http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13712569.html?thread=165452217#t165452217

if you think abortion is the best option then stop having unprotected sex and risk it because abortion has its side effects and they can turn out alot worse than having a child

it is inviting abortion debate, (at least IMO as the whole "abortion is more dangerous than carrying to term thing" is a generally debunked tactic of the anti-choice side of the debate, so if this person attempts to back that up they are almost certainly going to have to link to politically charged websites, and people are requesting that ze back it up), and also judges the OPs protection choices...

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13712569.html?thread=165452217#t165452217

This comment is very condescending to the OP. It's not the commenter's place to tell the OP whether or not she should be having unprotected sex. The OP came to VP asking for encouragement, not opinions.

This post: http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13668254.html

I'm a bit surprised I got warned for that, and am worried that it might have been spillover from things that other people went on to say, but I did not. I meant my comment kindly and have already given the OP a fair amount of advice on a previous post; I certainly had no intention of implying that she should not post and should have chosen my words better.

Nonetheless, she is repeating the question she asked here, with less detail so that it's hard for people to really know what she's talking about, and that worries me.

I support safe space, but I can't help thinking that if someone is repeatedly posting something that adds up to "please reassure me that I'm not pregnant", they need to be told that what they need to do is get tested - especially since based on everything she's posted the OP almost certainly *isn't* pregnant at all.

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http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13664970.html

The comment by adviceforu10 on this post seems completely inappropriate to me and has obviously upset the OP.

Just wanted to let you know. Thank you!

There are a buncha buncha comments to this entry saying "dump the motherfucker already" or other things along those lines....

I'm not really sure if its a violation or not, but maybe something to keep an eye on. I'd be kind of miffed if a bunch of internet strangers said that about MY motherfucker. ;)

I want to apologize for my post in VP. I completely forgot about the rule against political posts. Thank you for the suggestion of the other community; I will post it there. Again, sorry.

-Winnie

I direct you to: http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13595971.html?thread=164172355#t164172355

So, in other words, we should never say, "Gee, that was dumb, but it was your fault and now you have to take responsibility and hopefully learn from it in the future." We should always just say, "Oh, it's ok, it wasn't your fault even though you made the choices you made." In that case, the boyfriend was telling the girl it was her fault, when it was BOTH of their responsibility, and it WAS stupid to have unprotected sex without birth control. Everyone makes mistakes, and yes, it's naive and stupid to have sex without birth control or condoms. You can get AIDS or a variety of other diseases, and pregnancy happens quite easily.

I apologize for speaking the truth. I know it offends PC sensibilities. But, it also doesn't help anyone if you just accept and support their self-destructive and idiotic behavior.

As wonderful a resource as VP is, it seems like it's not very trans inclusive. The "trans issues" tag hasn't been used for over a year, and with about that much time between each post it is used for. Trans issues are mentioned only briefly under the Inclusion section, and is more a collection of definitions than anything.

I guess this post is just to ask how everyone thinks that can be improved (or even if people think it needs to be improved), and to suggest adding TransWhat? to the resources Vulvapedia links to. It's definitely the most comprehensive Trans 101 type site I've seen.

I was recently gifted this icon, and I wanted to make sure, (since it is my default now), that using it in VP would not be in opposition to the no abortion debate policy....

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13567187.html?thread=163880915#t163880915

I'm not a mod, and I'm irked by that attitude.

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13559875.html

The comments on this post are tending towards "you shouldn't/do have a right to feel like that", which I don't think is helpful. It might be one to keep an eye on.

is it possible there can be a vulvapedia article written on boils? i noticed that they get posted about pretty often but there isn't a good vulvapedia or vp page i can link to when someone needs to know how to treat them or more info

Hey all,

You guys might want to keep an eye on this post...some of the comments by dorkdafied are skirting the boundaries of safe space, IMO.

TIA :)

I would appreciate it if you would take a look at this comment by miss_klutz. She refers to being wart free as "clean", which I know is not an attitude promoted by VP.

Thanks!

I just noticed something about the links list in the sidebar:  Theres no direct link to the Vulvapedia.  Unless I'm blind, the only way to get to it is to go somewhere else first, like one of the top five faq's or the VP main page, and then head to the vulvapedia itself.  It's not a huge issue, but I know that if I was in a rush, and I didn't see it right away, it could be frustrating.  

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13507080.html?thread=163209992#t163209992

I cringed at that comment. I just had surgery, and am on too much Percocet to respond in a constructive or ...sense-making (see?) manner. I just wanted to bring it to your attention. Thanks.

