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| First post here! |
[16 Jul 2009|07:43pm] |
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I'm Dani/Danny, I'm 20 and an FTM. My partner is also an FTM, Griff, 17. We're poly, but together now since we just had a breakup of our (biomale once assumed genderqueer*) triad partner who shall be nameless. I have a public journal, because I feel that I don't really have much to hide. I'm on here I suppose mostly for gender identity discussions and relationship talk (advice?). I love my partner, but we're having some difficulty right now. In typical book-worm nerd style, I'm reading books about relationships and specifically queer.
Here's a small list of what I am reading, and please, please do reccomend any :)
The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
The Relationship Cure by John M. Gottman, Ph.D.
Love Between Men: Enhancing Intimacy and Resolving Conflicts in Gay Relationships by Rik Isensee
Perhaps one day I'll even write my own book, lulz.
*This partner became a born-again Evangelical Christian and is now dabbling in ex-gay teachings.
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Hi! My name is Beth and I am with a FTM....we have been together for 12 years now. I have never known another trans or partner of so LJ is really great. He just transitioned and going as well as I expected so I am excited for this period of our lives. I hope to meet more partners of FTM's and more FTM's. My user name looks a little funny but that is because my guy's user name is transd (short for his first name)...a little sentimental I guess :-)
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| first Post on here |
[06 Jul 2009|03:01pm] |
Name: Bennjamin nicname Benny
Age:25 yearas old
T date: april 24th 2004
Top Surgery: august-28th 2006
full Hysterctomy: september-5th 2006
Tattoos: Yes
Peircings:yes
wondering where most of the Women who see their bfs Met I am not haveing the
greatest of Luck with dating.
cheers
Benny
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| Introducing myself |
[28 Jun 2009|11:48am] |
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Hi. My name is Jessi, and I'm married/CUed to a trans man in NJ. One of our friends is trans, MTF, but we don't really know any other trans men. So... I'm here to make friends. :-)
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| toys. |
[15 Jun 2009|07:45pm] |
first my intro: since the info page said I had to..
name: Maddix
From: Oakland, CA
why I am posting: This community has helped my partner and I in so many ways just through other stories and comments.. (thank you)
favorite food: bananas. seriously.
what color underwear: you think I wont tell you.... but I will! They are black. and white. briefs. see... you wanted to know anyway.
second..
hey there.
The reason I am posting this here is because in the last few years these lj communities have done nothing but good for me, so this is me giving back.
a bit about me..
I am currently 1 year and 6 months into medical transition. I take 100 mg of injectable testosterone every ten days. I am 3 months post chest reconstruction surgery. Since starting on hormones my entire sexual world has opened and my likes/dislikes have changed completely. With my ever changing body I am more in tune to explore and that's why I am here.. to share my experiences. Basically I took another job up.. testing out sex toys. I have created this on-line journal in order to post about toys I have tested in order to broaden a perspective from someone who identifies as FTM. There are many sex toys out there and the growing trans community seems to be at a loss as to what might better work for their bodies and minds. I would like to be another voice in the mix to help people who might need a reference. If you'd like to add me ([info]toys_for_t_boys) please feel free. I promise I wont fill your page with loads of crap, as I really only do about 3 reviews a week. Usually under cuts as to not take up too much space. anyway, I hope my reviews help in your search for the perfect toy!
ps. I just got started on this project so there really isn't much to read yet.
x-posted. Apologies if you see this a few times.
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| Looking for start a meet up |
[19 May 2009|02:02pm] |
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I am currently looking to find or start a meet up of partners, allies, family of transgendered people. Or if you are trans yourself thats great too. Pretty much this this group will be pretty open to who comes.
I have found groups at centers to go to but I am looking to something that is casual and a place for people to come and meet friends talk anything play games whatever we feel like doing.
Now details:
Meet up from Vancouver, BC or surrounding areas if you can come
I would like to arrange something if people are interested maybe once or twice a month.
Meet coffee places go for lunch have a picnic anything anywhere
Mainly I just want this to be a safe place we can come meet new people and talk about things we all may be experiencing and have fun.
