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December 15th, 2009
angelikitten
 | 04:46 am - Oh LJ...
LiveJournal's making a change to the gender setting on the profile page.
* Gender will be a mandatory field at account creation.
* LiveJournal is removing the Unspecified option for the gender field. That's right: you get to be male or female. Period. That's it. (Source.)
I... I don't even have words to explain how much this hurts me. And it does hurt, because I can't see what good limiting the gender option does at all, especially if the information is staying private.
It's probably silly of me to be crying about this, but I just don't need this shit right now.
(For those who'd like suggestions on how to deal with this, this post has some ideas, which is where I found out about it.)
[Edit] Apparently the change is not going through (edit at the bottom of the page), sorry!
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/sad.gif) crushed
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November 22nd, 2009
mresundance
 | 09:50 pm - Mod Post: Membership Temporarily Closed
Membership to the comm is temporarily closed until some current issues are resolved by the mod squad.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/angry.gif) annoyed
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anunreallife
 | 03:18 pm
Dear asshat (and you're straight, what a surprise):
I do not set queer rights back by being angry when people say homophobic things. I do not set queer rights back by calling bigots on their shit.
You know who really sets queer rights back? Bigots. And asshats like you who tell me to calm down, as if being discriminated against isn't worth being angry over.
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November 6th, 2009
mresundance
 | 09:30 pm - Mod Post - Comment Screening
Comment screening on all posts is temporarily in effect until some issues in a recent post are resolved.
Because I like babysitting and I don't already have a couple full time jobs. *shrug*
Current Mood: annoyed
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September 22nd, 2009
andrajames
 | 02:30 pm
Dear person who I was referred to by the Jobcentre:
( Cut for multiple fails )
Current Mood: annoyed
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August 24th, 2009
mresundance
 | 08:06 pm - New Mod
Hello all, I will be your newest addition to the mod team here at ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) queer_rage.
I've been a long time member of this comm (five years-ish) and am happy to see it thriving with over a thousand members (egads!).
If you have questions or concerns, feel free to contact me or any of the other mods, of course. Our emails are listed on the community's info page.
I would like to take this time to remind people of the rules, particularly the "basic" ones which I have seen violated far too much over the last year.
Comments which do not support the OP are a violation of the rules and will not be tolerated. You will be warned and your comment will be frozen to prevent replies.
Language which violates safe space (use of the term "bitch" is the most frequent) is a violation of the rules and will not be tolerated. You will be warned. If the language is in a post, you will be asked to correct the post as necessary or else it will be deleted. Comments with such language will be frozen.
Debate is also a violation and not tolerated. This is not a free speech community. You are safe to rant, rave, and seek support for frustrating, infuriating, annoying, sickening - whatever - things in the world. But you are not safe to say whatever you want without repercussions. Keep snarky and rude comments to yourselves. If someone has called you on something, suck it up and apologize and learn from it rather than whining and arguing.
If you don't remember the rules clearly, please refresh your memory now.
Edited to Clarify: Comments which are not supportive ARE banned. If you, however, feel the need to call the OP on something, do so respectfully as possible. Coming off as holier-than-thou and turning on the snark 200 % will only make you look like a jerk and probably not teach anyone anything.
However, the best course of action is TO CONTACT THE MODS, as per the rules of the comm if you find something upsetting or offensive about a post or a comment. We will try to deal with things ASAP. It is our job to take care of these things so you basically shouldn't have to.
Similarily, if you see unsupportive comments to a post which doesn't have any problems to call out, or, if a user is causing some kind of wank in the comments - report it to the mods. Thanks!
Current Mood: awake
Current Music: crickets and dog slurping noises O_o
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July 24th, 2009
___closetome
 | 12:33 pm - marriage definition wank
FOR FUCKS SAKE!
![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) loonylolydarko: hell yeah I'm a bit heteronormative, if homosexuality was the fucking norm we wouldn't be having this issue, would we?
loonylolydarko: We're not talking about people who aren't married, either, we're talking about marriage and procreation happens to be a subheading. There is a big etymological relationship between procreation and marriage, and just because you don't want to see it doesn't mean it isn't there. I'll tell you one thing, though - labeling everyone as prejudice gay-hater because they don't support gay marriage is an ignorant and judgmental thing to do. I do NOT discriminate against gays and I never will, so you might want to stop with that.
loonylolydarko: I'm just telling you the truth, you can take it or leave it. Discrimination sucks and I don't think gay people are weird or icky or undeserving, but you can't honestly say that homosexuality is "the norm" - neither are curly hair, blue eyes or white skin.
