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2004-09-09T22:46:43Z

edited: effective september 2005...

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On to some other info:

Ladies if you are a new dancer, there are three main types of dancing you will be doing in a club: couch dancing, and on stage there is pole dancing and floor work. To learn new things to do for couch dancing and floor work, there is an EXCELLENT resource to get new moves, and I swear that it works.

Try: DownloadStrippers.com and check out the free downloads there. The stuff you learn you can practice in your own home and there are so many different things you can do your options are unlimited. Very easy and worth the time. Hope it helps!

Thank you.

Just how legal is Prodomination? You might be surprised

2004-09-01T14:57:52Z

You might be surprised how much of their ass prodommes and webmasters lay on the line to operate.

Currently, in Los Angeles county several Mistresses seem to be the target of a sweep done by police...a true sign of it being election time.

Do you wonder why now, more than ever, Mistresses don't care to go ito detail in emails, instant messages and on the phone. It isn't just that creep that has called ten times today just to beat his meat asking the same questions over and over.

Your simple innocent fetish could easily be used against us by the courts and police. Which has been the case for several practicing Mistresses in Los Angeles county over the last month.

Mistress Sabrina Belladonna was kind enough to go into detail on her post on the discussion board of prodomination.com and was kind enough to provide the link below from the bar-b-que fund raiser held by mistress Torturella this last Sunday evening in Los Angeles.
<http://prodomination.com/board/viewtopic.php?p=654#654>

If you are interested in supporting the legal defense for prodommes
please visit http://www.prodomination.com

If you are interested in helping Mistress Torturella's efforts you
may contact her through her website at http://www.torturella.com

And I encourage all to do their part to defend all sex acts between
consenting adults, whether vanilla or kink, by doating to the
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom at http://www.ncsfreedom.org

The sexual lifestyle you save might be your own!

Mistress Genevieve Brown-Georgiev
1800-863-5478 extention 0376164
http://www.msgenevieve.com
http://www.niteflirt.com/MsGenevieve
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mistressgenevievesslaves
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mistressgenevieve

exoticdancer @ 2004-08-30T00:12:00

2004-08-30T07:13:05Z

hi i'm new just saying hi!

Two months early, but humor me.

2004-08-27T08:38:40Z

Halloween is coming...and this year, I am NOT going to be Snow White. Last year a costumer showed up in the same costume as mine. NOT THIS YEAR!

A Girl Scout! I can't wait.

Anyone else have any new and interesting costume ideas?

exoticdancer @ 2004-08-26T15:02:00

2004-08-26T19:00:20Z

Heyya everybody! I have a question I am hoping someone can help me with. I have a pair of patent shoes that I loaned to a friend for a special night with her fella. She has a size smaller of feet, but they are wide, and when I got them back they were stretched out around the ball of the foot, which makes them difficult to dance in (they slip around alot now). Does anyone have advice on how to get them to shrink down again?

exoticdancer @ 2004-08-24T17:28:00

2004-08-24T22:31:09Z

Hey everyone. I'm new in the community, and I'm sure this question has been asked before, but have any of you tried brazilian waxing?? Does it prevent the bumpy irritation? I don't really get it that badly when I shave with a nice razor and gel, but I'd like to eliminate it completely. I've heard of putting deodorant on after shaving, but that didn't really do much. Any suggestions will help. Thanks!

exoticdancer @ 2004-08-23T12:03:00

2004-08-23T17:04:48Z

any girls work in or near San Antonio TX? I would like to know what some of the clubs here are like.

I need help!

2004-08-23T08:56:16Z

Hey ladies! I was about to apply to get my very first apartment on my own without a roommate. I have two jobs, I work in retail and I am a dancer. On the renters application it asks for my employment information and I don't know what to put. If I just put that I work in retail then they will find out I usually don't work very much and I make probably about 400 dollars a month from that job. I make the bulk of my money from dancing and that how I pay my bills. Do you think the apartment manager would be judgmental if I put my dancing job down as my primary employment? What did you all put down as your primary employment when ya'll were trying to get apartments in you name? Help!!!!

Hehe...

