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Has any women in here ever been made to diet? Is this a fairly popular thing some doms do? Did you loose weight? Did you keep it off? Thanks!
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| Have I mentioned lately that I'm a lucky bastard? |
[04 Jul 2008|05:46pm] |
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Much of my organizational world seems to be falling into place at the moment (I hope my personal life catches up with it sometime soon [and then goddess blesses me, the Butch and I are talking again]). MVK inviting me to be on their incipient board, VASM asking me to be the Program Committee Chair, The Frugal Domme wanting me to vend beside her at Folsom, and now I'm going to get something going in my own hometown I've always wanted.
Tuesday August 26th at Friction (Vancouver's newest [and nicest] gay bath house [123 Pender St, just around the corner from the Lotus]), MVK presents a very kinky, very mixed (yes really, everyone with manners is welcome) evening at the baths. Standard rates apply with a toonie donation thrown in for MVK. It's a big place on two floors (the main floor is accessible), very shiny, lots of rooms (there's lockers [cheap!], sling rooms and doubles too), and an amazing amount of public play/sex space (and there's an inside bike rack :o).
I thought it would be like pulling teeth getting the manager to listen, but he went for it. We're looking at doing five or so on a Tuesday, then if we can build a successful event, he's willing to look at weekend dates. I want input on how to introduce unfamiliar folks to the experience.
So I'm asking;
How should we promote it?
What problems should we prepare for?
What kind of programming should we run?
Would you attend?
ce moi
that (getting things done) SpencerBear
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| FetLife -- fetish social networking site! |
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i was turned on (pardon the pun) to FetLife by some kinky myspace friends. it's a social networking site for kinksters by kinksters! it's awesome! check it out!
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| A BadBear Worx Queery |
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Just to take care of the nasal news first, I'm talking to the Doc tomorrow.
Today's question is a bit more mundane. I as BadBear Worx have just been offered half a booth at Dore Alley for $270 (one day), with transportation ($200) sling frame rental ($50) and housing ($200?), that's a fair chunk of change. What's the state of the Bay area economy (I know the Democrats are coming, but they're not here yet) ? Can I honestly expect enough CASH sales for my comfortable well made made machine washable slings (5 is my absolute minimum @ $160) to make it worth the risk of foodbanking it (something I really hate) again for another two months? I can make lots of black ones (even if they are boring), and I should have a few other products (tool roll ups and harnesses) to widen out the line a bit. I'm also thinking about bringing a box or two of Cuban's down and letting them go quietly too. I'd really like to do it, but Kinkfest in Portland scared me. Can I ask for some encouragement?
I'd also like to ask for some local transport help in SF, I need to get the sling frame (drywall scaffold 6' x 30" max [I've carried one in the back of a Toyota Echo]) from and to the Homo Despot Rents south of Daly City, and if anyone knows a longish couch SOMA that might like a strange bear (with pretty good manners) sleeping on it Saturday and Sunday night, July 26-27 I might feel like trying it out.
that (BigAss Sling maker) SpencerBear
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| A Medical Queery for them that might know |
[04 Jun 2008|06:32pm] |
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Hi Folks,
for those of you who are familiar with my visage, there lies a mighty snoz in it's midst. It's been a major source of pleasure when I get my face in certain folk's down there bits and I've enjoyed what I can do with it.
I've been called back by the ENT surgeon who wants to straiten my deviated septum. I'm starting to wonder if undeviating said septum would weaken it to point where too much nasal diddling might break it again (and cause bleeding, and I think some of us know how I feel about risking mixing my blood and sex).
Any opinions? Any questions I should ask?
that (nasally gifted) SpencerBear
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[28 May 2008|04:35pm] |
A few thoughts on the "On your knees, slut!" school of online BDSM interaction...
I was thinking about this today after being told that I am far too nice to be an effective Domme.
*laughs* Tell the boy I play with in Altanta that, watch him laugh hysterically.
But it promtped me to add to my B~com profile, and I'm interested to see the reactions it gets here:
It's worth mentioning, as I've received comments on being 'too nice' and 'too humble' to be a Domme, that my philosophy is a little different. *laughs*
Simply because someone is submissive, doesn't make them less of a person or even less than I, myself. Frankly, you may be a better person that I, regardless of your orientation. The phrase 'Namaste' has been translated (very, very roughly) to mean, "That which is sacred in me, greets that which is sacred in you". What is sacred in you is no less sacred for the fact that it tastes my crop, for the fact that you kneel before me. And to me, deserves no less respect.
