Patriarchy Hurts Men Too

http://othermag.org/blog/?p=357

A month or two I decided to start my own blog at Blogspot, to focus more specifically on feminism and how it relates to men.   I read a few other male-feminist blogs (namely Hugo Schwyzer and Feminist Allies), but I have had trouble finding more of them. 

I was wondering, what male feminist blogs do you all read?

X-posted to malefeminists

One of my interests is in the artistic representation of socio-political ideas, especially feminism and gender roles. 

Today I was reading Adrienne Rich's latest book the school among the ruins, and came across a passage I thought I would share.

It is part of a series, but can stand alone as well.


V.

This will not be a love scene
but an act between two humans
Now please let us see you
tenderly scoop his balls
into your hand
You will hold them
under your face
There will be tears on your face
That will be all
the director said
We will not see his face
He wants to do the scene
but not to show
his face




Your thoughts?

Sorry if you're getting this more than once.

I am working on a paper and I need some help.

My paper is dealing with the issues of privilege within a student/tutor setting.  I am focusing on male and white privilege.  so far, I have plenty of research material on white privilege, but am able to find next to nothing on male privilege.

What I usually get are simpyl references to it, or mentions that it exists, but no research, no good examples, or anything much I can use.

Does anyone know of anywhere(books, articles, academic journals, etc) I could find some solid writing on make privilege?

x-posted to malefeminists and feminist_101

I hope this is an appropriate place to post this; I thought I would get a different response here than a more traditional feminist community.

I'd like to get some perspective on something that happened at my workplace. ( Story follows... )

Saw this article, thought I'd pass it along.

Trapped In A Vengeful Machismo
by James Ron

At one level, the fight between Hezbollah and Israel is guided by rational considerations of tactics, strategy, and politics. Israel hopes to restructure the Lebanese balance of power, while Hezbollah seeks to preserve influence and military prowess.

At a deeper level, however, the struggle is about wounded national and masculine pride. As the casualties mount, vengeful publics on both sides support redoubled efforts to physically pummel the other.

Fear of humiliation drives the conflict in multiple ways. Many Israelis feared the Hezbollah attacks, along with earlier attacks by Hamas, challenged their identity as proud, capable Jewish fighters, exposing them as wimps incapable of defending their borders.

Any thoughts?

It seems that a favourite accusation in Feminist forums is to declare the use of a Straw Man fallacy, usually as justification to discontinue a line of argument. Now, I've studied my share of Philosophy and have always enjoyed learning techniques of critical thought and formal logic. This means that many basic logical fallacies scream out at me when reading some of the more passionate rants. Most of the time, one way or the other, people tend to work out the kinks in their logic, but it seems that many have heard this term "Straw Man" and taken it to mean that any disliked rephrasing of an argument can be declared fallacious.


For the benefit of my sanity then, below is an excerpt from the SkepticWiki definition of "Strawman" on the misuse of the term:

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Appologies if you get this crossposted.

[Reposted from Official Shrub.com Blog.]

There have been quite a few discussions lately (On Hugo Schwyzer's blog, at Punk Ass Blog, and at Pandagon (also this post), and Neurath's Boat, about young men who think that feminism and heterosexual male sexuality are incompatible. (Which is even more interesting given the discussions here and Putting the "Fist" in "Pacifist" about how most men aren't feminist *enough* to be worth getting involved with.)

I originally started this post as a "how-to guide" for these (presumably) sincere but frustrated nice guy types (I'm probably giving their professed sincerity more credence than it deserves, but the ones who are just the larval form of MRAs don't really deserve much mention - I'm talking more about the ones Protagoras calls "Shy Feminist Men"), but was quickly overwhelmed by how much "how to" would be needed, and it was increasingly obvious what was fueling these misconceptions.( Read more... )

sabonasi has an interesting post in feminist about A Feminist Man's Guide To Interacting With Women in Public. [Reposted with permission.]

It's a good list, but it's another "what not to do" list. In the wake of the latest glut of complaints by "nice guys" that there aren't enough (a bit more about this later), is there more "positive" advice out there? The best I've been able to come up with is to recognize that is keeping these guys from the meaningful interactions they presumably want isn't the feminist message of "don't be a harasser" so much as it is patriarchical assumptions about sexuality and agency.

Cut for harrasment and hurting people who deserve it triggers.
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Lake Desire has hosted the 2nd Carnival of Empty Cages over at my blog. Although not a specifically feminist carnival, many of the links deal with the intersections between oppression. There's even a section dealing with the recent Burger King commerical and how masculinity in Western culture is often tied to meat eating.

I particularly like the excerpted post from Flogging the dead cow:

Note the way that meat is associated with strength and - at least impliedly - sexuality. Your very manhood is determined by whether or not you maintain a sufficient intake of dead animals. If you should fail in your duty to maintain this intake tean it is incumbent upon your female partner to gdragh you to an appropriate meat dispensary (cooking it at home is clearly insufficient) and put this right. Maybe you should go the whole hog and move to the States while youfre at it. Just to make sure.

I also discussed the BK issue in detail, and I know it was brought up on this forum, but I was wondering what y'all thought of the issue of meat and masculinity specifically?

