted, a good portion of writers on fd.net aren't exactly the brightest lot on account of they're generally about fifteen years old and writing mary-sue fics about themselves and *insert popular band here* but your logic astounds me!
when you're posting slashfic and then write as your summary "this is so gay i don't know why i'm posting this", et cetera...
....uh...
...what?
i would like to believe it's just too fabulously queer for mortal eyes but somehow i doubt it.
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July 2nd, 2008
lovejacq
 | 11:13 pm
i hate people who look at me
- wondering i'm a girl or boy
- or being annoyed that i'm a butch
Current Mood: infuriated
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June 24th, 2008
revengetherapy
 | 09:07 pm
dear a,
no, hansel from the birmingham royal ballet production of hansel and gretel is not a lesbian because ze (i am actually unaware of the gender of the dancer playing hansel) is wearing overalls (as in, you know, lederhosen).
i know work was boring today but you're not funny.
not much love,
me.
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