If this sounds like something you will be interested in let me know comment, private message me, and we can look into starting something up.
Xposted numerous places sorry if you get this more then once.
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[29 Mar 2009|07:22pm] |
Does anyone know if New Zealand is trans friendly? GLBT friendly?
Thanks!
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| Seattle Therapy |
[04 Mar 2009|07:43pm] |
So I wanted to know if any of you knew of places that will prescribe testosterone without a therapist letter. Right now, the means for attaining T so far has been getting sliding scale therapy sessions till you get a letter, then going to Pike Clinic for care... Just wanted to know (for rushing reasons) if there was a way to skip the therapy in Seattle...... I know there are a couple places in Texas that don't need letters.
Thanks in advance!
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| Action Needed in the Twin Cities (in Minnesota, USA) |
[16 Feb 2009|10:25pm] |
Your help is urgently needed in order to preserve the only existing sliding fee/no-fee mental health support for transgender and gender queer and lesbian, gay, and bi youth in the Twin Cities.
Janet Bystrom is a Licensed Social Worker who has dedicated the last 12 years to providing respectful therapeutic support to queer youth. Those who have witnessed the impact o n the hundreds of youth served by her know that the need and benefit is undeniable.
Services she provides to homeless, poor, youth who are transgender, gender queer, lesbian, gay and bi are( Read more... )
My partner and I are having a meeting at our house on Wednesday to discuss having a bake sale type thing on the West Bank (for local folks), and there is a phone bank going on next Monday. There are some significant organizations here (like The Bridge for Runaway Youth, etc.) who are behind the effort to make sure that there is enough money to keep her position open, either through Face2Face or possibly another organization like Cook or The Bridge.
If anyone would like some more information on how to be involved in saving this position, please let me know through comments here, e-mails, or phone calls (if you have my number).
This woman has done so much for so many people who are transgendered, etc. and there is literally no one else for homeless trans-youth to go to for this kind of services here.
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| Philadelphia Area SOFFAs |
[11 Feb 2009|12:02pm] |
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I have created a new community for Philadelphia area SOFFAs. I would like to invite people to join to vent, share, and provide and receive support. I plan on having meetups to really connect with the SOFFAs in the area.
This community encompasses all aspects of partners/family/supporters/allies of trans people (FTM, MTF, genderqueer, 3rd gender, and the many other alternate gender identities).
You can email me directly, post and introduce yourself, ask questions, share...this is a place where you are supported.
Please visit at: ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) philasoffas
Jen
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| Therapists |
[22 Jan 2009|06:54pm] |
So my friend Andy is interested in persuing his therapist stuff and getting his letter for T finally. Only problem is, he lives in San Antonio and I live in Seattle.
Does anyone know anyone in that area that would have suggestions on trans-friendly doctors and therapists that do sliding scale care and care for people without insurance and whatnot? He's pre-everything, so we're very much on square one. Poor boy doesn't even know where to start looking, and neither do I.
Thanks in advance!
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| Hey :) |
[21 Jan 2009|07:27pm] |
Hey everyone,
A very happy new year to you all!
My name is Imogen, I live in Cambridge UK. I was born female and am happy with my body but consider my self Gender Queer. I came out as gay at 14 (nearly wrote 144!!) and have been with my partner for a number of years now.
I am a photography student in Cambridge and I am just about to go into the final term of my 3rd year. I have covered quite a few topics over the last three years including self harm, mental health, eating disorders and physical disability. You can see some of my work here: Flickr or my own web site here: Indigo Clouds Photography
This term I want to do a project surrounding 'Gender Queer' and 'Transsexuality'. So I am looking for people who might want to be involved in the project. I will be hoping to photograph a few aspects of the topic including things like: following someone through aspects of their transition, photographing people with their families, following people to Dr's appointments, visiting and photographing both home & work, doing some studio shots (including partners, with/with out make up, in underwear etc) .. For helping me out you would get a copy of your images on a disk, a copy of your favorite 5 printed up to A2 and many many thank yous from me!
