damnportlanders: Oh Wise Dp-ers

Julia (

prettymuchjulia) wrote in

damnportlanders,
@ 2008-01-09 15:44:00

Oh Wise Dp-ers
I recently wrote my Grandmother a letter.

She responded in kind, and left this as the post script.

P.S.
Julia, writing so many notes and letters this year, you should know that nicknames are not (underlined) appropriate and correct titles are, especially on the envelope. check your library for Lititia Baldridge's "New Manners for New Times" Pages 652-654.

Does anyone have this book, and somehow know what she is talking about?

I surely did not address the letter "old Cantankerous Bat" or anything. She's my grandma! Help!

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	typsie 2008-01-09 11:50 pm UTC (link)
	Woah. I know a lot of people grandmothers address their envelopes as "Mrs. Joseph Jalopy-McFresh" or whatever, even if said Josephs aren't around anymore.. could this have been what she meant? Regardless, she certainly wasn't very "appropriate" in the way she pointed this out. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	matrixleap 2008-01-09 11:51 pm UTC (link)
	Wow... Um, I'm at a loss to say anything other than 'Wow' =/ ~D. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	misterpessimist 2008-01-09 11:53 pm UTC (link)
	i will never "properly" address a letter again. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	ps misterpessimist 2008-01-09 11:55 pm UTC (link)
	i have a grandma who used to get pissed about me calling her grandma instead of grandmother. when i was a little kid. so i started calling her mrs. novack. not to her face, but someday its going to slip. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	golden_nights 2008-01-09 11:55 pm UTC (link)
	Google "Baldrige new manners for new times"... p653 is missing, but the other two are in the Google Books result! (Reply to this)(Thread)

	jnxed 2008-01-09 11:56 pm UTC (link)
	Unless she has a nice inheritance, politely remind her to STFU and enjoy the fact that you took the time out to write. If there is a nice inheritance well then, find the damn book! (Reply to this)(Thread)

	sinnamongirl 2008-01-09 11:56 pm UTC (link)
	I've been pondering etiquette, and the loss of, these days. I haven't read that particular book, but I've been looking up Emily Post a bit (it's hilarious), and this might give you an inkling: http://www.bartleby.com/95/27.html Although it seems like if she's your grandma, it would be okay to use a nickname. Is grandma a nickname? (Reply to this)(Thread)

	randomjen 2008-01-10 12:00 am UTC (link)
	Oh man. I've actually sent my grandmother cards addressed to "Crazy Old Italian Woman" and "I Never Get Cards Bagley" before. In fact, I rarely address letters to people using their actual names. It's a strange habit. I change my name in the return address as well. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	solteronita 2008-01-10 12:03 am UTC (link)
	http://catalog.multcolib.org/search/YNew+Manners+for+New+Times&searchscope=1&SORT=D/YNew+Manners+for+New+Times&searchscope=1&SORT=D&SUBKEY=New%20Manners%20for%20New%20Times/1%2C2%2C2%2CB/frameset&FF=YNew+Manners+for+New+Times&searchscope=1&SORT=D&1%2C1%2C (Reply to this)(Thread)

	jaywantscandy 2008-01-10 12:10 am UTC (link)
	I hope your grandma appreciates that not only does she have a loving granddaughter who writes to her on a regular basis, but one who is actually taking the time to accomodate her somewhat antiquated sense of etiquette! Kudos to you for being such an awesome person. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	socktree 2008-01-10 12:21 am UTC (link)
	My grandmother is happy I don't correct her when she writes to me as "Miss..." (I'm not 5, grandma), so she wouldn't dare correct me. However, I'm one of the only grandchildren that write her on a regular basis, so she really can't complain. (Reply to this)

	rogueonca 2008-01-10 01:00 am UTC (link)
	Thank you for making me giggle at work and earning me funny looks from my coworkers. That -is- weird, but I just loved the 'cantankerous old bat' part. Made my evening. (Reply to this)

	lucasmo 2008-01-10 01:11 am UTC (link)
	Perhaps you should address your next letter to "Old Cantankerous Brat." :P (Reply to this)

	lunadragonfly 2008-01-10 01:30 am UTC (link)
	Of course the biggest etiquette gaffe of all is to call attention to someone else's gaffe so HAHA grandma loses! (Reply to this)(Thread)

	trtlgrl 2008-01-10 01:40 am UTC (link)
	My DH's grandmother wants letters addressed to her real first and last name, then inside we can write "dear grandma". Must be that gerneration! (Reply to this)

	bitchtransformr 2008-01-10 01:48 am UTC (link)
	I have had a package to a friend returned to me by the post office because I used a nickname and no last name on the address. Apparently the USPS is big on etiquette too. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	msbunburyist 2008-01-10 01:49 am UTC (link)
	I write letters addressed to people's real first and last names, but I don't use titles except in professional settings. I guess if I were writing wedding invitations I might, but... just a letter to your grandma? That's way old fashioned. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	push_the_limits 2008-01-10 01:53 am UTC (link)
	If she hadn't underlined "not," I wouldn't have been so bothered by it. Also, the fact that she says "especially," meaning she's referring to any time other than addressing envelopes sits wrong with me. I could see it as not rude if she was just talking about envelopes, though. Hmph. Old people. I deal with some crazy rude ones at work. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	varro 2008-01-10 01:53 am UTC (link)
	Etiquette Nazism is as bad as Grammar Nazism, and it has its own ironic twist - pointing out alleged bad manners in a rude way is just as bad as committing an etiquette violation. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	a_rockett 2008-01-10 02:05 am UTC (link)
	Its not the text your grandma was referring to, but here is a discourse on personal letter writing etiquette- http://www.bartleby.com/95/27.html Also- http://www.weddingzone.net/px-pl025.htm (Reply to this)

	krazyfelioness 2008-01-10 04:04 am UTC (link)
	Just don't send her a printed version of this post. =P (Reply to this)(Thread)

	$¯\(º_o)/¯$ baisez_moi_svp 2008-01-10 04:05 am UTC (link)
	The next letter should be addressed to: Her Royal and Most Exalted Highness Mrs. (first & last name) Srsly. I WILL GIVE YOU A DOLLAR IF YOU DO THIS. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	lokidecat 2008-01-10 05:47 am UTC (link)
	You have been pwned by the original grammar nazi! BOOYA! Next time, write her an entire letter in l33t speak. Edited at 2008-01-10 05:47 am UTC (Reply to this)

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