I hear many success stories about putting the cervix INSIDE the cup and poof! no more leaking. Well... the second my cervix gets inside my cup...POOF! my seal breaks. i hear it..i feel it....i LEAAAAK! am i doing something wrong? Is there something extra that i need to do when putting my cervix in the cup as opposed to just putting the cup below it?

Oh btw,i'm asking because my divacup only works on my first day. After that my cervix is too low for it to sit below it and not be coming out of my vagina and i leak for the rest of my period.

*Update*
I bought the Lunette. It was what I was leaning towards, and with someone telling me its soft kind of like the ladycup, I'm sure I will have found the perfect cup for me, finally.



Okay, so I started out with a small divacup. It was uncomfortable, felt like I was constantly squeezing on my bladder because the rim just felt too big.

So I finally got a small green ladycup just to try out (also recently got the lotos) I loved it, until now. I literally have been emptying my cup every hour all night long, and throughout the day. Its also leaking hardcore (the cup is FULL when I take it out).

I tried the divacup again, knowing it was bigger, but it still hurts.

So I came on here to check out larger capacity cups and liked the looks of the lunette and fleurcups. They seem bigger, but the rim is still a bit smaller than the divacup.

What I want to know is what is the material like? I think I like my ladycups so much because they're so soft. 

Or should I just stick with a ladycup and get the larger size?

Thank you!

I am not a frequent poster to this forum, but I just wanted to say how glad I am that it exists. If it weren't for the amazing discussions that take place here, I would have given up on menstrual cups!

I'm 26 years old and have never been pregnant. Six years ago, I bought a Divacup and started using it. I followed the instructions that came with the cup, and inserted and placed it as the manufacturers said I should. I had light to medium periods, and the cup always leaked just enough to where I needed to wear a pantyliner with it. But I felt it was still way more comfortable than tampons, and of course less wasteful, so I stuck with it. And so it went for about five and a half years.

Then six months ago, I decided to get a copper IUD put in. That TOTALLY changed my menstruation. Suddenly I had strong cramps and was bleeding about three times the amount I had before. And my Divacup, for all intents and purposes, quit working. It never got full, but it would leak like crazy, and I gave up on it and was using thick cloth pads instead. Soon, I was frustrated with those too. I would always bleed through them, and getting all the blood out of the thick fabric when washing them was a pain. Plus, I had to have a huge supply of them to get me through my periods. I was about ready to give up and go back to using disposable pads and tampons.

So, a few days ago, I was in the middle of the heaviest part of my period, and I came here and started doing some careful reading on the "leaking" section. I found a discussion about how you shouldn't necessarily listen to the instructions that come with your cup, and for some women, it works way better to wear the cup up high and make sure your cervix is actually sitting inside the cup.

Well...it worked. I put my cup in, using some water based lube to make sure I could move it around easily, pushed it up high, and felt around the rim to figure out where my cervix was in relation to the cup. And it was completely outside of it - the cup was pushed up against my anterior vaginal wall, with my cervix behind it. No wonder it was leaking like crazy! I tilted the cup backward and made sure it was around my cervix, then made sure it was up as high as it could go. I've been using that technique for two days now, and it hasn't leaked a bit. It's also more comfortable to wear this way, because I occasionally used to have problems with the stem and grip rings irritating the opening of my vagina, even after I cut the stem completely off. Now I can't feel it at all. Another plus is, it doesn't block my urethra when I wear it up high, so it doesn't take ages to pee.

So I just wanted to say how cool it is that you ladies are such independent thinkers when it comes to menstrual cups. You solved my six year long problem with my Divacup! You rock.

Hi, I've been around a while so you've probably seen my leak problem posts.
I've decided to try yet another cup to see if I can find the 'perfect' one for me:-) I'd like your help this time as last time I didn't ask for help & I'm still in the same 'boat'(still leaking w/lg. ladycup).

My 1st cup was lg. diva. It leaked badly. When I turned it inside-out it got better but still leaked.
I figured out my cervix sits low & I always felt the diva was long so that's why I tried the lg. ladycup.

It leaks also! I'm thinking w/the holes so low on the cup + my cervix sitting in it, the capacity just does not cut it.

What do you think?

I'm considering a fleurcup b/c of it's larger capacity & higher hole placement, but I live in the US.

Thought about a Yuuki but it's long.
Considering a lg. Lunette....tho capacity isn't much more than lc.

