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NPD Family Support Group (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)
Share stories, frustrations, and any news related to NPD.
Created on 2005-05-12 16:56:31 (#7093871), last updated 2009-12-02
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Basic Info| Name: | NPD Family Support Group |
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| Membership: | Moderated |
| Posting Access: | All Members |
AboutClick Here to join!* *Membership is moderated. Read below for requirements. (in short, to be accepted into the community, you either have to have your livejournal profile filled out as well as have at least one public journal entry, or you have to e-mail CompeteWithNo1 or moggymania and tell us a bit about yourself and why you want to join the community) New to LJ? Click Here to learn how to post in communities! Check out LiveJournal's FAQ for additional help.What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a pattern of self-centered or egotistical behavior that shows up in thinking and behavior in a lot of different situations and activities. People with NPD won't (or can't) change their behavior even when it causes problems at work or when other people complain about the way they act, or when their behavior causes a lot of emotional distress to others. This pattern of self-centered or egotistical behavior is not caused by current drug or alcohol use, head injury, acute psychotic episodes, or any other illness, but has been going on steadily at least since adolescence or early adulthood. A more comprehensive description of the disorder and how to recognize it can be found HERE. Who this group is for... Children of Narcissists Narcisstic parents typically look to the child to meet their needs. This expectation is harmful to the child's overall mental health, which carries into adulthood. It is very similar to children raised in alcoholic homes. These homes appear "normal and healthy" to the outside world. It is often the children who suffer, and suffer alone. In homes such as these, the child's job is to make sure the parent's needs are being filled. In doing such, their identity, not to mention their "true feelings" are stuffed deep within them. They know something isn't right, but the family looks so perfect on the outside, that often it is the child who is blamed. Hence, children from these homes are often overlooked because the adult narcissist will make sure things "look good" on the outside. Children will not really understand what their feelings are, because the true expression of feelings is discouraged in a house run by a narcisstic parent. Often the child struggles alone. Spouses/Partners of Narcissists Spouses/Partners of Narcissists are often subjected to many different forms of abuse and psychological conditioning, while the relationship appears to be "normal and healthy" on the outside. In that respect, their situations are not entirely unlike that of children with Narcissist parents. However, when one dedicates oneself to a Narcissist, one changes and begins to lose the sense of one's self due to the depreciating behaviour of the Narcissist. A thick skin or armour develops in order to survive and one's integrity and moral sense diminishes. There is a gradual loss of sensitivity to the feelings of other people and a loss of sensitivity to one's own needs and feelings which culminates in the loss of one's own sense of self, or one's soul. Parents of Narcissists NPD cannot be truly diagnosed until after adolesence, but even after they're grown up, they're still your children. Many Narcisists have good relationships with their parents, as they are seen to be athority figures and therefore someone to respect. However, relationships do turn sour and parents too can be subjected to emotional abuse from their Narcissistic children. Other family members of Narcissists The more one reaches out to please a Narcissist, the more deprived one feels and the more vulnerable one is to being hurt. Their needs are like a bottomless well and the expectation is that one can give one's life-blood to please them, but that will never be enough and never be good enough. They are extremely critical, and they contradict themselves constantly. They can never be wrong, and everything must go their way. Even if you don't have a close personal relationship with the Narcissist, just coexisting with them can sometimes be frusterating and emotionally abusive. ...And anyone else who is affected profoundly by a Narcissist, such as partners and friends of those mentioned above, as well as coworkers of the Narcissist. How this group is run... Some Useful Abbreviations... "Narcissist" can be cumbersome to type over and over again, so feel free to use these abreviations.
Helpful links about NPD... These sites are good resources for learning more about the disorder, understanding abuse and coping with Narcissists. Some of these links have an academic and/or professional background, and some do not. Please be aware of this. Other Resources... The following may take you beyond the scope of the sites listed above. Our Book & PDF lists are works in progress, so feel free to contribute to them! More Support Groups... There are many groups out there - you are not alone! Not sure which group is right for you? Check out Finding a Support Group Using Basic Critical Thinking and Common Sense. On Sam Vaknin... Sam Vaknin is often hailed as a top (if not the) leading authority on Narcissism, and has published/facilitated a plethora of useful and insightful information. However, Vaknin is also a Narcissist and has said that he himself is therefore not to be trusted. As he is a Malignant Narcissist, personal contact with this man is discouraged. Do your best to look at the situation objectively and with a grain of thought. Please don't dismiss him completely, but wariness is not a bad thing. And above all, trust your gut. Here are a few links about Mr. Vaknin, authored both by him and by others. Link to this Community... Parts of this group description have been taken from some of the sites that're linked above. We do not claim that any of the above information is original, and only present it as a means to inform and encourage more research by those to whom it pertains. If you have any suggestions, complaints, or questions about this group, or would like to suggest a link to include in the above description, please contact ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} competewithno1 or moggymania. Thanks! |
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