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Apr. 11th, 2009 @ 03:05 pm Score!
Wow, sweet -- I'm so glad to see that there's other people that share my feelings! I started looking to see if there was a group committed to cleaning up the fandom after a couple of my favorite IRC channels were becoming overrun with babyfurs and creepy fetishists. I absolutely LOVE the squeaky-clean rainbows and gumdrops surface of the fandom, and I LOVE being a fursuiter and a furry; but I HATE that I can't share that love with my Army/straight-laced friends.

So....my question now is, where do I start? What can I do to help clean our image up?
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beerpony
[info]privatepony:
Feb. 22nd, 2009 @ 06:00 pm Hi!
Hi there people!

This is MapDark joining the group.
I was happy to find your group as I really have become tired with the whole TMI-filled situations I've been faced with during my time in the fandom. I really think the fandom is a very good thing , but the bad things tend to sometimes overwhelm the rest.

Anyways , I dunno what else to say :)

Hope we can get this thing to work! ^^
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mapdarksmile
[info]mapdark:
Feb. 11th, 2009 @ 11:17 am Crafty Beaver
Current Mood: creative
Hey, y'all.

So, I'm in the middle of a couple of various projects--renovating my partial, for one--and one new idea that popped into my head...was making a patch--or having one done up by someone else--of the blue IA logo (just the pawprint, leave out the initials), and slap that on a hat/beret/some kind of head covering.

Yes, I'm aware that that could invite some "negative feedback", but I wasn't planning on making any sort of "demonstration".  It's just, y'know, something to wear, put it out there.

Comment if you'd like...or don't.  Meanwhile, I have class to get ready for.  Peace out!
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BDU
[info]phoenix_audubon:
Nov. 7th, 2008 @ 01:47 pm State of the Community

Hello all.

First of all, I am pleased to see more members coming to this group.

I must start off with an apology. I have woefully neglected this group. Between my family, my job, and the web projects, I'm afraid I'd spread myself a bit thin. I need help. We need help. I ask anyone who has some spare time to please speak up. I have been actively recruiting people through my own IM contact lists to help out with the various web projects that have started up, and from the looks of it GamerFurs.net may see a good start soon, but more importantly Furry 101 should be more interviews with people who should be regarded as role models for the fandom at large. While I cannot predict the future... well... that's we're we come in.

If you have any spare time on your hands to either lend a hand to the various projects launched from me and/or this community, or can assist with maintaining the spirit of the community here and/or in real life, please speak up. Best way to reach me quickly is via IM (Twitter preferably) or via email.

That is all for now.

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[info]ashmcairo:
Nov. 5th, 2008 @ 06:53 pm New Member
Hey everyone, my name's Flinch and I'm a 20-year-old black-footed ferret fur. I've been in the fandom for 5 years now and I'm getting more and more annoyed with the direction the fandom has gone in. It's become an embarassment, and while I love being a fur I rarely associate with other furs because, as has been said in the past, "Anthropomorphics fandom is being overrun by sexually dysfunctional, socially stunted and creatively bankrupt hacks and pervs."
I'm very happy to see there is a group that is trying to change all that.
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Flinch
[info]laser_weasel:
Aug. 7th, 2008 @ 11:24 am Yes. We're still around. Please speak up.
Hello all. A have a few things to get out there.

First, Leam is retiring from the whole furry thing and with that I'm the only person leading the group as it where. I am open to having others join this group official to represent us and more specifically someone to co-chair this community with. If you're an idea-man like myself, please speak up.

furryne.ws is still running. It's still a barebones operation for the most part, but our RSS feeds go out to LiveJournal, FurNation, the Midwest Furries forum, Yiffy.TK, and Twitter and we average about a 100 visits a day so and a handful of new users each week so... we're out there. We are actively looking for people to improve upon the site so if you or someone you know has some skills in art, design, CSS and/or PHP, and have some free time please speak up.

Furry 101 is up and running, but we can use writers. We are speciifcally looking for people who can write tutorials on specific furry subjects such as starting and running a meetup/convention or fursuit construction/performance/survival. We can also use interviews with fandom personalities. We could use a good coder and design too, but for now, content is king, and if you have the time to draft something up, please speak up.