SAVE THE BEST FOR LAST!
loonylolydarko: I'm just saying that with regards to the historical nature of marriages, gays don't fit the mold -
Aside from the exceptions you mentioned and may have missed, married people had kids
"Married people had kids"
"Married people had kids"
(200,000 years later)
Marriage has become undeniably linked with having kids.
*When you eliminate that stigma for marriage then the entire argument can totally be refuted.
*WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN.
[I'm means_toanend jsyk.]
Current Mood: pissed off
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May 23rd, 2009
torasama
 | 04:15 pm
Dear USA in general,
Fuck you.
Fuck you for making me feel like I'm not a real person.
Fuck you for telling to shut the hell up about it.
I don't matter to you if I live (discrimination law, hate crime, marriage, blood/organ donation, adoption, the fuck are you out of your closet for? Go use your fountain, fag), I don't matter if I'm sick (hospital visitation rights, health insurance benefits, oh and by the way since you're gay you obviously have AIDS), I don't matter if I die (Don't Ask Don't Tell, like hell my wife [she ain't my "very special friend"] is going to be able to attend a funeral).
It's fine to tell me I'm going to hell, God hates me, my relationships just can't possibly be as good as yours, why don't I just choose to be straight like everyone else, hell, you could even brutally murder me and no one would give a shit. The media wouldn't, the courts wouldn't, Congress wouldn't, society in general wouldn't, I doubt my family would either. Hell, you'd probably get fan mail for killing a dirty queer.
But us gays have it just hunky-fuckin'-dory, don't we? At least you don't execute us like they do in some third world countries, right? You're not the worst out there, right? I mean who the fuck cares if "gay/fag/faggot/queer" = "stupid?" Stop being so over-sensitive!
Land of the free? For who?
Signed,
Me
Current Mood: angry
Current Music: REO Speedwagon - Golden Country
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April 26th, 2009
drakyn
 | 12:02 am - creepy is as creepy does
I don't have "an ambiguous gender" or a "unique gender position".
I am a biological male/man.
Tranny-chasers are not cool; even if they are radikewl-cissexual-dykes.
Exotifying a whole group of people is not cool; even if it is Feminist Approved(TM).
When you talk about how "ridiculously hot" trans men are (but, as you say, you "wouldn't give [cis men] a second look") you are being a skeevy, objectifying asshole.
As many people have said (trans & cis; women, men, & genderqueer folks), it really isn't all that different from skeevy straight men harassing lesbians or telling Asian women how hawt geisha-girlz are.
Sex-positive is not telling privileged folks that it is all right to further oppress oppressed people (even if it is "just" their "un-PC" desire).
plx stfu&diaf. kthnxbai.
Why am I still reading Bitch Magazine's post? Why am I still focusing on Erika Moen's stupid, unfunny, disgusting 'comic'?
Someone, please stop me before I develop a way to actually punch someone through the internet.
PS: it isn't that we transgenderoids have no sense of humor. You just aren't funny.
x-posted to trans_rage
Current Mood: pissed off
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April 21st, 2009
ishyface
 | 06:09 pm - NOFX writes a song! And it sucks.
So Fat Mike from NOFX wrote a song about Sara Quin (one half of Tegan and Sara). And it's been making me grumpy aaaaaaaaall day.
Here are some of the lyrics:
( Click if you wanna be grumpy all day too! )
(I do love Tegan's response, though: "nofx + t/s = lots of email/texts/blogs/phone calls. i think punk in drublic is a great record. we r lesbians. sara was creeped. i AM cooler." She's the cool twin, guys, she just wants you all to know!)
Current Mood: annoyed
Current Music: Bikini Kill- White Boy
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April 17th, 2009
asknosecrets
 | 06:28 pm
If you are transphobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are racist, you are not a feminist.