? Would a shorter w/larger capacity cup work better than my lg. ladycup if the holes are placed high? Reason I ask is, it seems w/my cervix in the lc & the holes being low it leaks. If the cup could hold more, & the holes are higher up than the lc holes, but shorter.....ummmm, what do u think?

And what about a narrower cup? I've read somewhere if it's too wide the walls of the vagina may put pressure on the holes causing it to leak. So would a narrower cup like the MPower lg. work better even if the capacity is the same as the ladycup?

I never thought I'd think this much over my MOON:-)
Sorry this is so long..........

Thanks for your help in advance,

Hey again everyone. I posted a couple weeks ago its about 4/5 posts down if you're looking in the leaking and spotting section...
so.....
I am DOUBLE CHECKING that my cervix is indeed in the cup
I am using the punch down fold instead of the C fold [which i prefer]
I am trying EVERYTHING IN MY POWER to ensure that i am inserting this thing exactly right and i am ready to take it out and throw it RIGHT OUT THE WINDOW! the thing is leakin leakin leakin!

i used to be excited reading all the success stories and now they just DEPRESS me, :(

This is my 3rd period with the DivaCup. I have never worn it alone [thank God because that would be a disaster every time], i still have to wear a pad with it. And I'm just thinking to my self, "am I really buying pads right now?? the one thing I am trying to ELIMINATE from my life?" SIGH!!!

I need some help and encouragement, because I am ready to give up on this thing! :(

PS. I can't buy another brand/size right now and for some straaaange reason it did not leak on the first day [only] of my period this month giving me hope and then SNATCHING IT RIGHT BACK! :(

Hi ladies:) I've been doing a lot of reading on this board the past few days and I am so hopeful that you all can help me....

I am a 30 year old mom of two. I decided to give the diva cup a shot last month mainly out of desperation as it was my 1st postpartum period after the birth of my 2nd child and tampons weren't working at all. I would leak in a matter of minutes and the tampon would be virtually dry. With my age and having birthed two children I went for the size 2 diva. I didn't start using it until day 3 of my period and at that point the flow was at a minimum. The first day didn't go so well with leaking issues and I was wondering what I had gotten myself into, but the next day I finally got it to work with no leaks (even though there wasn't much left at that point) and was ecstatic. I was actually looking forward to trying it again from the start of my flow the next month and was a little bummed that I was 2 weeks late (still breastfeeding at 14 months and hormones are still wacky!)! So I start from day 1 this month and this is day 3 and let's just say I am so ridiculously close to throwing it off the balcony and never looking back! I've spent more time in the bathroom in 3 days than one should have to spend in months. My flow is extremely heavy this month and already on day 3 it's not letting up where as last month I was close to being done. I don't think that's the problem though as the cup isn't really even filling up. I've read as much as possible, watched the youtube video on insertion and pretty much tried everything. I did get it to work leak free for about 4 hours the other night before bed after trying all the "tricks", but after starting again the next morning I was back at square one. I'm inserting it towards my tailbone, I'm feeling all the way around to make sure it is popping open and it is, I'm pushing it in and out a few times as well to make sure it's suctioned, I trimmed the stem one notch so that I could try and wear it lower without poking. This morning I went 30 minutes without the dreaded warm rush instead of a couple of minutes like usual so it seems to be working for a short time before something malfunctions. I'm starting to think (sadly) that maybe even the large diva is too small after childbirth:( Even when I place it as low as possible it rides up a lot when I go to take it out, even in a short amount of time. After wearing it overnight it goes up so high that I almost panic. Thankfully a few pushes and I can find it. Is it worth giving the large lunette a try since it seems to be bigger? I'm tempted just to give sea pearls a try and giving up on a menstrual cup all together as my patience is wearing thin and I'm sure my 2 kids are as tired of mommy being in the bathroom as I am! Any advice?? TIA:)

I've been using my old school Lunette (back when they made just one size) for a few years now and I spot with it. I'm wondering if it's because the silicone is quite soft and squishy. Has anyone else had spotting/leaking end with a switch to a stiffer cup?

Thanks!

Following up on my somewhat effusive post from last week, a few more newbie thoughts on using the Diva Cup.