Now for some ideas I have:

Artist/comissioner pseudo-BBB: Myself and others have kicked this idea around for years but only once have I seen some progress on it, but that fell to the wayside... then another person picked up the idea, but progress has been next-to-nil. I'd like to revisit it again, but the biggest thing I need behind it will be a community to investigate and mediate incoming comments for artists and commissioners in addition to a coder and/or designer to draft something up.

Oekaki/Futbara hybrid: I like image/chan boards. I like the idea behind drawing/oekaki boards. I want to see about combining the two. Basically a person starts/uploads a drawing, and people can either comment on it, or reply by modifying the picture itself. You know... change the color scheme, add a background, yadda yadda. On top of that we can added tagging on both the user and artist level, and anything uploaded non-anonymously can be saved and put into original and modified galleries. I would first probably advertise this to a few furries first, but I see this expanding beyond that. Again, I need some help drafting this up.

Last thing: I don't think the name change from Burned Fur to IA help much and I'm tossing aroudn the idea of changing it back, mainly so when people do throw the Burned Fur name around, we can make our statement in regards to some random trolling in the Burned Fur name and leave by setting our example. Speaking of which... one of these days, once we get a few more projects off the ground I will see to getting us a proper community site to discuss future projects such as the idea above, and to draft what our example should be as a collective for specific issues. For now though if you have an issue, please bring it up here so we can discuss how it should be best handled.

OK, that's all for now. Please remember to set a good example.
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[info]ashmcairo:
May. 5th, 2008 @ 04:13 pm Furry 101 is here!
The folks that brought your furryne.ws are working on another project entitled Furry 101. The site's purpose is to be a place where people can learn about furry and where furries can learn from other furries about art, crafts, writing, business, relationships, etc., etc.

The site just opened now and we're looking into getting down the overall design, but we could use you and your friends to help write articles for that site. If you're an artist, a storyteller, a fursuit maker, a puppeteer, an art/animation historian, help run a convention, maintain an online community, or simply have good advice to give to people based on your experience with the fandom, please help us and your fellow fan. Write for Furry 101. Ask me, the Dan Rather of furryne.ws, for more details on what you can do to help.
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[info]ashmcairo:
May. 2nd, 2008 @ 10:25 am The State of IA, furryne.ws, and other projects
Yes, we're still around.

furryne.ws is coming along great. [info]tixen is working on a more colorful template for the site, [info]grayscalewolf is looking into the code and making changes as needed so it can be shared with the community via Google Code, and we've brought in [info]natashasoftpaw to the team to help with coding duties. If you nice folks who are still watching this group haven't done so, please sign up for the site, and if you'd like, use our LJ news feed or if you've moved to Facebook we have an app for that too. O and we're always looking for more help in either coding, graphics, and administering the site in general so please speak up if you're interested.

As for other project... I have the domain name and the server space. Now I need a stable connection to upload it all. The next project will be Furry 101. Basically, I took [info]cuprohastes idea and greatly expanded upon with it. This intent of this site will be more in-line with what we want to do with IA and help the community at large by creating what I guess can be described as a Lifehacker for Furries. We will help each other with not only "mundane" topics as art, writing, fursuits, yadda yadda, and more involved and personal topics in regards to the social and physical health of your fellow fan. When this all start I suspect my sources will come from my usually sources, but eventually I'd like to get experts on staff to submit original content, to have content be generated from a forum in the back, and heck, if this whole furry thing ever turns a profit, we can put a bounty out for good articles.

...and I continue to ramble. With Furry 101 will will serve as a guide to all fans. New fans can be shown the ropes by the old guard from their past experiences with the fandom.

This site can also serve as a portal to those who don't knwo about furry.



...and that's it. Sorry if it seems a bit muddled. I'm fighting off a nasty bug and my brain isn't all there yet.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Feb. 29th, 2008 @ 10:14 am State of furryne.ws and other projects
Current Mood: busy
Long time, no see! :)

furryne.ws is still there. We haven't had the time yet to see if we can add the image (or anything else) upload mod ourselves, and the pligg forums haven't offered any fix yet, but with any luck, that will come along with pligg 1.0.