Sure, in scene I will abuse you, I will call you names, and I will hurt you until you make yummy noises... but we're not scening here. Here, and in most of my interactions, you're not only a person but a piece of the sacred... and, of course, a potential chewtoy. ;-)
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| Advice, please? |
[28 May 2008|04:20pm] |
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So the sub I've started playing with is really into kitty play.
I've never done animal role-play. I'm willing and reasonably interested, just never done it and my google-fu is failing me.
Tips, ideas, stories about your oxn experiences with it?
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| Idle question... |
[27 Apr 2008|11:46am] |
At what point do you/would you step up and into someone else's business to let them know that their submissive is acting in a way that doesn't reflect very well on them?
Would you send a note to someone that you didn't know who's submissive was making a complete ass of themselves on a national list?
If someone's submissive was rumor-mongering about you or actively creating difficulties for you on message boards or blogs would you appeal to their dominant before dealing with the owner of the site?
I've just noticed a resurgance of "can't touch me 'cause I got a Master" in a spot or two on the net.
If you were the dominant and someone wrote you out of the blue that your submissive was out of line... how would you handle it?
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| Starting a munch? |
[20 Apr 2008|07:32pm] |
So it looks like there's a crapload of people in my area who are kinky...\ at least, if you go by Collarme.com.
Problem is, there is no IRL community. None. Seriously. It sucks ass.
So I'm thinking about starting a set of munches. Any suggestions ont he best way to go about it? Horror/success stories?
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Hiya everyone. New here. Looking forward to being a part of the Group!
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Thanx ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) bitterlawngnome |
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| Busy as ten bears . . . |
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.all fixin' and fussin', making sure there'll be more big asses in more BigAss Slings.
Well, that was certainly productive. Two hours, but now there's decent lighting (needed for sewing black thread on black webbing) at the machine and I've topped up the oil, and with the fiddling and fitting I think I'll have a usable workspace.
Now, I just have to make up my mind about IMsL (May 1-4 in San Francisco), I really want to go, last year was sooooo much fun, but I'll need a hotel roommate and/or minion to make it really workable. Anybody want a roomie? Anybody want to be a minion? I don't snore much and most of my noise will be made in one of the 24 hr dungeons (yes, really :o) in the hotel. I'm small vendor, aka BadBear Worx, and coming down from Canada is always expensive and I'd be prepared to barter for hotel space.
that (sling sewing) SpencerBear
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| WTF??? |
[28 Feb 2008|07:07pm] |
Spanking Raises Chances of Risky, Deviant Sexual Behavior
Review found physical punishment of kids linked to unprotected, masochistic sex as adults
Aside from questions regarding the validity of the study, there's the annoying question of WTF's wrong with "bondage and discipline sex".
Article here; lots more articles I'm sure to come.
I don't have time right now to go read the original study.
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| Hello! *waves* |
[28 Feb 2008|01:29am] |
Hi, I'm new to the "scene" whatever that means but I've been sub...for oh....a stupid amount of time. My Master is my husband who has been my Dom since before we were married. We discovered our natural urges for sub (in my case) and dom (in his) together and have explored it together.
We're into basic bondage and spanking/whipping and verbal, and knife play, blood play is a no for me (past issues with self harming), breathe play a no (claustrophobia), and fire play...well we just don't feel coordinated enough to pull that off.
We're hoping to go to a local munch and basically I'm going to be lurking and learning and posting when i have anything of interest to say.
Which happens from time to time.
but yes....*wave*
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| Minnesota educational opportunity |
[12 Feb 2008|04:44pm] |
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| My Fireplay handout for the Feb 1st MVK Workshop |
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Hi Folks,
This is a link to the final (?) version
that (flaming hot) SpencerBear
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| Interesting question... |
[14 Jan 2008|05:58pm] |
And rather than be percieved as snarky on the forum that germinated this thought and post, I figured I'd do it here-
Given the general willingness for people to talk about and decribe thier kink in the same way as they talk about thier sexual orientation - often going so far as to describe as a sexual orientation.
If the question is, "How do I introduce my vanilla partner to kink?"
Isn't that really the same thing as asking, as someone nominally bisexual for the purposes of the question, "How do I introduce my heterosexual partner to gay sex?" (or, "How do I introduce my homosexual partner to straight sex?")
Isn't this whole question a little disingenuous? If it is a sexual orientation, then leave them the fuck alone! Go find a damn munch or a website or a club and pick somebody up from there! Quit trying to "convert" people - or you have no damn business arguing kink is an "inherent part of who you are."
If it's inherent, then they'd be doing it!
This mini-rant provided by the 2nd Draft Of edwarddain's Dissertation in partnership with A Very Slow Night At The Office.
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[12 Dec 2007|04:19pm] |
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