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13482221.html

Sorry about being a jerk about cindy ann's comment.
My son isn't circumcised, and I took her comment to heart... It's hard to hear people talk like that when as you said, people have loved ones who are intact.
I agreed with what I thought she pointed out as her own "immature attitude" but I probably did it all wrong, lol. Sorry about that.

Thanks though, for warning both of us and keeping it fair. I appreciate that.

I think that this post could become a big mess so you might wanna keep an eye on it:


http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13474566.html

just a general heads up

There is a comment here that is pretty concerning to me. It says that naproxen is very very dangerous and might kill you if you lie down within an hour of taking it. I could be wrong.....but I really don't think that's true.

Off-topic post: http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13442970.html

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13434825.html

A thread to keep an eye on... the post includes a line about hating little girls and teenagers, and some are offended.

I suppose I'm curious if this question is appropriate for the main comm., but I suspect I might find sufficient answers with this post, anyway.

We're planning on trying to conceive soon, and I'm interested in community (LJ-only, for now) referrals for TTC and prep, pregnancy (hopefully!), and ultimately, parenting. I know I can just interest search, but I know some are more active than others, drama-filled than others, or geared towards certain demographics.

If applicable, I'm in a hetero relationship, in my early 30s, liberal, healthy and able-bodied (no special concerns that I know of), and in New England.

Thanks!

I was wanting to draw attention to a comment left in this post: (http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13386101.html) by lynessence.

"Of course it is not being made readily available to the general public, as diseases like HIV, cancer and the like are being used as population controllers, and also to target minority communities. HIV can be cured completely, I believe, but then all those scientists and research facilities would shut down and people would be out of jobs. Not to mention, people would probably be more careless about having unprotected sex and IV drug use if they knew they could be cured."

I don't think that this is the sort of false information that the community should be promoting, but I don't want to engage the individual, for fear of a flame war. Putting this sort of quackery is dangerous and misleading, and I don't want to see people take unnecessary risks because of something that someone read on a conspiracy theory website. To me, this is akin to spreading the rumor that HIV can be cured with bleach. =(

Thanks!

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13354710.html?thread=161457878&style=mine#t161457878

I'm not sure exactly which rule is violated by expressing a wish to punch someone in the vagina, but I am sure this thread is going to need moderator attention in a hurry.

*daha*

http://community.livejournal.com/vaginapagina/13323529.html

I see that queensugar already replied to this post but she didn't address what I feel is a seriously problematic part...

this quote: She's very naive and innocent ( I also think she has a bit of a learning disibility), and knows next to nothing about this stuff. Don't they still teach sex ed in schools? WTF? (emphasis mine)


While I cannot completely assume that this person isn't qualified to diagnose someone with a learning disability I think there is a very high probability that the OP is not in fact qualified to do so, therefore I find this ableist, (because I believe that she is either with malice or with disregard using "learning disability" as an insult). Also I find the second part that I highlighted to be extremely presumptive and judgmental, for the following reasons:

1. many schools have abstinence only education now that does not provide true valid information on sexual health.
2. even schools with more "normal" sex-ed allow parents the option to keep their kids out of that class.
3. It assumes that if you have access to a class in school you will necessarily "learn" everything the way that the OP feels that you should "learn it".


I'm posting this here because I am way preggo hormonal today so I may be over reacting and I'm in no state to have a rational conversation about it over there right now...

Hi, folks. In light of a recent VP post, the maintainer team has added a new rule about the use of macros in vaginapagina.

Basically, we're not going to allow them. While they can certainly be humorous or amusing, they're also very often snarky or insulting. We don't want to foster snark in the community; we do want to encourage dialogue that's informative, thoughtful, and respectful. Because of this, we ask that VP commenters not use them.

If you have questions, comments, or concerns about this, feel free to drop us a line. Otherwise, we return you to your regularly scheduled programming. ;)

So how do I edit that and repost then? It's not abortion pros and cons it's PP losing funding and a great many of us getting hit for the full costs of out BC and women's health. They made it about abortion but the reality is our health care.

Hi,

I was wondering if there were any guidelines or standards for userpics used by posters to VP? As I understand it, VP is a safe space, and I have come across numerous userpics that I find not just offensive, but triggering. (for example, the rocking-out-on-headphones hitler posted 5/23/08 09:50 am). I don't want to undermine anyone's question with a "hey, your userpic really bothers me," but was wondering if there were any standards in that arena.

Thanks.