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Do you ladies experience leaking with one fold and none with another? Please share your bests and worsts by commenting like this:

I use a: Small Diva
I always leak when I use the: C Fold
I never leak when I use the: 7 Fold

I just finished my 2nd cycle and my DivaCup pre-childbirth is leaking leaking leaking.
-It takes up my entire vagina and I'm sure my cervix is in the cup
-I use it inside-out because it is too long for me even after i cut the stem
-I think I insert it properly every time
-I have no idea if i have a good seal but when i run my finger around the rim it has opened fully, i can't really grab the bottom and turn it because its inside out...at least it's difficult
-I love the cup it has made my period much less stressful but I still have to wear pad. Not a pantyliner... A PAD!
-It always leaks, light, heavy, moderate...doesn't matter, LEAKAGE!
-I REALLY want my DivaCup to work. I'm hoping that no one will tell me to try another size/brand because that's not feasible at the moment after going through all the trouble of convincing my mom to order this "soo groosss" [amazing] product for me.
-BTW im a 19 year old virgin dancer in Jamaica and at the moment I cannot swim or dance with it alone. So I'm kind of in the same position as i was in before i got it, which defeats the whole purpose of buying it in the first place.

PLEASE HELP!!! =]

Not too long ago, someone had a post about problems she experienced with her cup while flying.  Something about the air pressure change breaking the seal?  I have looked and I can't find the post.  I guess if our ears can pop, could the pressure change cause the cup to do something funky?

I'll be flying day after tomorrow and my period started today.   What are some of your experiences with cups while flying?  Anyone have seal issues due to the air pressure change?

I'm not worried about emptying it in the teeny tiny rest rooms on the plane and trying to get a good seal.   I can do that in the rest room before I board and make sure all is well.  I just don't want to be sitting there and have my ears pop and at the same time feel a "pop" somewhere else! 

So I'm finally on my period and using my Diva Cup. I thought I had it in there okay, but apparently it's not sealing, so I've got just a little spotting. I tried to turn it after inserting it, but I can't get it to turn. :/ All that happens is the base twists in my fingers, but the rim doesn't budge. I can't get my finger in far enough to test the seal. Any suggestions?

Finally realised after 2 leaky cycles that my low cervix must have been either sitting on the rim of my cup or hanging outside of the rim slightly.  Even though I did a finger sweep each time, I must have missed it sometimes (how??). 

I made a real effort this month to position my cup properly and it now sits much higher than before and I've only had leaks when it's been full.   Also have been able to use the Large Lunette this cycle, the higher position makes it way less uncomfortable.

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Can anyone tell me why the Lunette leaks less when it is inside out?  I tried that yesterday and while it still leaked, it was minimal.  I thought I had found my solution!  However, without the stem and with only a very slick bottom to grab for removal...not a good solution for me... way too much stress trying to get it out.  I just wonder why being inside-out made such a big change?

I have been trying to perfect my cup use for months and frankly I am ready to be done with them.  The leakage is insane.  I have tried different brands, different sizes, different inserting techniques, inserting it high, low, angled up, angled down, pointed toward tail bone etc etc etc.  I have remained diligent and to no avail.  If my flow is light, no problem, it collects nicely in the cup, no leaks,  If it is only slightly more than light, it leaks more than it collects.  I did have better luck with the instead, but if I have to wear pads and keep checking constantly, then really, what is the point?  ;'-(   I have read every apge of this forum and others... no answer in sight.

Hi! (and sorry for the long post)

I'm a 21 year old Israeli virgin. I first came across menstrual cups a year ago while reading an article in the news paper about families in the big cities, who live their lives as environment friendly as possible. It said that one of the women was cloth diapering her baby and was using something reusable for her period, that she had to empty and wash.

Hhhmm… interesting I thought. I never liked pads and tampons but didn't know better. Not long before that day I was wondering, if it was possible to invent something you could put inside the vagina that would only hold back the flow rather than absorb it and create a perfect seal. I assumed that for it to stay in place it had to be shaped like a cup… and then it could collect the flow. I didn't know that what I was "inventing" already existed for about 70 years!

So I researched on the internet for "reusable tampons" (yes… I know, it sounds gross) because I didn't know it was called cups, and found the MCUK first (it's the only cup you can buy here). I was instantly hooked!! My dream came true!! I kept looking for as much information about them as possible. I couldn't find anything bad about this product.

A week later I bought a small MCUK and was a bit intimidated because of the size (six month later I became a proud user of a large lunette without any size problems). I used the C fold and it once poped open right at the entrance… try telling me about pain!! After a few attempts, I finally had success.

The C fold is my favorite fold, it never disappoints me! I prefer having the whole rim inside me at the same time while inserting only half of the cup and letting it pop open then. After that I push it gently in the right position, my suuuper low cervix sitting inside the cup.

