Bob King - FirewheelVortex ([info]firewheelvortex) wrote in [info]paradigmshifter,
@ 2004-03-14 08:43:00
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My Byline on @Politics


Only the Tip of the Iceberg


The sudden, and to some alarming, debate on what marriage is promises to be a tempest in a teapot compared to accepting that the entire culture has dramatically changed within one generation.


@Politics Published me!

Good news, wonderful news! I worked on that bloody article for days, until, of course, I could no longer even see it.

So when I got the email that it was up, I found that it was filled with
the most horrid grammatical errors known to man.


My apologies; from now on, I'll have my wife proofread...

But anyway, it's a perspective piece on the marriage debate, and I think there might be a thought or two in it that may not have occured to many folks.

Crossposted to groups likely to have a genuine interest in the issue. Oh, and if you are lib, @politics looks like a good place to bookmark, with a lively forum populated with a very hip crowd. Even though they did publish my piece...


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[info]the_mendicant
2004-04-16 02:02 pm UTC (link)
I read your article and was very impressed by it. I have spent 14 years in a highly conservative, structured mariage, and the last 2 years in an increasingly polyamorous/open mariage.

I see both sides therefor and agree wholeheartedly that what worked for my mother and her mother, is not what works for me. However, I do feel that just because my world outlook has changed, it does not mean that Mother should be forced to agree with my chosen path.

I have had to confront this issue from the point of deciding whether to tell my parents that a I have a boyfriend as well as a husband. I would so like to do that, and introduce this amazing man to them - the man who has if anything, made my maried relationship stronger. I do not believe however, that it would be the right thing to do to my parents. All they would see, would be the threat to ordered society as they know it - and the possibility that my children will get psychologically damaged by what happens around them.

It would be easier for me, to get it off my chest and not have to worry about what I say, and to whom, but it would not be easier for my elders. In the words of Bob Dylan, I think I am reading you to mean that the old order should get out of the way, for 'the times they are a changing'? However, just as Asperger Syndrome is one part of the continuum which is the Autistic Spectrum, we and our beliefs are just one part of the continuum which is society today. Our forebears shaped the world we have today, and while much may no longer be relevant - should we not still respect their need to cling to the familiar?

I'm sorry if this has gone on a bit, but I was genuinely inspired by your article, and am looking forward to reading future out put. My thanks xx

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