If you are homophobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are biphobic, you are not a feminist.
If you are ableist, you are not a feminist.
If you are sizeist, you are not a feminist.
How the hell can people sleep at night, claiming they're working for "women's rights" while actively trying to surpress the rights of certain women? It baffles me.
(ETA: Triggery stuff now in comments re: Rape.)
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March 14th, 2009
torasama
 | 01:47 pm - "It's Just a Joke!"
Dear everyone who has ever uttered this phrase in the existance of time, in any variation in any language,
Humor is not an absolute defense.
Racist is racist.
Mysognist is mysognist.
Homphobic is homophobic.
Biphobic is biphobic.
Transphobic is transphobic.
Ableism is ableism.
Etc, etc, etc. (Here you should think of The King and I.)
Signed,
The rest of the world.
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March 8th, 2009
torasama
| 07:18 pm
Straight allies, friends, family, etc,
We get it. You don't outrate Hate us. Not to the point of wishing that we were all dead, or something like that.
But there is such a thing as passive biogotry. You, as a person, might not be homo-/bi-/transphobic, but the things you say and do can, in and of themselves, be homo-/bi-/transphobic.
Using a disclaimer at the beginning of your sentence, does not negate your phobia. ("I'm not homophobic but...", "I have gay friends but...", etc.)
When someone tells you that they are hurt by what you say or do, you do not have a right to invalidate their feelings by saying "It was just a joke" or "I was just kidding."
When someone calls you out on something you're doing, you need to recognize that it is homo-/bi-/transphobic in nature so you can fix that. I know it's uncomfortable to recognize your own privilege, but in the end everyone, including you, is better off.
Signed,
Your LBGT friends, family, coworkers, etc.
Dear straight anti-gay activists, pundits, politicians, lawyers, judges, etc.,
What you're doing isn't based in "hate," because Hate is for monsters. You aren't burning crosses, you're just telling us to conform to the norm. That feeling in your gut, when you see someone breaking those precious norms, can't be wrong. So the only thing to do is to rationalize it somehow.
So you'll look for an obscure Biblical passage or cite whatever you can from any source in order to prove your point.
Let us tell you something. What you're doing is exactly what "prejudice" is.
1: injury or damage resulting from some judgment or action of another in disregard of one's rights ; especially : detriment to one's legal rights or claims
2 a (1): preconceived judgment or opinion (2): an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge b: an instance of such judgment or opinion c: an irrational attitude of hostility directed against an individual, a group, a race, or their supposed characteristics -m-w.com
Prejudice is a watered-down form of Hate.
And Hate is for monsters.
Love, despite all you do,
The LBGT community
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December 22nd, 2008
stoneself
 | 01:30 pm - if you're straight, stfu about the queer response to warren.
dear straight people,
if you're straight, stfu about the queer response to warren.
seriously.
you don't know what what it's like to be queer.
you will hear queers say stuff you agree with. and you will hear queers say stuff you disagree with.
and then you will cherry pick the things that suit you. you will think you understand something you don't really understand, and you will try to "school" some queer with the arguments that align with you point, while totally disregarding the arguments that don't. in fact it's unlikely that you will have heard the arguments you don't agree with.
some queer people will see warren and see it as a bone to the funnymentalists. some queers will see it as emblematic of queer oppression - a symbol on the national stage at one of the most momentous events in us history.
you straight people do not get to tell queer people what is or is not important. you don't really know what traumas in a queer person's life make them so hurt over this. you do not get to dismiss our pain as unimportant.
when we queers disagree over the emphasis, we are not dismissing that pain - that pain lives in us always. those of us who are telling other queers to let it slide, we are putting the focus elsewhere - often times to avoid that very pain that lives in us. those of us who express our pain and want redress, we know we could let it slide - but the pain and memory of pain are too much.
you straight people don't know our pain. don't tell us what to do about it.
love and forbearance,
me
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November 7th, 2008
stoneself
| 01:14 pm - one of these things is not like the others
this is what's being added:SEC. 7.5 Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California. it's being put between the equal protection clause:SEC. 7. (a) A person may not be deprived of life, liberty, or
property without due process of law or denied equal protection of the
laws; ( cut lotsa text )
(b) A citizen or class of citizens may not be granted privileges
or immunities not granted on the same terms to all citizens.