For those of you who have troubles getting the C fold to pop open: Try to push the still C shaped base/ low middle section of the cup with your thumb and middle finger from the top and the bottom of the "C". It works wonders for me with the large lunette.

Removal: I prefer the gentle rocking from side to side while pulling down and letting one side of the rim out at a time. Never had problems with it with both cups. At the beginning I use to push the cup back to a C fold, because of thinking the rim part was too big to get out. But it ended every time in spilling blood over my hand and pain when getting the rim out. I recommend relaxing and rocking the open cup out.

To prevent the light leaking stains some of you have: I stir with a finger a few times around the cup on heavy days, until there is no residual blood on the walls in my vagina (it was suggested here before).

Leaking when the cup is not full: Never happened to me! But I read here many posts about this problem.  Possible answer: Not having a good seal + being in a position that allows the blood to reach the holes (like lying down ect.). I noticed that when I fill my cup with water above the holes and touch a hole with my finger, water comes through the hole and runs down my finger. In a real case it is the vagina wall "touching" the hole + not having a good seal. Please comment on this, so I know what you think about my "theory".

I could go on and on in my excitement about cups. I've told literally every woman I know about cups and bought a MCUK for my younger sister. But sadly my friends still don't share this excitement.

Thank you, all of you!!! You have been an awesome help in my one year journey with cups, that will continue until I hit menopause.*grin*

Hi :)

I'm a 15 year old girl from Germany.
After using the small Lunette with a trimmed stem (was too long before) for several cycles I really regret to say that I hate this stupid thing I tried the Origami Fold and the Punch Down Fold (with the punched part facing down) and it always leaks (especially after physical activities like cycling to school) and I have no idea what's wrong. Tampons always dry me out and I have to change them very often. It's so annoying!
I always use cloth pads as a back-up, but sometimes it even leaks through the pads and I can't ever trust the cup as I never know when it is going to randomly start gushing. That's especially inconvenient at school... And my fingers are all messy when I take it out...looks like a murder scene! I hoped that it could be left in for 9 hours without emptying it; I have to check it every hour on my heaviest days. Overnight there is blood everywhere even if I have a pad because it fills up and leaks in a way that a tampon never did. My flow is very irregular due to stress, sometimes I'd have to change a super tampon every two hours during the heaviest days, sometimes there's next to nothing. Sometimes there's no period for three or four months, sometimes I've got it twice a month.

The cup always opens successfully and it is never filled to capacity when it leaks, it's not even half-full. The holes are not clogged before I re-insert it.
I think that the cervix is pointing into the cup and the cup sits low in my vag, but I'm not sure. My fingers are very short (although I think that my vag might be on the short side as well)
Sometimes the very short stem sticks out and I simply cannot make it go any further up. Other times it migrates so far up I can barely get it out again. What is going on?


I really want to get the hang of my Lunette. Do you have any idea what the problem is? I'm sure that it isn't slow leak of residual blood that got into the vag when I removed and cleaned my cup. Do I need a different cup? That would be annoyinf because I'm a student... I'm always short of money And I actually don't want to get a cup with less capacity because my flow's sometimes pretty heavy.

Hi! Rachel who is 24 & childless here. I posted a while back about my diva cup 1 issues, it was just too long and poked out of me even stemless and inside out. With your help I decided on a medium stemless meluna.

Putting the cup in was so easy. It just went right in, opened right up and I can usually hear the suction. I could get it to spin. My cervix is very low, the bottom of the cup is sitting right at the entrance of my vagina.
I started my period overnight Tues/Wed with the cup in, wore it all day Wednesday and overnight again, my heaviest time is at night on Wed/Thurs, I woke up and it was full-full. So far no leaks and it was fantastically amazingly awesome.

Thursday afternoon, it leaked. I thought, okay, it's in wrong, I felt around a little before I took it out to see how it was sitting so I could avoid it. It felt completely normal. I spent all of that day (at home, since I'm a housewife) and all night last night with leaks, half the blood in the cup, half coming out of the cup on the side facing the floor of my vagina. It has definitely got suction. I can feel it when I remove it and usually when I put it in, it's open, my cervix is fully inside. Now, though, it spins when I run my fingers around it, I just... touch it and it spins. It seems really slick where the rim is touching the skin, like... the rim and skin have a layer of blood in between them that is letting more blood stream out. I can't wear it anywhere other than right up against the cervix. Firstly, the suction takes it right up there (I pop it open and it just sails into place), and secondly, if it didn't, it would be poking out of my vagina.