We are looking to feature a charity of the month on furryne.ws if we can find out why the Featured Story mod breaks the current version of pligg (9.9.0.) We are open for suggestions for charities to feature, and please don't limit yourself to animal welfare charities. Anything that would help our community (ie: EFF, Comic Book Legal Defense Fund, etc.) as well is nor than welcome to be a featured charity. Only real requirement for charities is that their books must be available to the public.

As always, please visit furryne.ws for the latest in furry-related news. Also please visit the upcoming news page and vote up any articles you like :)

Karma from Yiffy.TK and FurFinder as agree to run his new project, Anthropomorphics.net, in association with IA. Main feature that I myself am interested in the artist/commisioner feedback and conflict resolution system. The site's still in beta, but he's told him that he'll be working on this once he's finished with the chan board on Yiffy.TK .

The sexual education project is on the back-burner for now, but I spoke to Cupro' to encourage him to push on with the project despite the flack he's been given. He is, as always, busy with other project, but I'll be laying down the framework for this as soon as I can secure project space for it. I have a good idea who to get in touch with too so we have a legitimacy behind all of this.

So... anyone have a good name for that project? :)

In unrelated news... the home area I belong too (LAFF) could use some help in constructing their web page. Timoran is running a contest to for resigning the front page with an Amazon gift certificate as the prize. If you can help out, please stop by lafflist.org and submit your home page design.

That's all for now.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Dec. 6th, 2007 @ 04:42 pm The New Vague Mission Statement behind Improved Anthropomoprhics
"Set a Good Example"

That's it. We have already mentioned in previous posts what our ideals our, but we do run things democractically here and everything is subject to change.

Anyway, myself and Brad will be idly going through the posts here and tagging them so we can better cull this data for proper documentation. I apologize yet again for the slow progress we've made on that, but we are both divided amoung other projects and life in general that does make it difficult to work solely on documentation. If you got a half hour or so and can help, please reply here.

Also, I'm looking to build the IA brand by contacting people who run services for the fandom under the banned of setting a good example. Helping your fellow fan is a good example. I know it's a tough sell, but if you yourself run a service for the fandom, or know some who does, please refer them to myself or Brad so we can chat it up with them and what goes behind the scenes with IA. Alot of what we do do isn't written down... it's all in our heads.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Nov. 12th, 2007 @ 02:08 pm There's Some Sort of Convention Going on This Weekend...
I'm not attending this convention, but I do happen to live nearby. If anyone would be interested in doing and meet-and-greet, send me a quick message off-journal and I'll provide you with my home phone number or if you're listed as a friend, I'll be posting it there as well.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Oct. 19th, 2007 @ 12:46 pm A New Writing Site?
I stumbled across this article on the AnthroChat LJ and one thing stuck out to me that I think as a group we can quickly get off the ground; setting up this "unnamed writing site" that Inaki mentions. What we need to get this to a quick and dirty start is a decent CMS to handle works of furry fiction, a name, and a website. Now, as for the CMS, I'm not about to toss MediaWiki out there as it's pretty horrible to use when it comes to multiple users who need to control their own documents. I've been taking a look at a few others (specifically Joomla right now)... so... can anyone recommend a CMS for the job? It should have a decent interface where people can either copy-and-paste there work or upload a PDF/text/HTML/OO (something rich text if people want to add illustrations to their work), maybe an Ajaxy, hot-linking thing so if people can hover over a character name and get more info..., maybe have a rudimentary spelling/grammar checker, give them the ability to control their work (maybe they want to write a book and upload it chapter-by-chapter, or maybe it can be a collaborative work among several authors?), tagging so we can filter out what gets shown to the general public, a search function, a rating system...

Anyway, let's do this. First things first is the CMS. Give me ideas people!