2004-08-08T07:48:39Z

Just cause I'm bored

2004-08-07T22:28:10Z

1. Do you shave? Trim? Full or natural? landing strip.

2. Do you consider yourself sexy? Most of the time

3. If you were to categorize yourself as a dancer what would you say you are? Example: Barbie, gothic princess, mature beauty, classy ass, beautiful, white trash sex queen, Latina sexy, exotic, erotic, dominitrix etc... Exotic Latina Sexy

4. What's your favorite costume? Black pin strip dress with pink ruffles that opens up in the back to expose my entire ass with a black thong

5. Favorite strip tease song? Changing Faces - Stroke you up, Marylin Manson - Touriquet, Deftones - My own summer, Duran Duran - Come undone, and Various Reaggeton...I can't pick just one ;x

6. Best feature? Ass and eyes

7. Best personality trait? I'm super laid back and ppl seem to open up to me. I'm really straight up, some men like that some don't.

8. What do you usually say when you approach a man at work? "Hey, how's your night going so far sweetie/hun/handsome/something corny?"

9. Are your lap dances sexy? What's your magic touch, move or words? Lots of eye contant and I put my face real close to thiers to were they're dying to kiss me and pull away a bit to tease them

10. Do you like stage or lap dances better? I have fun on stage but lap dances is where you make all your money

11. What's your best advice for a new dancer? Go to school and use the money your makin to help you plan a future. You can't dance forever.

12. Do you save your money or spend it shamelessly? A little of both

13. Do you drink at work? No

14. Do girls at your work do drugs out in the open? Not really

15. Would you want your daughter or sister to dance? I wouldn't want my daughter to do it but a sister is ok. As long as I can take her under my wing and show her the right way of going about things.

16. Do your parents/family know you dance? Yes

17. What would you like to get out of this community? Just to be able to link up with other dancers and share experiences and get a few tips here and there.

18. Do you do pole tricks? A few

19. What is the most annoying thing girls do at your club? Fight over music

20. If you could work anywhere in the country for a week where would you go? Alaska, I hear the money is great out there.

21. Are you bi-sexual, straight, gay or bi-curious? (you don't have to answer of course) straight

my first dance!

2004-08-04T01:12:24Z

hey guys, on saturday night i'm going for my first audition. i'm so nervous, but i think i'm pretty well-prepared. i've got shoes, outfit, make-up, etc... so i was just wondering...

what does a new exotic dancer actually wear for an interview?

preferably, i would like to come off as a classy lady, but i would also like to highlight my features. any suggestions? thanks.

Recommendations...

2004-07-31T22:23:54Z

It seems that instead of waiting the preferred month or so to dance again I might have to do this a lot earlier than planned. Like in the next week or so. Needless to say I'm terrified. Mostly because I'm afraid of looking like I don't know what the heck I'm doing because I don't but equally as scared because I do not have the body type IMO to do this. What clothing is out there to wear on stage (more or less the undergarments...thongs) that can be somewhat flattering to a person with a somewhat thicker mid section? Basically I have baby belly. Not too bad but enough for me to want to cover it up.

Thanks a million.

By the way, I found the slingshot I was looking for!

Exotic Dancer Link List

2004-07-31T12:30:50Z

I started this link page a long long time ago when I first started this community..I don't run this community anymore but I thought some of you might dig this link list. The topics are:

Costumes/Shoes
Forums/BBS
Fun/ Crazy
Journals/Communities
Personal
Strip Clubs/Directories
4 Dancers
Adult Sites/free
Adult Sites/pay
Other

Exotic Dancer Link List

So if you have a dancer themed website or your just looking for the best dancer links..check it out or add your own link to the list. No spam allowed only sites that dancers would enjoy! Please!

mostly for you san diegans / LA folks

2004-07-29T17:19:48Z

I also figured I would ask here, because I've lost all my connections regarding costume ladies / house moms / dressmakers. And I need a good set of hotpants/boycut shorts.

Last night I was shopping at The Crypt (on Park) - and it sort of pissed me off. Don't get me wrong, I still like the atmosphere and such ...and I did get a very nice flogger & skirt out of it. However it's gone from a great all-purpose fetish store to an overpriced, mainly-centered-around-gay-male store. Their female clothing collection has gone down drastically, and unisex just isn't cutting it (I tried).