I'd say this is because my cervix is in a different place than it was on my leak-free days. Oddly, these were the days last cycle when the diva was most comfortable. I have considered putting it in and seeing if I can stand it at all, though, after feeling, or rather not feeling, the meluna, I probably wouldn't be able to stand the length of the diva.

Do you think the rim is too narrow? It seems like a wider rim might help this issue, but I'm afraid anything with a wider rim will be longer, and I can't accommodate longer at all.


I'm wearing a white dress to a Halloween party, so I'm hoping it will stop leaking sometime today. Come on cervix, go back where you were two days ago, please. ;)

Thanks for your input on this!

Hey I have the small Diva Cup ( I'm only 15) and have a few problems. I can get it to work but as soon as it fills up to the 15ml mark it starts to leak. No  leaking whatsoever until 15mls then no more goes into the cup it just leaks out instead GRRRR.
Any suggestions would be helpful beacause I really need to get this sorted as exams are come up and I need to sit there for 3 hours without making a mess and a super tampon only last about 1 hour for me.

Also anyone else notice that after you empty the cup in to the toliet and flush that there is still a little bit of blood sitting right at the bottom? Know how to solve this ? ( got a younger brother I dont think he would like to find even a drop of blood in the loo).

One more problem wore it last night to bed with a pad back up, about 8mls went into the cup and then the rest into the pad. I have no idea why possible beacause I was lying down??

I need some help its just too hard.

Hello!
2nd day on my period, first cycle on the cup. Things are progressing very well! Just a few things I'd like to contribute:

1) The Update

First, to follow up on my last post, where I was having severe pains in my lower back when I inserted the cup for the first time. I figured out that it wasn't opening since I was using a punch-down fold. I use a seven-fold now, have absolutely no problems with insertion and opening and I haven't had that pain since. Thank you for reassuring me that my uterus wasn't falling out of my vagina. :)

2) The Question

Leaks. I'm paranoid. It hasn't leaked yet, but I do get the infamous "bubble." I even had a little "squirt" feeling yesterday after I put it in. You know, that feeling you get when you're wearing a pad and you can feel the flow coming out? It was that feeling. But nothing came out, which is wonderful! But also a little nerve racking...I wear a pantyliner just in case, but what does it feel like when you're actually leaking? And if it fills up and overflows, is it just a little at a time, or is it a gush? I need to be reassured, here...I really don't want to realize there's a huge stain in my pants and think "oh THAT'S what that feeling was."

3) The Rant

Overall I'm so happy with my cup! I can't believe I waited so long to get one! In fact, I'm really pissed right now about our society. I live in America, and you tell me - have you EVER seen a commercial for a cup? NO! Why? Because they don't make as much money on cups as they do on pads/tampons. "Have a happy period," my ass! Have an expensive/environmentally destructive period!! There are so many different options for women's health out there, but we don't KNOW about it because god forbid women are actually comfortable with their own bodies!
 
Anyways I really do love my cup, and my body, and I think this community is AWESOME. Thank you beautiful ladies for all your help - I never would have gotten this far if it wasn't for you!!

(-LateNite)

I am so happy to have found this group!  I need some help.  I have worn my Diva-2 for two cycles already and I'm having issues with leaking.  Insertion and Removal is not a problem at all, but I start leaking when the cup is only 7.5ml full!  I know the Diva Large can hold a lot more, but I can't figure out what is going wrong.  I am over 30 and have had one vaginal birth.  My cervix is low and tilted(~50mm from vaginal opening).  I have turned the cup inside out and it helps delay the leaking from 4ml to 7.5ml.  I do have a heavy flow the first 3 days, but I know that this cup is supposed to hold a lot more than this.  I'm having to remove every hour on the first 3 days which is very inconvenient.  I first thought about switching to a different cup, but don't have many choices since I live in the US and capacity wise there isn't much choice left!  Any help, tips, or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.   I'm not ready to give up and I really want to make this work:)
Thanks,
Ali

Hi all. This is my first time using my Diva Cup, size B and I have a couple of questions.

( Capacity, Leakage, and Holes )

Thank you for all your help!

Question 1

Have any of you become cup users after NEVER having used a tampon? Or are tampons like cup initiation? lol

Also, which prepares one better for a cup? Applicators or without applicators?


Question 2

You know the relief you feel while/after peeing? I go to the bathroom much more often when on my period because (a) my bladder thinks it has to go more and (b) I'd rather my blood go in the toilet than a pad. I must say, it feels really good to squeeze out the excess blood and not have to worry about it being collected around/inside me. I'm guessing that's not possible with cups, is it? Does the motion of squeezing out blood or urine cause the cup to leak or shift, or does it make the cup fill up faster?