Frankly, the only thing I can come up with as for why the two issues are seen as so closely linked is because meat eating is seen as a primal energy, and the dominant paradigm for men is that they're animalistic beasts at heart.

X-posted to: feminist and phmt.

I watched this film again last night and there's a scene which always makes me feel uneasy.

Late into the film, just after Our Hero (Tobey Maguire) decides to stick out the nastiness of the changes occuring in Pleasantville and ignores the pleadings of the cable repairman, he sees his mother being harrassed for being "coloured". Earlier on he was angsting over how everybody else was turning coloured but nothing he did would pull him from his monochrome appearance. However, when he runs up and punches his mother's attacker he magically springs into technicolour.

My sarcastic response is usually to say "he's a real man now". I saw his fundamental change being that of assuming the 'courage' and bravery of Men. My friend Polly though suggested that his changing was due to his decision to finally take care of his mother. I don't agree with this because I think he more than takes care of her in earlier parts.

I'm not sure I really have the vocabulary to express what I'm taking issue with in this case. Has anybody else seen this movie? What do they they think about the 'defining moment'?

Have any of you seen this yet: Philips Bodygroom? It's a flash advertisement for an electric razor.

It's... special. Not only does it play on the whole cavemen mentality (it's about being a MANLY MAN!!!1), but it also introduces something that women have been familiar with for ages: body hair shame.

Part of me wants to do a better analysis of it... the other part of me wants to close the browser and never go to that site ever again.

http://nopornpledge.com/index.htm

I took the pledge, and I urge everyone on my here to do so as well.

Over at feminist a debate over "universal womanhood" is raging. One of the threads turned into a discussion over whether or not universal manhood was an unchallenged concept or not.

My argument is that it is indeed challenged, and carries with it the same problems as universal womanhood (that it's a privileged narrative that erases intersections and leaves all men who don't fit into it out in the cold). I used specific examples of minority narratives (in this case the Asian American men stereotypes seemed appropriate), transmen, and then mentioned the narrative of REAL men (as expressed by the BK commercial).

What do y'all thing? Is the idea of a universal manhood unchallenged in your society? Do you believe that the idea holds water, do you agree with me that it's a privileged narrative, or do you think something completely different?

http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/s/213/213083_bumslap_builder_branded_a_pervert.html

At least Great Britain is makeing some progress. I say the guy deserves exactly what he got!

There has been a good bit of discussion on the Burger King commercial that has been played in the States. Since it's recently hit the internet, I was able to see it. Although I'd like to go wash my eyeballs now, I'm glad I did. It actually says a lot about the state of masculinities in the US, and other Western nations I would argue.

I actually did an in-depth analysis of it on my blog, which is too long to post here. For those interested, I'm going to post my introduction and then a link to where it can be read.

No, Burger King (BK) does not have the monopoly on awful advertising. Not by a long shot. But this new commercial combines sexism, racism, and probably a whole lot of other -isms that my mind wants to blank out into one nasty little package. I just… yeah. Didn’t Carl’s Jr. try this one before? And Jack in the Box? And, like, didn’t it fail? Miserably?

Shame on me for trying to apply Earth Logic to Marketing! I should know better, really. But, in all seriousness, this commercial is just plain bad. I don’t mean to pick on Burger King (well, I sort of do), but it’s making the rounds on ther internet (elsewise I never would have seen it, me being in Japan and all), and I can’t help but put my two cents in.

Read more and see the commercial here.

There's an interesting post over at These Days about (heterosexual) male attraction, in response to the Dove ad campaign. The idea, which seems to play into the concept of "homosociality," is that there's a significant amount of peer pressure to put one's personal sense of attraction aside and express attraction toward "conventionally beautiful" women (i.e., skinny, young, usually white, usually blonde):

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As one of the commenters, "a cornellian," put it:

this is a sample of a generic conversation that the post is talking about

A: "she is hot"
B: "no, not really"
A: "whats wrong with you ect ect..."

I definitely remember being person B in that conversation.

I think that this pressure to conform to the "standard" for attraction hurts a lot of men, for several reasons:

• If all men are trying to pursue the same minority of women, there's going to be a lot more competition and a lot more men who become dissatisfied (or misogynistic) when they can't find anyone "attractive."


• Men who internalize this beauty standard may be more likely to be dissatisfied with their partners.


• Men who don't internalize this beauty standard are still pressured to keep their personal preferences hidden, or are told that their preferences are abnormal or "fetishistic."

"Women need more than security to thrive, it seems. In fact, they often court the square opposite of security, as Diane Shader Smith learned when she began interviewing women for Undressing Infidelity. They court risk; they court intensity, variety, novelty, and disaster -- very much like men. It is a peculiarity of our age to portray one sex as nature's safe and law-abiding partner -- to cast it as the erotically muted, risk-averse nanny to man." -- Undressing Infidelity, Atlantic Monthly book review.

Please accept my apology if this was already mentioned elsewhere. FYIO

I don't understand why this story is not front page on CNN. They have multiple stories on the frigging Michael Jackson trial (AFTER IT IS ALREADY OVER!) but I only found this because I was doing a bit of very brief research at lunch. 63 year old man apparently has been an abuser for many, many years

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