Seeking Your Writing
Introduction

I am starting work on a book that is basically a celebration and exploration of receptive penetrative sex and looking for submissions. I would like the book to be diverse in terms of input, so I would like to include a range of biological sexes, sexual orientations and ages. Invite your friends! As long as you enjoy vaginal or anal sex of some kind (fingers, dildoes, carrots, dick, whatever) you're good. You can e-mail me at

lesbianmafia7@aol.com

to submit something or ask questions. Please include your primary country of residence and state/region and biological sex (to let readers know what your perspective is; MTF or FTM is fine). You can use whatever name you want on your submission. If you don't pick a name, I will make one up for you. If you use a fake name, try not to make it too common or add a last initial so I don't end up with twenty submissions under the same name. Let me know if you specifically want your full, real name added to a list of contributors (which I will acknowledge somewhere in the beginning of the book). This can be kept separate from what you submit if you don't want people to know which discussion is yours. You can change your mind about submitting at any time before the book is done; contact me and I'll simply leave it out.

Criteria

You may write in a conversational tone, but please use your best formal writing skills (paragraphs, complete sentences, etc.), and proofread and spellcheck what you write. Take your time writing (anytime within the next three months) and make sure you've said what you want to say because it will be rough on me if a bunch of people want to rewrite submissions. Give what you write a title (this is to help me organize and probably will not appear in the book). The work can be as short as you like, but anything over a couple of pages is probably too much. It can be explicit but try not to write something that reads like porn (i.e., write "sex," not "fucking" unless you are specifically discussing language). If you use a quote or idea from someone else's work, use a proper citation (give the person's name and the book, magazine, etc. the quote came from).

The content is mostly up to you, as long as you discuss how things make you feel (physically or emotionally) and what things mean to you. This is important: Make what you write as individualized as possible. It should scream, "THIS IS ME." That means being specific about your feelings, tastes, the way you think, how things have influenced you. Dig deep, ask yourself, "why do I...?" You don't have to come up with a definite answer, just explore. Don't write something shallow, common, or obvious. Use lots of descriptive terms and phrases where possible. Feel free to talk about experiences, but follow them up with "this is why I feel this way/this is how I see the experience/I'll never do that again/etc..." i.e., something meaningful, not just telling your history. PLEASE include discussion of any issues you feel comfortable with that make your experience/perspective unique: having had sex young, transsexuality, being an abuse survivor, being post-menopause, being a sex worker, being disabled, etc. This book will take a primarily positive outlook on sex, although it's fine to discuss being changed by/challenged by/overcoming negative experiences of any kind (crappy urologists/gynos, clumsy first times, etc.). Once again, be specific about what you think/thought or feel/felt. Think of this as teaching readers how you "tick."

Here are some ideas, but remember to discuss these or other issues only if they have had an effect on your experience/perception/etc. of receptive vaginal or anal sex (that means that if it's not really important to you, leave it out):

how things have changed with age/liking things you didn't like before
discuss things in the context of feminism, psychology, queer studies, etc. (if you have advanced academic knowledge of these subjects, please write with a general audience in mind. this sort of writing also requires greater attention to logic; make sure that you back up any academic arguments you make with good evidence.)
the perception or "value" of virginity
the role/effect of morals, your personal ethical system
relationships or communication with any partners
ostracism/invisibility/isolation within some particular community
any unique ways you have of having sex
social pressure, misconceptions, or expectations
the specific influence of any books, movies, magazines, classes, etc.

The issues of the following groups of people are of particular interest. If you know people in this category, call them up!

any transsexuals
bi or heterosexual men
butch lesbians
any intersexed individuals
sexual assault/abuse survivors
people struggling with acceptance/understanding of their own sexual orientation
anyone in law enforcement or the judicial system who has had extensive exposure to sexual violence

Your Submission

I may make minor (spelling, punctuation, etc.) changes to what you submit. If I need to make a major change (shortening, re-wording, etc.), I will let you know (I may ask you to re-write portions for clarification; please do so in a timely fashion). You can then accept the change, suggest another change, or decide not to submit at all; if you don't reply within two weeks, I'll consider it to be ok. Once the book gets published, obviously you won't have a chance to change your mind about anything. I can only include clearly expressed writing. Eloquence is welcome but please do not try to be overly poetic. This book is primarily about what others have to say, but it will include some amount of my own writing, in which I may do organizational/FYI type things such as comparing and contrasting things that different people say, mentioning related cultural phenomena or current events, etc. I will not be academically analyzing anything anyone writes in terms of psychology, sociology, etc.

Thanks.