Thanks in advance to all who comment.

I need some help making a buying decision.
I've been using a small BlueCup for 4 months now and am considering trying out a Fleurcup or a MeLuna with a loop (loop because my cervix sits high and I've had some trouble gripping the cup, and the stem proved to be slippery too). However, I'm unsure about the size. On the heavier days I have to empty the cup every few hours and I've experienced some leakage either through the holes when it's full or when squatting etc (maybe it's too squishy?), so I'd like a cup that's more convenient for these days. On the following days my period gets much lighter and the small Bluecup works fine. I'm 25, no children, thin figure and I would consider my vagina more narrow than wide, when I still used tampons I only used light or regular, that's why I chose the small BlueCup.
I've looked at the cup size chart and it seems like even the small Fleurcup can hold a lot more than the small Ladycup, and then the MeLuna even has 3 different sizes so I'm just.. indecisive. plus, I'm unsure about insertion and removal of a larger cup, I've had trouble with the small Bluecup, I couldn't insert it without lube the first time I used it (getting more comfortable with different folds makes it possible without by now though), and removing can be a bit uncomfortable when it gets towards the pelvic floor, I'm worried that a large cup might be even worse.
I can't afford buying cup after cup until I found the perfect fit (although that thought is very tempting! they're addicting, aren't they?), my budget isn't that big so any suggestions would be highly appreciated.

I have had my DivaCup for a couple years now and have used it with success however I had an IUD and very light periods. Now that my IUD is gone I'm back to regular, heavy periods for me. I was on the pill for years before. I leaked multiple times this last period and Have read the board looking for ideas. I am long and believe a larger size cup is better for me no pregnancy or childbirth but over 30. The cup wasn't full when it leaked and I think I get a good seal using the C fold but when I run my finger over the divaCup when I feel that I have a good fit I feel an indentation, not completely round or smooth making me think it hasn't opened all the way. I ordered a LadyCup in large to see if this is a better fit. Any other ideas on fit would be appreciated. The cup tends to ride higher over time, I womder if a smaller cup would be better?

Hi all :) 
New here and new to cups and I don't know why, but I thought I'd love my Mooncup right away and never buy another hated tampon for the rest of my life.  I really thought these things would hold a ton of blood and take away my problem of never being able to leave the house for 3 or 4 days a month, unless I'm carrying a dozen tampons and within 5 minutes of a toilet at all times. Unrealistic I suppose, but I've read some really glowing reviews of these things.

For the first day the only problem was that it hurt on removal, I followed the advice given on here and that worked and I was delighted at how easy it all was (ha!). Then on the second day my cup started to leak after an hour.  It wasn't full and the little holes aren't blocked at all.  My flow is quite heavy but the blood is leaking out whilst the cup is less than half full.  The record so far is leaking 15 minutes after insertion.   It feels like it's opening up OK and seems to seal (although I can't feel the top of the rim with my finger when it's in).  It's pretty hard to pull out, so I think it seals.

Also, I find that squatting (which I do a lot of as I can't bend very well) makes it feel like it's coming out, and makes it leak too.  It also leaked when I pulled my legs up off the floor when watching TV, you know when you hug your legs to your chest - like that?

I gave up today and used a tampon and I felt clean and dry for the first time in three days.  It was a huge relief and a bitter disappointment at the same time.

I wonder if I'm doing it wrong or I'm not the right shape to use a cup or something.  I emailed the company and they said to trim the stem more and wear it lower.  I'll try that next time I use it but I don't think I'll be using it for a few days.  I have to go out tomorrow and I'm dreading having it leak or having to empty it in public.  I don't want to wear a pad, I hate them more than tampons.  

Sorry this is a bit rambling and long, but what I want to know is:

Is it normal for squatting etc to cause cup movement/leaks?

Should I try a bigger cup like a Large Lunette?

How do you work out what size to use if you have a heavy flow but a very low cervix?? 

I've read the relevant FAQ's and watched some of the films on you.tube (which were great, thanks Melissa) but I suppose I just want to vent and have somebody say, "don't worry - you're not a completely pathetic loser!!" or something like that.   I'll keep trying with my MCuk, but I'd be grateful for any tips about the heavy flow/low cervix problem.

Also, I noticed today that the stem was off to one side, does that mean anything?  I don't think I put it in off centre - it seems to have moved like that by itself.

Thanks for reading :)