Hi! I'm an on-again, off-again lurker, and an occasional commenter at
Shapely Prose and
The Rotund. I created
iamkateharding, but it seems like all the discussion is over here on
fatshionista, so I thought it was time to introduce myself here and start participating.
Stats: I'm 27, 5'5", about 240 lbs, and I don't have a whole lot of photos because my fashion sense has been either T-shirt/jeans/flip-flops or What Old Navy Had On Sale. My flickr photostream is
here for the curious.
I've been reading and writing an awful lot on personal finance lately, and one thing has got me hopping mad: The Diet Metaphor.
I would like to read
one book or blog that doesn't even
mention the word "diet", especially in the context of budgeting. Not all of them make the comparison explicit, but a lot of tips are the same, the tone is the same, and it's hard not to make the connection in this diet-obsessed culture.
And some of them really are that blatant about it. "It's just like putting your money on a diet!" Really? THANKS FOR SETTING ME UP TO FAIL. One blog had a post today about using Twitter to post about your spending, then you publicize the link and let social pressure keep you on the straight and narrow. The blogger said he'd been using that to help him -- guess what? -- stick to his diet/exercise plan. So diet tips should totally work for your money!!1!
I can see how the metaphor would be useful to some people. But it is not useful to me. I am not dieting, I have no intention of ever dieting again, and a big reason I quit dieting was the damage caused by the whole deprivation/reward cycle that personal finance blogs and books love so much. In fact I am so anti-diet that a lot of otherwise-good budgeting advice is not sinking in at all. They say "dollars", I hear "calories", and I am flipping them a big fat bird with "No way!" tattooed on the side.
So,
fatshionista, I turn to you: How do you handle money and budgeting without using diet tips? Is there a better metaphor out there? Is fat-positive personal finance too specific a target? And how can I draft a workable budget without freaking out?