Privileges or immunities granted by the Legislature may be altered or
revoked. and the nondiscrimination in employment clauseSEC. 8. A person may not be disqualified from entering or pursuing
a business, profession, vocation, or employment because of sex, race,
creed, color, or national or ethnic origin. * * *
dear "yes on 8" voters,
if you should ever read the california state constitution to see what you have wrought, the contrast should be obvious.
you should read those words and be ashamed.
no love,
me
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November 5th, 2008
mresundance
| 09:42 am - Dear American Queers and Liberals:
I won't disagree that it's disappointing these anti-gay measures passed, but in the big picture, I am a whole let less worked up about it simply because I think we have gained more than lost, for once. California is a particular disappointment, but I doubt that measure will last too long. The California courts might fight it in some way, just has they have fought other bans on marriage - and succeeded.
I think I am personally tired of some liberal and radical liberal's constant cynicism and nay-saying, which is not anyone in particular, per se, but a general sense of bitterness amongst some queer liberals that "not enough has been done for us". ( Read more... )
ETA:
For the record, this post was a reaction to events outside of this comm and does not refer to anyone or any posts here.
I was not trying to invalidate others' rage. If I didn't make that clear enough for some, ok. People have a right to their anger and to expressing their anger in whatever manner they need to, barring hurting themselves or others, obviously. The opinions - irritation, anger and impatience - I expressed were my own and I can only speak for myself on some things. I am not angry if other people are angry necessarily, or frustrated about our setbacks. I am as well. I'm just additionally frustrated by the attitude that "not enough is done for us" (queers), expressed by a few, who seem to think our rights - and issues - are the only things worth considering or impacted by this election, or that they are not also connected with a number of other issues, including but not limited to race, sexism, and class.
Further (very minor) edits made for clarity.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/smile.gif) optimistic
Current Music: It's A Good Day to Die, Robbie Robertson
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October 31st, 2008
asknosecrets
| 06:13 pm
Dear co-worker,
Given we were talking about personal lives, "Do you have a girlfriend?" is a reasonable question. "Do you have a boyfriend?" is also a reasonable question. When I say no to both, "Which do you want?" is... a bit more personal, but eh, we were chatting. However, "I'm not bothered, I like both" is a reasonable answer. Asking and asking isn't going to change it. And when you ask "But right now, which do you want?", "Actually, I'd rather have a Mars bar" is also a totally valid answer - I was hungry!
Love, because you were bemused, not malicious,
The single guy who didn't get his Mars bar because the vending machine was out.
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October 27th, 2008
hynkle
 | 04:09 pm - Family
I've been dating a great guy for something over two and a half years. I live in Georgia and he's studying in upstate New York, which means that we only get to see each other during various school holidays. Christmas is always especially nice, as we travel to his parents' place in Edmonton, Canada. We both love his family and his family loves both of us. I never really felt I was missing out by being forced to be away from my family for the holidays. I get to see the part of my family that I'm close to I see plenty of other times during the year, and the family that I'm not close to I don't particularly miss (you know, what with the not being close to them).
But since this is going to be my last year living in the southeast, I figured it would be kind of me to stay in the region for Christmas and visit all my relatives. Even if I'm not particularly close to my mom's side of the family, they love me (grandparents can't really help it), so I knew they would appreciate getting to see me. But I'm hardly going to spend one of the few times I could possibly see my boyfriend without him, so we decided he'd come down here as well and meet my extended family.
Turns out, my maternal grandmother and her husband "just aren't ready" to meet my boyfriend and spend time with us together. Granny says she believes that I truly love him and that we're emotionally stable and that our relationship is real—which, to be sure, is really quite an impressive feat for her. But actually seeing him? Nope, can't handle that.
My mom suspects that the same will be true of her father.
So I'm pretty angry that I'm going to be spending my holidays hanging out in a region I detest rather than going to visit a family that I see very rarely and that loves me very much.
Additionally, Granny says she understands that their inability to meet my boyfriend could mean that they'll never see me again. And it does mean that—I'm just sad that they realize it, and still can't bear to meet him. I've never gotten the whole familial love thing, but I didn't think it worked like that.