Having dealt with subjects that are often unknown to family members or friends I am more than happy for people to remain anonymous. As you can see from my self harm images most participants don't have their face in the images. I would like for some of those who wish to take part to be able to have their face in the images, purely due to the nature of the project.
I don't have any money to pay those who take part but I could help with travel costs if people are on a low income and I am more than happy to provide accommodation in the form of the sofa in my front room!
Please feel free to contact me with questions, anything you might like to know. Also, feel free to pass this post onto friends who might not see it on LJ or even to other communities. I would also like people to take part in a survey that will be part of the final project so if you would like to receive that you can get in touch.
Finally, during previous projects people have contacted me suggesting that aspects of the project might be highlighting the 'wrong' parts of the issues. I warmly welcome this contact and can only understand the subject to a point with out this source of information.
My contact details:
E mail - Imogen.Jo@Gmail.com
Mobile - 0754 99 33 030
LJ - New_Kinda_Freak
Thank you for reading,
Kind Regards,
Imogen May
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| Community-Based Participatory Research |
[19 Jan 2009|07:02pm] |
Hello!I'm an undergraduate student at the University of California, Santa Barbara. Currently, I am working with various professors and graduate students in a collaborative project with representation from Pacific Pride Foundation, Gay and Lesbian Alliance of the Central Coast, UCSB, and community members. We are members and allies of the local lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community, and are working to improve community support for LGBT individuals in Santa Barbara County and nearby areas.
We are currently looking for transgender individuals who live, work, or socialize in Santa Barbara County and nearby areas [Oxnard, Ventura, Lompoc, Santa Maria, and San Luis Obispo] to complete an anonymous and brief (10-15 minute) survey.
If you choose to participate, you will be asked to answer questions about issues, concerns, and strengths of the Central Coast LGBT community. Upon completion of the survey, you will receive a $5 coupon for amazon.com or have the option to make a donation to the charity of your choice.
If you are interested in participating, please follow this link [https://survey.ucsb.edu/communitysurvey]. From this secure website you can read about the survey, complete the survey, and get your coupon.
Let your voice be heard! Please feel free to forward this message to other members of the local LGBT community.
LGBT Community Collaborative of the Central Coast
Much Appreciated & Best Wishes,
Todd R. Avellar
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| Call for Participants: Cisgender People with Transmasculine Partners |
[16 Jan 2009|10:00am] |
My name is Avery Tompkins and I’m a trans-identified graduate student at Syracuse University in the Sociology department. I am looking for participants for a qualitative dissertation research project that is focusing on cisgender (non-trans) people who have/had partners that were assigned female at birth but who do not identify as female/woman.
This project broadly focuses on the experiences of being a cisgender partner of a trans-identified person. I am particularly interested in your everyday life with your partner, community involvement, and issues of identity. One of the goals of this research is to look at the active roles that cisgender partners do or do not play in their trans partner’s transitioning process. “Transition” is broadly defined for this project, meaning the process and act of not identifying as female/woman when assigned such at birth. There are no parameters or qualifiers around “transition”. There are also no parameters around “partner” – for example, a certain length of time in the relationship is not a requirement for participation.
Participation in this project may take the form of interviews and informal conversations (face-to-face, over IM, via webcam, phone, and/or email) and/or sharing blogs/diaries/writing. Participants are invited to engage in as many, or as few, forms of participation as they wish. You must be 18 years of age or older to participate.
Please contact me if you wish to participate or if you have any questions about the project. I can be contacted via email, IM, or Facebook. Feel free to pass this along to other individuals who may be interested in participating as well. This project has been approved by the Institutional Review Board at Syracuse University.
Sincerely,
Avery Brooks Tompkins
abtompki@syr.edu
AIM: tompkiab
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[27 Dec 2008|03:13pm] |
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Hey everyone! I'm Chris and I'm 22 years old from Massachusetts. I've been on T for three months now and there arent exactly many like minded people in my area. Well, not anymore. Most of the transguys/transwomen I know have moved away to other states. So I figured I'd join a community where I could make some new friends.
