| Pansexual Leather Social Group Forming in Northeast USA for 21-35 y.o. and their partners! |
[Jan. 7th, 2008|04:57 pm] |
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PLEASE CROSSPOST ANYWHERE APPROPRIATE!
From ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) pony_sprite
goLEATHER Northeast is holding its first meeting/party on Saturday January 26th in Rockville, MD!
( What is goLEATHER? )
goLEATHER Northeast's first meeting will be held in a transit-accessible location in Maryland on January 26th, 2008 from 4pm till our hosts throw us out! Our first formal meeting will dissolve into a social party and potluck so please bring something with you if you are attending. Please contact the email below privately for location information. As always, goLEATHER is 100% free to attend.
More information can be found at http://www.goleather.org
If you would like to RSVP and receive the address you can do so to at smileyponie@gmail.com
(x-posted all over teh blagoblags [and by that, I mean Teh LJ blagoblags]) |
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| Polite Request |
[Jun. 14th, 2007|04:41 am] |
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Hi, I've been a long time lurker of this community, mostly because I like reading, but never really had anything major to post.
I'm working to set up an online sex-toy shop, but, one of the key things in doing any shop/business etc, is making sure you have what people want, don't have what people don't want etc. Obviously I can't please all the people all the time, but I'd like to try to get some "majority opinions".
I'm trying to round up as many "willing volunteers" to answer some polls/market research type things, but I don't want to spam lots of communities with polls on a regular basis. This is an "alt" journal for me, and in a rare moment of madness, I'm going to link my alt to my main journal, because thats where I've stuck the poll.
If there's anybody out there, who can spare 5 minutes or so to go to the poll and fill it in, I'd be forever grateful. It doesn't matter if you're British, American, from elsewhere, the great thing about the internet is it brings everybody together into one amalgamated heap! :)
This is the only time I'm going to bug the community on this, bar perhaps a brief plug when the site is up and running (Mod: Would this be ok?), so if you're willing to continue answering polls for me, offering input etc, then please leave a comment on the post and I'll keep you in the loop.
The only person who can see the actual answers given is me, although obviously for vote type things the number of answers are shown, you do need to be signed in to answer it tho (much to my annoyance, I'd far rather offer it as an entirely anonymous poll).
The Poll can be found here
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| Self-conscious |
[Feb. 8th, 2007|03:46 pm] |
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Hi there, I'm Veleda, and I'm 19. I've been interested in BDSM for a few years, but I have no practical experience. To the best of my knowledge I'm a submissive and a light masochist. It's the latter part that I'm here to talk about.
I don't like heavy pain. A lot of Sadism/Masochism stuff I hear about makes me cringe. I worry that this makes me...not kinky enough, or something. That may be irrational, bt I also worry that potentional partners won't be interested in me, and will look for someone who can take more punishment.
I figure that there are dominants who aren't sadists, but I don't know how common they are. Are there sadists who don't mind inflicting just a little pain?
I'm really revealing my naivety here, aren't I? I just wanted to get it off my chest. |
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| New To LiveJournal |
[Feb. 3rd, 2007|09:12 pm] |
Hi, everyone!
I'm Dani. I'm a vanilla girl w/ a spanking fetish. If anyone is interested in reading a 12 pg., summery of, (My Real Life S&M Story, Dani66) I would appreciate "any" comments/opinions you may have.
I'm also looking to make "new friends", so if any of you are open to a "new friend" let me know so I can add you to "my friends." Because I don't have a lot of "friends" since I'm new.
Thanks,
Dani66 |
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| Starting a new blog... |
[Dec. 11th, 2006|12:12 pm] |
...and I thought some of the readers here might be interested.
anwyn25 is a blog I've started to house my thoughts, ramblings and musings on sex, sexuality and society from my bi, poly, kinky point of view. Please feel free to come past and take a look! |
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| Miss Vanilla's Guide to Being a Mistress |
[Aug. 14th, 2006|12:32 am] |
Hi all. I've been lurking around LJ communities for a while, so I've decided to post this thing I've been working on. :) I hope it's appropriate for this group: It's called "Miss Vanilla's Guide to Being a Mistress". It's really just a collection of ideas and suggestions that have come to me as I learn more about dominating boys, now that I have dommed a few. I'm no expert at sex or psychology, but I'd like to share my thoughts, and maybe even inspire a few "vanilla" couples to try out this fun and sexy thing called female domination ;P. It sounds intimidating at first, but with some creativity and communication it can be the sexiest and most rewarding thing you do with your guy.
btw, this is pretty much a constant work in progress, so PLEASE post your comments! If you don't mind me adding your thoughts to the guide, say so, and I will add them and give you credit!
( Guide under cut. Cross-posted to a few others communities, like SexTips. )
So, I have tried my best to outline some ideas. You could read this guide a thousand times, but really, the best way to be a sexy dom and to have a fun, rewarding sex life with your man is to communicate and try new things out. Pay attention to your man's turn-ons and turn-offs, and use them to make him miserable (or euphoric!).