P.S., Inaki says there is one already in progress, but if there's nothing open to the public yet, I figure this might be a fun race-to-the-finish of who can come up with a good solution first :)
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[info]ashmcairo:
Oct. 17th, 2007 @ 03:40 pm WikiFur and Insert Your Real Name Here
Man, we're getting more and more off track here with making our own documentation but address issues, but I wanted to bring this us as I see this happen once-in-awhile on good, ol' WikiFur. Now, WikiFur has a standing policy that if one wish their information removed for their site, it's normally granted if one asks nicely. Problem is some less reputable folks have also requested to have their information taken down, but as they pose a "threat" to a fandom, their information stands. Now that maybe not how it's exactly portrayed and the editors will hide behind the guise of encyclopedia integrity, but it's that the case, why block anyone's information regardless of what they've done? One may also say that no one really has any privacy in our current world as our information is handed from one person to other without us being completely aware of it. Now many of you already know my stance on this and I would rather see everything published, both good and bad. Full disclosure. But I too would make some amends if one wishes not to have certain information such as their real name for the sake of professional integrity (do you really want potential employers seeing all of your furry happenings?) regardless of what they've done be it good or bad. Maybe the solution would be to have certain pages barred from public viewing, or have the page display less information if you're an anonymous viewer? I wonder if any CMS can currently support this idea. I know for a fact MediaWiki doesn't by default (but sloppy patches have been made in prior version for this feature.) Thoughts?
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[info]ashmcairo:
Oct. 12th, 2007 @ 04:05 pm New IA Project in the Works
[info]cuprohastes posted this on his journal a little while back and we're going to look onto expanding upon that concept. [info]cuprohastes has server space, but I guess now we need to discuss who wants to be actively involved with it, how to build a community around it, and how it's going to bed controlled. So far plans are to have forum in the back-end to develop a community around all of this, and probably a wiki set up to draft documents, then a main page to present all of this along with PDF/zipped HTML/OO copies of all of this. We also need a name and a domain name to put to all of this, and well, a way to make this financially self-sustaining and anything made over the top to be used to invest in new projects and reinvest in current ones.

Also, as an idea to promote furryne.ws... anyone up for creating a meme for the site?
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[info]ashmcairo:
Oct. 12th, 2007 @ 09:22 am Let us discuss this article, and something to make you go spew...
There's this article on the Santa Fe Reporter called "Fluff Piece" and,w ell, it's starts out OK, but then a bit more than halfway down the article we get this gem:

Clayton Hedgepath, aka Storm Gryphon, isn’t particularly comfortable with Gerbasi’s evaluation or any clean romanticization of Furries. It isn’t just fluff and tickles. There’s a thin, dark line, which he says Furries cross far too often.

“The Vanity Fair article, the Furs brought it on themselves,” the FBC promotions director says. “I don’t want you to think we run through fields. You gotta take some of the bullshit first. ”

The 19-year-old satellite technician in Chicago, who’s been a Furry since he was 13, prides himself on straight-talking, shit-talking and a radio voice that can pass as a 40-year-old’s.

Clayton found his fursona through a neo-mystical belief system called Otherkin, which involves an “awakening” to discover one’s inner mythological creature. He’s not a huge fan of the elitist Otherkin community, preferring instead the open-armed Furry fandom. That said, he loathes all the Furry slackers who live off social security. He can’t stand the self-pitying ones who emptily threaten suicide when life doesn’t go their way. And he’s sick and tired of all the public sex, aka “yiffing,” at conventions.

“In 2001-2002, people were yiffing in the hallways, having orgy rooms everywhere and over 80 percent of the artwork was dirty,” Clayton says. “Yiffing is awesome, I’m not opposed to yiffing. But in terms of going to a con, I don’t want some random guy trying to yiff me up in the hallway or two 400-pound men going at it when I open the elevator.”

The reason Furry fandom got so sexual, Clayton theorizes, is that back in the 1970s organizers were disappointed at the convention turnout, and started selling it as an alternative lifestyle to attract gays, sado-masochists and swingers to fill out their numbers.

“The problem with Fur, right now, is that because it started heading down this alternative lifestyle path, they started letting in all these socially retarded kids, who stayed at home, had problems, were glued to their TVs and their computers,” he vents. “Once they realize they’re accepted by Furries, they start crying more and more for that acceptance and getting yiffy all the time.”

In addition to music and news, these are the subjects Clayton rants about on his show, and to great success. Typically, he averages approximately 30 listeners, and he can list many of them by name.