I recently told my mothers side of the family about my transitioning process and recieved mixed results. Some of my family were extremely upset. My uncle even went on to tell me how disgusting I was, followed suit by almost all of my aunts. But some were really good about it. All my cousins were accepting as were a select few of my aunts and uncles. My dads side of the family is quite different. My father doesnt know yet. My parents are divorced so I dont see my dad that often or his side of the family. I pulled my cousin aside (he's the only other glbtq member of my entire family) and talked to him about it. He told me it would be best to write that family letters letting them know so I didnt have to deal with a face to face confrontation that could possibly lead to bodily harm. This side of the family is very traditional and they tend to reject anything that isnt "normal" to them so this will be a long road.
I guess thats all I have to say right now. I'm looking forward to hearing from some of you. If you have myspace, I'm always open to new people on there too. My link is myspace.com/yourestillalivedelilah. Laidher.
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I'm a bit confused right now because my father thinks that I'm dating a biological guy and warned me against pregnancy and told me that there are a lot of ways to prevent it. Hell, I know this and never wanted to get pregnant let alone date a biological man. I just don't know how to tell him that Andy's transgendered. I don't think he'll disown me but he will probably have a hard time taking it. The only reason I need to tell him is because Andy's planning on coming up for Christmas.
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| Where are the boys? |
[19 Nov 2008|02:39pm] |
Hi. I'm skeptical about whether or not this will be helpful, but I figured I'd give it a shot. I am a bio female who loves transguys. I have recently moved to NYC and have been unsuccessful at meeting FTM's. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to meet our beloved transmen? I'm a little shy, but smart, pretty, and funny.
Help!!!!! Thanks!
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Hi I am new.
About me: I am turning 22 in a bit here so really I am 21. Also my one year is coming up in a week with my partner. I am looking forward to it. I work lots. And I read. I am wanting to start crafting and open up an online store to sell them. And my favorite colors are pink brown and apple green.
Ok, so this is the same for all relationships straight gay whatever people are. I am trying to think of some things (inexpensive if possible) that can be done to help keep the relationship exciting. We love each other madly, but something feels off sometimes.
I know he sad alot because when we go out of course people refer to us as girls or ladies. Its frustrating. For both of us. I know he tries to remember that people dont know. But I know it bothers him and it kills me to see him upset. He is pre everything, he doesnt have plans if anything to do anything untill his grandma passes i know it sounds heartless, but most of his family dont know. He mom knows and is so wonderful and has started refering to him as he and him. I dont know him any other way so its just how i refer to him. Its hard at family things because I am always considered the "friend" and try not to say he or him when I am around them.
But anyways.. I love him so much and I can be an emotional basket case so I know dating me can be hard. I want to keep us both excited about seeing each other and being with each other. Any help is welcome.
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| Stu Rasmussen Elected Mayor in Oregon |
[08 Nov 2008|08:22pm] |
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I haven't seen this posted anywhere on my LJ f-list...so I thought I'd share. If you've already seen it...sorry.
Stu Rasmussen is transgender and was elected mayor of Silverton, Oregon.
Here's a link to his website (I think I'm using the right pronoun...) Stu Rasmussen
What I think is the coolest part of this is that he's now mayor of a small town...not a big city.
x-posted here and there...sorry if you see it more than once.
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Some people call me "G." Born and raised on the East Coast. Currently live near Philadelphia. Joining to get back in touch with the community. Favorite food, depends on my mood. I have a fondness for filet mignon, practically raw. Underwear, not wearing any right now, because I'm in bed. Don't like to wear anything in bed (unless its a smile). Very important to let the body rest you know. When wearing clothing, the color doesn't matter. I do, however, make sure they have been laundered.
In my 30's...mid 30's. Always been a sucker for a bois and FTM's. I love their energy and attitude, confident (not cocky) and shy at times. I appreciate the yin and yang. I'm also very much in awe. It takes real balls (no pun intended) live the way you feel when it bucks the predominant culture. You guys take the risks to be your true self. I admire that.
Anyway, just thought I'd say hi to the clan here.
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