So, what do you guys think? |
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| Moving house |
[Feb. 4th, 2006|05:15 pm] |
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Apologies to those of you who've had me whinging at you elsewhere about this, but I think there are probably some people here who might have some suggestions for me, who I haven't already managed to catch with posts elsewhere.
I'm going to be moving out of London to Bury St Edmunds in about a month. While I'm not going to lose my London based friends, I would like some advice on meeting kinky people out there. So far I've found the mailing lists for the Cambridge and Norwich munches and joined them. I'd consider setting up a munch in Bury, but it's been pointed out to me elsewhere that Bury might be a bit small to support a munch as people will fear meeting neighbours/colleagues there.
Any advice on people I should talk to/other places online to look/other things I should be doing?
(cross posted a little (non_lifestylers)+ (ukbdsm)) |
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| Intro |
[Jan. 7th, 2006|06:13 pm] |
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I am brand-spankin new to non-lifestylers ( pun intended ) and to LJ in general. I am from a very small town in a mostly rural area, where outlets for BDSM / B&D / etc are few and far between. Thus, my only option seems to be the internet. Needless to say, my experience is pretty minimal. I'm a 42 year-old guy, who has fantasized about such things all my adult life. But I have never had much of a chance to actually DO much about it. Is there anybody out there?........ |
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| Fetish Clothing |
[Aug. 6th, 2005|08:32 pm] |
As a dom, I can say that doms as a stereotype like to see their subs wearing chains, corsets, cuffs, hobble dresses/skirts, revealing things that make the sub visually vulnerable, and little to nothing at all as well as a whole range of other things. I can say that as a dom personally, my tastes are pretty much the same.
But, uh, that doesn't do me much good when it comes to shopping for clothes for myself ;) And if ever I try and ask my sub herself what she thinks I'd look hot in, the usual answer is "everything" or a cheeky smile and "nothing!". So I throw the question out to all you submissives - what do you like to see your dom wearing? Is there any kind of theme that makes you go, "Ooh, big shiny dominant person that is pretty", or something to that effect? What's hot and sexy on a dom from the sub's point of view? (Clothing choices, please, I'm far too tired for a debate about The Perfect Dom(tm) ;)) |
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| S&T - Wednesday 20th July - please note CCK now require cover charge |
[Jul. 14th, 2005|12:12 pm] |
Its been a while and it was thanks to this community that we started this, so just a reminder.
http://www.adultguide.org.uk/slapandtickle
http://www.livejournal.com/community/slapandtickle/
For people in London to meet socially those who enjoy fetish/bdsm/kink/sex whatever as part of their sex lives but not necessarily as a lifestyle. Non-scene, non club just ordinary people with a healthy interest in play and kink in addition to their other sexual activities.
Downstairs in the Lounge Area of Coffee Cake and Kink
6.30pm to 8.30pm at http://www.coffeecakeandkink.com/ 61 Endell Street, Covent Garden, London WC2.
The opening hours are: Monday-Saturday 11am - 7pm.
Tel: 020 7419 2996
We have the downstairs from 6.30pm to 8.30pm all to ourselves but feel free to come along before then, we should be there from 6.00pm. Cost £5 which includes your first drink free, no money to us this is a cover charged by CCK.
So we look forward to seeing you there. |
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| intro... |
[Jun. 29th, 2005|12:08 pm] |
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Hello Everyone!
I'm Mina, a new member to the comm! I've been into the world of BDSM since 2000 (I used to be a net Domme) but over the years up until now, my enjoyment of it has disipated because of various factors. But lately, I've been really wanting to get back into it....and wondered if someone out there had any suggestions or pointers to help me move from online to RL (I think I'm ready to do some flesh to flesh spanking hee hee). Also, are there any sites out there for clothing/hardware/toys that wont drain every penny from this poor, college Domme's purse? Any comments/suggestions will be greatly appreciated....
Mina~
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| Toys for hitting |
[May. 30th, 2005|01:23 pm] |
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I want to acquire more toys for hitting people with:-) *mischievious grin* and would like some advice on good toys to start with. I own a hairbrush/rubber soled shoes/wooden spoon, but I'm guessing these aren't the best things to start with, given that they can all bruise easily (I've certainly bruised myself with a hairbrush in the past - without realising what I'd done until long afterwards).
Where do you recommend as good places to buy toys at reasonable prices? (either online or within London). Yes, I'm aware of a number of places that exist - I'm really after some personal recommendations. If I were to decide to try and make my own toys out of leather, where can I obtain leather easily/at a sensible price?
What are the best things to use for practice? My hand-eye coordination isn't the best so while I'd be fairly confident I could be accurate with paddles/hairbrushes/plimsoles etc I suspect I'd need a lot of practice (on something inanimate!) if you're going to suggest I start with a whip/flogger etc. I'm not adverse to using myself for experimentation purposes, but I don't think that'd teach me the skills to place strokes accurately on someone else.