One thing Furries don’t talk about is the dark-underside of the fandom— bestiality. Clayton says it’s not as rare as some Furries claim. Seven out of 10 of his friends, he estimates, are into animal porn. Of them, he suspects that two or three will one day act on their impulses.

“[Furries] are into it, but it’s just to what degree,” he says, matter-of-factly. “When it comes to bestiality, it’s still a major hush-hush, because it’s illegal. I’ll tell you many, many more Furs are into that stuff than what they’re willing to admit. They’ll tell when they get to know you.”

Nevertheless, he concedes that New Mexico Furs might be different, not just sexually, but in motivation and social skills as well. His opinions are only about the general fandom. But he’s a skeptic, and he warns to be wary. The New Mexico Furs, he says, might be faking it.


First, where the hell are people fucking in the hallways? I was still going to con's at that time and any fucking was done in people's room. Granted you may see a few people get more than friendly in public (which is wrong no matter who or what you are,) but goddamn... goddamn.

Also, do we have any old guard we can get in here about early convention organizers using sex to get people to go to cons? I've heard stories that this maybe true, but I want sources.

Then the part about bestiality. I can only recall one fan I've met that went into detail about him having sexual relations with animals... and yes, it's weird, it's odd... but where this statistic comes from that beastiality is a common thing with furries... let's start with you guys and gals. HAVE ANY OF YOU FUCKED AN ANIMAL?

As for something to make you go spew here's this. Mmm, mmm, mmm, mmm, mmm, toasty.

OK, that's it for today. I'll see about getting back on track with this group later.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Sep. 26th, 2007 @ 01:42 pm You, too, can help save ANTHRO!
I got this notice up on furryne.ws, but I'd like it if a couple of you can spread the word and see if we can drum up some donations for ANTHRO. The original post is at http://groups.google.com/group/alt.fan.furry/browse_thread/thread/cab3272efdb5b883/5054c242a83c4edf?#5054c242a83c4edf.

"Quentin Long here with some bad news... and how *you* can help to make that bad news go away.
You'll recall that when I announced the uploading of ANTHRO #13, I mentioned that I was in danger of going homeless, *real* soon. The support this brought was welcome... but it just isn't enough. And here's how bad things are now:

I need USD $500 in the next five days, or I *will* be homeless.

The people who have *already* donated and bought advertisements, they've done their part... but there's only, like, 20 of them. 20... out of a grand total of about *ten* *bleeding* *THOUSAND* people who read and enjoy every issue of ANTHRO.
So here I am again, exhorting furdom-at-large to open your wallets on my behalf, so that *I* can continue to do something which has been a distinct asset to *you*. I'm not exactly enthused to be going all "PBS pledge night" on y'all, but if it works, it works, okay? So here's the deal...

ANTHRO on PDA!
I've reformatted ANTHRO #1 so that it'll fit nicely on a 240-pixel-wide screen -- which means it will work nicely on Palm Pilots or Blackberrys or whatever other PDA you might happen to have. Cross my palm with $2.99 in good USA silver, and it's yours!

http://store.kagi.com/?6FEMN_LIVE&lang=en

Art commissions!
Would you like me (Quentin Long, aka Cubist) to do a portrait of your character? I will -- for a mere USD $15. Or USD $10, if you want a con badge. I won't do spooge, but beyond that, pretty much anything goes.

Send me an email containing a description of what you'd like me to draw -- the address is cub...@aol.com -- and PayPal the money to me, and you're good to go.

And leave us not forget all the other options:

Donate or subscribe:
http://anthrozine.com/site/support.html

Buy copies of ANTHROlogy ONE and/or THE HUMAN MEMOIRS and/or the
FREEDOM CITY typeface:
http://www.lulu.com/cubist

Buy ANTHRO ad space in two-month blocs:
http://anthrozine.com/site/ad.policy.html

Buy ANTHRO ad space in arbitrarily small chunks:
http://www.projectwonderful.com/advertisehere.php?id=2460&type=2

Buy furry fiction (with ANTHRO getting a small cut of the purchase
price):
http://anthrozine.com/site/support.books.1.html

Buy T-shirts, posters, and other things with ANTHRO art on them:
http://anthrozine.com/site/support.omnibus.html

Check out a wide range of furry-type goods selected from Amazon.com's
vast inventory:
http://astore.amazon.com/anthrozine-20

Buy other art-type things I've created (not necessarily furry, but
still good):
http://www.zazzle.com/cubist*

USD $500 in five days. If furdom-at-large can inject $2,000,000 into the Pittsburgh economy via Anthrocon, is $500 in five days *really* too much to ask?"
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[info]ashmcairo:
Sep. 12th, 2007 @ 11:57 am We're Still Here!
Anyway, I have a few items to go about.