And I guess this means too that they won't ever get to meet their great-grandchildren. That ought to be a sad thought for them.
This is just too sad to really rage over.
At least my dad's a total homo and his family is too polite (or scared; I'm not sure) to say anything negative about us. Hanging out with them should be fun. And my mom, while hardly happy that I'm gay, is at least perfectly willing to spend time around my boyfriend. Even my mom's half-brother and his wife will be happy to see us—and they're young and awesome and occasionally swear in front of my mom. Score.
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September 11th, 2008
1_2_suckerpunch
 | 12:02 pm - x-posted to tranny_rage
Dear P&P* teachers:
You have no right to call me she. I was presenting male when we met, I used male pronouns, I have a male name, everyone in my class treated me as male...and just so we were totally clear, at the end of class I went up to you and told you straight up that I'm transgendered, that I hands-down wish to have male pronouns, and that the only reason I was telling you was because of the nudity element of the class*. And yet, somehow, I've been called "she" multiple times on not one, not two, but FOUR separate occasions.
You can't do that! You have no legitimate excuse. If my sister can start calling me "bro" after 18 years, you can surely remember not to use female pronouns. For fuck's sake, there's no switch to make! It would be understandable if we had built a rapport while you knew me as female; still annoying, but understandable. BUT YOU'VE NEVER KNOWN ME AS ANYTHING BUT MALE. I met you a week ago! There is no fucking ADJUSTMENT.
A little grudging love, because you're not being entirely awful about the whole thing,
Ian
*it's a massage therapy class. Hence, we have to get somewhat naked. Dumb choice for a tranny, right? *sigh*
Current Mood: aggravated
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August 22nd, 2008
fallintheblinks
 | 11:30 am - tl;dr: I hate words.
Dear biphobics, both straight and queer:
Stop. Stopstopstop fucking stop.
Bisexuals just want to do it with everyone.
No. As a matter of fact, I hardly want to do it with anyone. I've got a grand total of one sexual partner, and would have more if I so desired, but don't. Let us not forget the part of the asexual community that experiences romantic attraction to either gender. Also, anyone's sex life is not your business unless they are talking about it TO YOU.
This is ridiculous. I've been out as some part of "glbtqa" for almost five years. Initially, I came out as bisexual, since I identified that I had feelings for men and women. I started hearing a lot of "you're not bisexual, you're just pretending to be edgy" and "so you want to have sex with everybody?" or "THREESOME PLZ". So after a while I sort of withdrew my identity and started labelling myself as a lesbian. All of a sudden, all my queer and straight friends just sort of shut up.
During that time, however, I had dated men, become sexually involved with men, etc. I could have continued to identify as lesbian, but the term really didn't seem to fit me, personally. I don't think that I'm a lesbian. I think I used that term as protection: since several of my queer friends were the ones making biphobic comments to me, I felt ostracized from the queer community and thought the only way that I could maintain any part of my identity would be to hide behind a different "brand" of queer, if you will.
I've found the label "pansexual" to be a better fit to my sexual identity. I'm irritated about the lack of consciousness among my peers of the term "pansexual". I don't want to have to explain it over and over and over whenever I'm discussing my sexuality with friends. Coming out as pansexual to my friends would also mean opening the door for some of the ridiculous biphobic comments that I used to endure, and that scares me.
I've been using "queer" for a long time, but that usually leads non GLBTQA-involved people to assume that I am exclusively attracted to women. I've even had people assume that using the term is me trying to be elitist about my sexual identity. I once received an anonymous comment on myspace via the Truth Box application that said "lmaonade, youre lyke so ~*~QUEER~*~ and stuff". :/
So what the hell do I identify as? There's no easy fucking term.
On a side note: I hate that there's no connotation-neutral word for "promiscuous" in my vocabulary. I'm a firm believer in "other people's sex lives != my business" and a proponent of sex work, but when I try to discuss these issues, the word "promiscuous" keeps popping up in my head -- and although I've sort of washed that word of negative connotations in my head, having it coming out of my mouth would make my argument sound hypocritical to anyone else. :S
Current Music: Atmosphere - Angelface | Scrobbled by Last.fm
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