How do you learn to keep your blows even? I understand that sometimes you don't want to do that, but how do I learn the control to bring $implement down with approximately the same amount of force $times. |
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| BDSM Survey-- Sponsored by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom |
[May. 5th, 2005|02:08 pm] |
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is proud to support the following Towson University survey of BDSM practitioners:
"SPACES OF BDSM"
A survey of the spaces and places utilized by BDSM players. Online at: http://fusion.towson.edu/www/surveys/geography/
To better understand the community that we serve, NCSF has teamed with Dr. Douglas Herman, a Geography professor at Towson University, to conduct a study of the kinds of spaces and places in which BDSM activities take place. Because of the societal constraints placed on BDSM activities and players, we seek to learn more about how BDSM participants have found or developed spaces for interaction. These
include public venues (munches, festivals), private venues (playrooms, dungeons, etc.) and even the extent
to which people have modified their homes to accommodate BDSM equipment and practices. It also
includes the extent to which BDSM participants feel comfortable expressing their lifestyle in public
through clothing or other outward signs.
This project is an academic study. It has been approved by Towson University's Institutional Review
Board for the Protection of Human Participants, and adheres to the highest standards of professional
research and responsibility. The identities of all contributors and venues will be anonymous on all
documents that result from this study, except in cases where explicit permission is given in writing.
It is our hope that the results of this study will provide knowledge useful to the BDSM community and
further the ability of the NCSF to protect the rights of its constituents. Knowledge and information are
power. Too often BDSM-oriented social and educational spaces are targeted by government, zoning and/or other legal officials. Having direct and supportable information about that discrimination and the chilling
affect such discrimination has against members of our communities is critical. It is the intent of this
study that the results will be published in an academic journal. This information will NOT be
submitted to news media or government agencies.
We hope that you will find this survey interesting and enjoyable. Thank you in advance for taking the time to assist us in this worthwhile project.
Leigha Fleming
NCSF Board Member
Dr. Douglas Herman
Towson University
You can take this survey securely and anonymously online at:
http://fusion.towson.edu/www/surveys/geography/
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A project of NCSF and NCSF Foundation
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults
who practice forms of alternative sexual _expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting
adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of
their sexual _expression.
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
822 Guilford Avenue, Box 127
Baltimore, MD 21202-3707
410-539-4824
media@ncsfreedom.org
www.ncsfreedom.org |
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| New Dom seeking a mentor |
[Apr. 28th, 2005|12:21 pm] |
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Very new to both BDSM and being a Dom (well, an official one anyway), but I was approached by someone wanting to be my sub. Very much a gender-interesting one, I'm female-to-male trans, my new sub (yes, it's been negotiated with the understanding that it's going to be a learning experience for both of us) is a cross-dresser who identifies as male and bi. I could really use some advice/friendship from more experienced people (Dom or Sub). My LJ is friends-locked, but I am quite happy to add anyone willing to mentor a new person. Help? |
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| Problems of meeting non-lifestylers |
[Feb. 3rd, 2005|01:07 pm] |
Finding myself available, I'm wondering how you go about looking for non-lifestyle potential partners. My experience with the BDSM scene is that there is little room in it for the non-lifestyler, and I find it particular depressing how few of the adverts on personals sites seem to have an interest in a relationship which has a significant non-BDSM aspect. On the other hand, it's not exactly easy to introduce that side of things when meeting people in a vanilla situation. I've been lucky in the past in finding partners in ostensibly vanilla but definitely kink-friendly environments in the past, but that's not such a promising option these days—everyone I know through those channels is definitely a friend and not a potential partner.
So I'm just wondering, how has anyone else gone from being single, and knowing they had an interest in BDSM, into a successful non-lifestyle relationship? |
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| North Carolina legislation |
[Jan. 27th, 2005|02:47 pm] |
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North Carolina is currently considering a constitutional amendment to prohibit any recognition of non-traditional relationships. If you have a vote here, please consider contacting your legislators.
I haven't crossposted this, so please forward it on to any communities that would be receptive and to anyone else who can help. |
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| confused, and a bit intimidated. |
[Jan. 26th, 2005|10:56 am] |
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I have a few questions, but I'm not sure where to start. I do not know a whole lot about BDSM and am far from sexually experienced. BDSM does interest me quite a bit, and I've always found the black and white BDSM art photography beautiful; but I don't know where to start as far as learning exactly what it entails.
My current Boyfirend prefers to be the "bottom," and I'm not sure what I am. In my past relationships, there was never any discussion of who was dominate--we were equal--that, and we weren't sexually active anyway. Since this is my first relationship that is truly sexually involved, I'm not sure how to go about much of anything.
How does one determine what they are (top/bottom)? How do you approach that subject with your partner? My Boyfriend is fairly submissive when it comes to just about every aspect of our relationship, and I guess I take on the dominate role for the most part; but my being the more proactive one in the relationship doesn't bother me at all--it just worries me that it may be emasculating for him.
Also, he says that if I hold him down and "role-play," that it's better for him. There are times when this intimidates me a bit. For one, I'm not sure how exactly to role-play or what he means by it. And second, there are moments when I think, "this is too much like rape," and I "...ruin it..." for him. Whenever I talk to him about it, he gets uncomfortable and changes the subject; and instead of telling me exactly what he means, he uses sounds instead of actual words. (ie. "It helps when you...'nyaah.' You know...")
*sighs*
Anyone have any advice? 'cause I am so lost... |
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