1. I don't know if we're done with the sexuality in the fandom debate, but as things have died down and we've all grown a bit wiser about this, I think the majority of the voices here are correct; the furry fandom does not have a responsibility to distributed condoms at a convention, nor do they need to teach sex ed. While it's nice to offer these options discretely, the outside world will see the endorsement of such as another reason to see us as sexual deviants first. If you want to finish the debate do so here. If I don't here anything else I'll post the next issue.

2. Future projects. While furryne.ws is still definitely alpha (and I'm working on prepping the code for the newest pligg update to reduce any potential snafus), I've been messing around with a few other web apps and was wondering if, well... maybe in a the future we can start an art gallery. Things is though, I want it to be built with a business-like mindset. Sure, we can have a community behind it with people posting blogs, pictures, music... but I want to see this as more of an Amazon Marketplace as we'll be the central point of all transactions. Contract an artist through us defining your terms, we get in touch with the artists and see if the terms are agreeable, then the exchanging of funds. Basically, we'd be managers or agents working out deals and contracts for custom work. Prints and the like can be handle in a normal store like format. I understand this will have a slew of legal ramifications so... heck, if I can get the cash I'll get the lawyer and work things out. First though is to do some kind of coding. I was hoping to base this off of Gallery2. The features alone are impressive. Problem would be coding. This is a project for the future thought, and at best, maybe the next 5 ~ 10 years.

3. ANTHRO looks like it maybe publishing it's last issue. I like the DIY ethic behind running a fanzine so if you have the spare cash, please toss it their way. Failing that, I was wondering if maybe we could take it over. We'd need a few people dedicating to layout it out and what not. I can do plenty on my own (I find the time,) but the more people the better.

That's all for now. Ta ta.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Aug. 26th, 2007 @ 11:50 am I know this is late... The Anthro Animal Fandom Mission Statement
Tim posted about a week ago a declaration for the start of a new fandom which celebrates the art form of anthropomorphic animals and less on, well, everything else that's been associated with furries. Per his request we are not going to discuss his idea here and I'll keep the comments off, but I encourage everyone to visit http://otakuoftomobiki.livejournal.com/45103.html and read more about his concept and voice your opinions there.

That's all for now. Have a great Sunday.
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[info]ashmcairo:
Aug. 15th, 2007 @ 10:07 am What's a Good Business Model for a Furry Convention?
I was reading Tim's most recent entry and after a quick bout of conversation with Mr. Doodles about the subject and how this was tried before.... anyway, some back story to the conversation first or I'll loose you.

Basically, running a clean con' has been tried before: C-ACE. Now, I'm wondering why exactly it failed. I'm thinking because that most furry conventions run off of a poor business model. I know the idea is not to turn a profit mind you, but the convention needs to be able to sustain itself. The con's that still run now are good at sustaining themselves, but let's say if a major product can't be sold anymore. Could be a government ban (heaven forbid) or simply a lack of demand. Then what? Artists wouldn't by tables. With less artists you may have less art enthusiasts, right?

OK, well, maybe it's not about the art. What about the social aspect? How can you sustain a con' simply based on getting being to come together and interact with each other? What that they can do online in the privacy of their own homes can you offer them in real life?

Sorry if this train of thought is a bit disjointed, but I'm running on an empty stomach and little coffee, but let's get a discussion going shall we? What would it take to run a furry convention that can sustain itself if a certain product couldn't be sold? What would it take to run a furry convention that was free and open to the public? What would it take to run a furry convention that doesn't offer any physical product but offers the chance to meet other fans in real life? What's the catch?
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Aug. 12th, 2007 @ 11:07 pm The Real Problem
This is going to cause an uproar, but I feel it needs to be said.

