phallicpregunta: I, like many other guys, have the whole

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phallicpregunta,
@ 2007-03-31 12:21:00

I, like many other guys, have the whole premature ejaculation problem... i last a couple of minutes and its over.... I'm wanting to know if you can suggest a certain condom that would make me last loner, or any other advice or what you and your guy have tried. thanks!

if this isn't appropriate, i'll remove it.

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last_plane_out
2007-03-31 07:18 pm UTC (link)

completely appropriate.

The most common method I've heard of is what's called "The Squeeze"

From sexinfo101:

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating, if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

You can also try using a condom which as everyone knows feels like you're screwing through a shower curtain so it may assist in delaying your enjoyment.

Topical anesthetics applied to the shaft or particularly to the underside I would think should help dramatically as well. I'm no doctor, but anything that is advertised as topical and easing pain might work. I'm thinking Orajel or Anbesol. Burn relief creams. You'll really need to wear a condom or your close friend's hoo-hoo will go all numb as well.

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thaumata
2007-06-11 04:43 am UTC (link)

I left this in a comment below, but I really think it bears repeating: I would NEVER use something like orajel or anbesol etc either inside of your partner or inside of a condom. Any product like that which might contain petroleum jelly or various other ingredients can severely weaken a condom, causing it to break during sex. also, those things weren't meant to go inside of a vagina, so don't put them there.

they make lube for things like this. check any sex site to get some.

also, if you think condoms feel like a shower curtain, i would re-evaluate the kind that you're buying. different brands do feel different. for latex condoms, i really like durex. i find trojans to be really kind of thick feeling. i LOVE polyurethane condoms and so have most of my boyfriends. they are a LOT thinner and the poly transmits heat better than latex does, so it's less obvious that you've got a barrier. Different lubes work with different condoms, too, so be sure to make sure you're compatible. I have actually known a few guys to say that the poly condoms were TOO thin and request something thicker.

the squeeze, though - that works.

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	__ohsatellites 2007-04-01 04:37 am UTC (link)
	salvia! it numbs, it worked good with my boy. youd have to wear a condom, obviously. (Reply to this)

wildnsquirrelly
2007-04-01 06:15 am UTC (link)

I'd suggest what's become known as the "There's something about Mary" approach. Simply ensure that you've already achieved orgasm before meeting your lover to last longer the second go-'round.

There's one other thing I'll do sometimes, but it can be a little risky. You could also try drinking more water throughout the day. That way you'll nearly always have to pee. Your vas defrens will be confused about which fluid it's supposed to be passing, and you'll last longer. That also has the added bonus of providing you with a good piss after and lessen the likelyhood of that which all men fear- The Stick. You know what I'm talking about- that horrible moment when you realize your cock is stuck to your shorts and your going to have to (frequently painfully) remove it. I hate it when that happens, and given that semen can remain inside you for quite a while after orgasm it's hard to avoid even after a good post-coitus clean-up.

I hope that either (or both!) of those ideas help. Good luck, and have fun.

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	xyz49153 2007-04-02 03:36 am UTC (link)
	Just masturbate before you have sex. Or masturbate more often. (Reply to this)

xyz49153
2007-04-02 03:39 am UTC (link)

Also, something that works for me, I know this sounds weird, but I would think about programming... something that requires my brain and that is totally not sexual. Usually it's just the first moments when I may need to do this. And sometimes I'll pause, and wait, or ask her to wait because if we don't pause, I'm going to come. After that though, I often don't come at all, which doesn't bother me, having been cumming for years, now...

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	thaumata 2007-06-11 04:37 am UTC (link)
	i think this is a fairly common technique. my boyfriend is a programmer and i often tease him about how he's not thinking about baseball. haha (Reply to this)(Parent)

	we_happy_few 2007-04-03 02:39 am UTC (link)
	Check out "Male Multiple Orgasm" by Mantak Chia. He lists number of techniques for getting control of your orgasms. (Reply to this)

thaumata
2007-06-11 04:36 am UTC (link)

you didn't say much about your experience with sex, and i think that's a really important factor! it can take a long time to get over that initial excitement of sex long enough to concentrate on making it last longer.

here is an example: i have a boyfriend who lives at home with his family. he's not dated much, and because he's at home, watching porn/etc is not really something he can leisurely sit around and do. instead, he'd watch for a while, then go to the bathroom and hurry up and masturbate as fast as he could, so that nobody would suspect what he was doing.

what this led to was training his body to come as fast as possible. in the time that we've been together, he's started taking his time when he masturbates, so that his body doesn't go into insanity sex mode when we can get together. i've really noticed a difference.

also, because i know that he's excitable, i often will give him a blowjob or a handjob before sex, so that he's not feeling so pressured. of course, if you don't get hard again relatively quickly, this might not work so well for you.

i would NOT recommend putting something like orajel inside of a condom or inside of your partner!!!!! i can't stress that enough!! condoms were made to go with lube, not with oral medications. using a product that doesn't work with latex will cause your condom to break, resulting in bad sexual episodes and babies. they make lube for this... look on any sex site (i like blowfish.com) and get some from there.

and last but not least, try getting your parter off with some oral first. if they've had an orgasm already, there will be less pressure for you to last so long. this would make you relax a little bit and you'd probably do better.

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