So - any good shopping ideas? My co-worker pointed me here, but I'd love to hear your favorite places. I need good shoes, and decent ...devious inventory.

Good idea!

2004-07-29T15:22:30Z

I had to pass this along and if it's already well known then just ignore me. I haven't danced in about 6 or more years.

I came across a dancer the other night at the new club I'm *trying* to waitress at.

She was talking about these new shoes she had bought. They were the platform close-to-9-inch heels open toed white shoes. Very nice. I asked her that since they were new, didn't her feet hurt?

Nope.

Apparently where the shoe covered her feet she put duct tape around her foot extending maybe 1/8 of an inch past where the top of the shoe covered her foot (if that made any sense). She also taped her big toe with a small strip and then her last two toes. You could not see the tape at all even when standing there in front of her feet on stage. Apparently this keeps your shoes from rubbing against your feet and causing blisters.

I imagine if you have clear shoes you can't use the silver tape, buy packing clear tape...but anyways, it was a pretty nifty idea. She said she never gets blisters this way because the shoes never rub against her skin.

Just an idea to pass along.

exoticdancer @ 2004-07-27T12:09:00

2004-07-27T19:09:30Z

hey girls thanks for the advice on that ad, I got a hold of Craig from Craigslist and he is going to try to remove it. =) Craig is so great

Searching for something...

2004-07-27T13:09:51Z

And this is the best place to ask I suppose!

:)

I am looking for a place that sells slings/slingshots. I'm not a great body type and T's just look ick on me right now so I'm searching for a slingshot!

The only way I can describe this is it's a T but the sides that would go over your hips like undies are really long and criss cross in many ways to X over your back and down your sides. Bah, I'm bad at this. Anyways, does anyone know what I'm talking about? They were around a few years back.

strip city

2004-07-21T23:08:43Z

I just finished reading strip city. I liked it very much and would encourage anyone to go out there and read it. It gave me such mixed feelings, but I have more certainty I know what I'm up against. There is only a month left before I will be fully ready.
I had previously picked the name ginger, but it sounds too common. Ana-belle sounds slightly southern and (I think) very sweet and girly.
I am going to define myself and create an alter ego. I want to use no details of my actual life. Everything in the club is going to be a big huge fake, interesting lie, involving lots of hot air balloons and wild horses :)
I can't stop thinking about it and I'm doing alot of research.
I wonder if there are any others who've obsessed with the decision to dance as I am?
and have you noticed that most stripclubs have really shitty websites?

Texas?

2004-07-21T12:54:17Z

Does anyone in this community work in or around Dallas Texas?

I'm thinking about getting into waitressing until I'm ready to go back and dance...we kind of need the finances right now and instead of getting some minimum wage part time job, this might work better.

BAD STRIPPER NAMES... ctnd.

2004-07-20T14:42:06Z

ew. Midnight..and Destiny is very typical. Then there's the chick at my club named Portia which is ok enough but she just had a baby & named it Portia.. I dont know really, I'm desensitized to protocol after working in the industry, but I wonder how the outside world would see that? Is it kind of Springer-ish? would you feel funny when you were all grown-up knowing your mother named you after her stripper name? hehehe its sort of funny.

and "Curly"
Okay, this wouldn't be so bad maybe, except that this girl had very
curly hair.
???
It is as stupid as calling yourself "Blond" (unless you're not) or
"Curvy" or something.

My best friend is a Bambi :) One of the bargirls who "crossed over" was
going to call herself Thumper but they didn't end up having that
haggling chemistry some girls have. She was also going to call herself
"Really" for some reason. Headfucks, i guess.
"Really"
"Really?"
"Yeah. Really."
etc.,
Bambi is a pretty typical name I guess (second only to Candy!..shudder)
but it was derived from her actual name (Amber, Ambi, Bambi, Bamber..)
during high school so it doesn't seem so bad. is the cutest little
bunny who does all her poletricks in rollerskates and she's probably the
only girl in our club who can get away with falling off the stage during
passion parade and not look tragic! She was just in a new magazine too,
http://www.platinumgirls.com.au/models.php
if you go perve on her you should vote for her while yr there! She'll
win $25000

Hmm more bad names...
I worked on bar and everybody got really confused because there was
this dancer named Bailey who looks very similar to me so everybody planned
for me to call myself Milk so we could do double shows but. No.