I think many here are mistaking symptoms for the real problem. They see rampant sex in the fandom, and their solution? Hand out condoms.

I must state that, as a Christian, I cannot and will not support such an action. Not only do I find morally questionable, I do not think it will solve the real problem. Sure, it might cut down on surprise pregnancies (which wouldn't be such a surprise if people remembered that was the purpose of sex) and the spread of STD's... but by how much? Even if people were capable of using them perfectly there are still going to be factory defects. A condom's going to break, even if you do everything right, and someone's going to get pregnant or infected. But I digress, I'm getting off the point and into a debate that started before me and will likely end when I'm old or dead.

I think the reason handing out condoms was suggested is that the unprotected sex was and still is seen as a serious problem that needs to be solved. I believe this is a mistake. The unprotected sex is merely a symptom of a much larger problem:

Looking for love in all the wrong places.

Once you're all done singing that little song, please keep reading. I want you to see my reasoning and decide for yourself if I'm crazy or actually on to something.

Before you all go off on me about how I "shouldn't judge others" or anything, know that I have personal experience in this. This isn't about calling people sinful and saying they're going to hell. True or not, that's not gonna help anybody, and I want to help them.

See, a while back, I got into furry porn. Since then, it's been a constant battle between my natural instincts and my faith in God. It hasn't been an easy road, and I admit to doing things that I regret deeply. All of it was pretty much done either to feed my addiction to porn or because I wanted to feel loved in some way. And I believe many in the fandom are going through the same thing as me, feeding this addiction to porn while trying to fill the emptiness in their soul with lots of sex, moving from one body to the next trying to get some kind of affection or love.

But it's all lust, or at least lust-tainted. It only makes you feel worse, and eventually it's just not enough. You stop feeling. You let apathy wrap itself around your heart to guard it from more heartache, usually becoming a selfish bastard. You start to hurt because you're hurt, and you can't get back at those who hurt you. So you lash out at people, or maybe just manipulate them so you can rip out their hearts like others did to you. And then they do the same to others. The cycle repeats, over and over...

And at the end of it, all you've got is booze, cigarettes, and if you're lucky, a clean bill of health. Oh yeah... and a broken heart that's still starving for love.

Now, let me make it clear that I'm not advocating converting them to my religion or anything. I doubt there's that many Christians here anyway, so support for such a measure would be very poor indeed. That's not really my goal anyway (though it would be cool, imho, if a few people got saved; always a good thing in my book).

My real goal is to get as many people as possible out of these destructive lifestyles. And they are destructive, not just to the body but to the soul. You can put whatever bandaid you want on the surface, but deep underneath it's going to continue to fester. And really, the only way to help the fandom is to accept one simple fact:

Free sex at any cost is something only crazy people believe in.

Anyone who's willing to put their own life and health, and that of others, at risk merely so they can continue to screw around however they want... need serious professional help. This is not normal behavior, people. I know there's this push in the fandom to not be "mundane", but this is ludicrous!

People. Are. Dying. They're dying in spirit, mind and body. And what do we do?

Propose a measure to give out free condoms so at least they aren't spreading disease as much.

They deserve better. They deserve hope. They deserve love.

I joined this group in hopes it would take things seriously and make strides to improve the fandom. I'm beginning to wonder now if all you merely wanted to do was improve its image so the "mundanes" wouldn't throw up at the briefest mention of the term "furry fandom".

I want to help these people. But not unless the people I'm working with are willing to acknowledge the true problem, the real disease that's eating people alive in there.

Hate me if you want to. But these people deserve better, and I won't stand for bandaids that don't treat the real cause.

They deserve love. More so because they're so unlovable to the rest of the world. And I intend to show them that love as much as I am able.

So, where do you stand? Are you willing to help people end this vicious cycle, this horrible suffering that bleeds their very souls?

Or do you wish to simply cover it up with a bandaid so you don't have to admit to your own faults?

The choice is yours, people. I won't judge or hate you if decide not to take the right steps. It's your life; you must do with it as you feel best. But I do hope you take a good look at yourself, and at your motivations.

Enough kiddie stuff, people. This is a serious problem we must deal with. It's time we all grew up and treated it as such.
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