NEW CLUB !

2004-07-18T16:22:12Z

I am dancing at this new club in Kentucky. (I've been dancing for two years.) It's the sister club of the last one I worked at. The inside of the club is nicer looking, like it's well taken care of and clean. The stage is very large with TWO (yeah!) taller-than-average poles.

I only did 2 lap dances, since this club is more of a coctail club. This one customer who got one kept trying to force me to rub on his dick, so I yelled at him, "Stop it!" "Shut up!" It was so funny. He probably had a Napoleon complex or something, since my shoes make me 6'1". I made around $140, mostly off drinks.

The pay structure here is completely foreign from most clubs. The club keeps $5 off every dance, and half of the money from drinks, which start out at $20. If they make $250 off me (their half, meaning I hustled $500) for the week, I get $100 bonus. There's $50 extra bonus for every additional $250 they make off me. There is NO house, DJ, bouncer fees. I get to keep all of my tips. It's sort of confusing, but I think it will work out okay. It's almost a relief to me, at this point, to do less couch dances, just because I'm sick of grabby customers. I'm sick of how they act like little cry babies when you tell them to stop touching. It's like I'm their whore and their mom, all at the same time. BLEAH.

So, yesterday was my first day, and I ended up being completely shit-faced, since I can't drink that heavily. Next time I work, I need them to cut my drinks with alot of water or something.

.: ?? :.

2004-07-18T07:05:23Z

does anyone know of a good Bellydancing video/DVD? i hear they're great.

tips for the new dancer

2004-07-17T19:36:28Z

I was really surprised Thursday night. it was my first night dancing ever and I made $300. all the other girls did really bad. One girl left with $5, some with $20. A lot of them are saying I am just a natural. So after tip out I made $260, and my house was free the 1st night.

2nd night I only made $175 after tip out. i was kind of bummed since I did so good on my first night.

So last night there wasn't a lot of big spenders in club. Mostly a lot of foreigners. A group of japanese guys who didn't speak english. I got 1 dance from one of them. He couldn't count american money and gave me $40 for 1 dance! haha

But honestly I don't like guys feeling me up, and if I don't let them they get upset. They also enjoy sucking on my breasts and I HATE THAT. It's also against the rules to do so. i noticed the other girls don't have problems with being felt up or being sucked on.

One guy actually asked me what he could and couldn't do, so I said, "sit back, relax is all you have to do." He goes "I want to suck on your nipples" I told him it was against the rules and he decided to leave. So basically I thought I was making another $25 and he took off. Anyway, does anyone think it would be a good idea to charge people maybe $5 just for taking them to the VIP room? It sucks that I give so many dirty old men my time and they don't even tip me for my time, WHICH IS WORK!

tips advice? please...thanks.

Got it!

2004-07-17T00:20:55Z

I got the Exotic Dancer's Handbook from Fawnia's website for $4.95 today in my Inbox and IMO it has some really good tips in it! Things I wouldn't have thought about doing.

Just a suggestion but spending the $4.95 is a pretty good idea for anyone wanting tips and ideas for dancing either for someone new or experienced.

Next step is getting her 2nd video (I don't *think* I need the pole one just yet)

Performance outfits

2004-07-16T19:42:40Z

Greetings, I am new to this community, but not to dancing. I danced for about 4 months, and Loved everything about it. there is nothing quite like the feeling of being onstage, the movement, the music and of course, the power, lol. Unfortunately, my husband was a graduate student and with a then 2 year old child at home, the hours became too difficult to keep up. I stayed in touch with many of the girls from my club and when I started doing some sewing from my home, I became somewhat of the costume mistress for many of them. As my business has grown I have considered posting items online to sell as well, I am wondering if anyone in this community is interested in seeing some of my products, everything I make is unique and well made (I am actually professional with my quality, better than many of the things you will find in catalogues). I also do corsetry for those who are interested, I produce those mostly for our local gothic community, but they are also great for burlesque shows and other fun play ;) . Please post if anyone is interested in seeing pics of my wares, THanks for your input!

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