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Sunday, June 21st, 2009
5:40 pm [princessodyssey]	I know this subject has come up many times before, but I'd really appreciate your input Hi. I'm Courtney. 27. I've been lurking lately, but this is the first post. I guess the easiest way to do this and dive in is to post an excerpt that I recently posted in an f-locked post in my personal journal (don't worry, it's only about a paragraph long). It pretty much sums up where I'm going with this: ( Excerpt here. ) So I guess my questions are: Does anyone else struggle with this dichotomy? If you believe homosexuality is wrong, how do you deal with all the discrimination and pain that can cause? And if you don't believe homosexuality is wrong, how do you deal with what the Bible says? Has everyone come down on one side of the issue or another, or are there other people who are still struggling with resolving this in their minds? Also, if you know of good resources, I'd appreciate it if you'd point me to them. I think I'm looking for books that clearly explain things from both sides, so I can, together with God, make my own decision. Current Mood: confused (15 Comments |Comment on this)
Wednesday, June 10th, 2009
4:12 pm [annemarie]	oral sex question Let me preface this by saying my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. Now to the heart of the matter. My husband and I both love giving oral sex to each other. We both love receiving it too. I always try to fulfill is wishes when it comes to me giving him oral sex. However, for the last few months, unless I'm on my period when getting pregnant would be highly unlikely, anytime I've given him oral sex, I've ended up with this nagging thought that I might be cheating us of the opportunity of getting pregnant. I guess I would hate to think that it might have been the exact time for me to get pregnant and we had oral sex instead of intercourse. Have any of you ever experienced something like this? Do you have any suggestions for me so I won't feel so guilty about it? (4 Comments |Comment on this)
Monday, June 1st, 2009
9:32 pm [lizzypaul]	Complementarians and Ephesians 5:21 Hey, Complementarians? I understand that there's a lot of scripture that seems to support male headship in marriage. Now, I don't agree with that interpretation, but I understand it, for the most part. One question, though: what is your view on Ephesians 5:21? ("Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.") It's part of the passage on marriage, after all, with "wives submit to your husbands" coming directly after. Why is this verse disregarded? I do believe that wives need to be submissive to their husbands....but it also seems to me like husbands are commanded to submit to their wives, as well. This is an honest question. My parents are egalitarians, who consider their relationship an equal partnership, and both say that mutual submission is very important to a happy marriage. Our church holds this view as well (and as my mom is the pastor, it's not like I have someone else in authority to ask). The only answer I've been given was unsatisfying (basically, I was told that "it doesn't apply to married couples" which I don't see any biblical justification for, seeing as it's juxtaposed with the rest of the commands for marriage). If you believe in male headship in marriage, how do you interpret Ephesians 5:21? Thanks! Current Mood: curious (5 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
12:49 pm [annemarie]	More than just sex, a chance to get away with the spouse This was based on something one of our employees said this week. There were five of us ladies from work at lunch and we got to discussing the number of states that each of us had been to. The youngest girl there piped up and said, "Well, I've only been to four states but I've had sex in two of them. That's pretty good." We all got a laugh out if it but it also gave me something to think about doing with my husband. I think it would be neat to make it a goal to have sex with your spouse in at least one or two new states every year. So far my husband and I have had sex in seven states for sure. I can't remember if we had sex in South Carolina or not. I know we spent the night there but I didn't count it just because I can't remember. I mentioned it to him and he said he liked the idea. We should try to add at least two new states this year. The real possibilities are Ohio, Indiana, Alabama, West Virginia and maybe Mississippi. This may sound kinda frivolous but think about it. These would be mostly weekend trips we could take with each other. It would give us a nice chance to talk and get away from our everyday stresses and woes. It would be about sex, yes, but it would also be a nice time to share with each other. What are your thoughts? (3 Comments |Comment on this)
Tuesday, March 10th, 2009
1:59 pm [yoursforever_me]	when would you say you lost your virginity? EDIT: i worded this post wrong, sorry. i mean what do you consider to be loosing your virginity? (9 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, March 1st, 2009
7:14 pm [lordhellebore]	"The notion that women have to want sex to enjoy it is a really misguided idea." From the Sidney Morning Herald. .-.-.-. Women should say yes, yes, yes more. Jennie Curtin February 28, 2009 Forty years after liberated women felt able to say "no" to their partners' demands for sex, they have been urged to say "yes" more often to keep their men happy. Sex therapist and psychologist Bettina Arndt said different libidos were creating a generation of men who were "miserable, angry and really disappointed" that their need for sex was "being totally disregarded in their relationship". ( Read more... ) Current Mood: cold (24 Comments |Comment on this)
Wednesday, February 25th, 2009
2:03 pm [starchaser57]	Anti-Gay Bias Should Anger Christians/ Anti-Gay Bias Should Anger Christians Denunciation of gays has become a Christian Right core value, but Baptist minister Howard Bess says the bigotry must end. http://www.consortiumnews.com/2009/022309d.html     Yes.  Anie Gay Bias should anger Christians but not for the reason Howard Bess says.  ( see why ) (55 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, January 17th, 2009
4:28 pm [lizzypaul]	Resources on purity, forgiveness. Hi, all. I have a serious problem, and I was hoping I could get some advice. A young girl in my church (13) is going through a very hard time. Her first boyfriend, who was quite a bit older than her, broke up with after basically using her for sex, and tore her self-esteem to shreds in the process, to the point where she was suicidal. She no longer wants to kill herself, but she's still absolutely devastated. She's dealing with the typical teenage angst over losing her first love, dealing with her secular friends who think she's stupid for getting upset over losing her virginity (in one friend's words: "it's just sex"), and dealing with her church friends and foster mom who are basically treating her like a whore on top of it all. I'm trying to help her, giving her a shoulder to cry on, etc., but this is way outside of my realm of experience. She's right when she says that I don't know what she's going through...I really, really don't. I can tell her that I love her and that God loves her, but she feels like she's worthless and used up, and nothing I can say makes a difference. And she's thirteen. It breaks my heart. Do you know of any books or other resources that might help? I know a lot of books that talk about sexual purity, but I don't want to, like, pile on the guilt or make her feel like damaged goods...she's already got enough of that. I'm really looking for a book on her level (she's in middle school, and is fairly new to the church) that talks about forgiveness and redemption and God's love. Any recommendations? Thanks in advance! (Also, I would appreciate prayers for her, as well. She's having a really hard time.) Current Mood: worried (10 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, December 20th, 2008
10:30 pm [christianblog]	can you be a christian and a sex worker at the same time? Can you be a christian and a sex worker at the same time? What I mean is, is it possible to have a sincere faith but also provide sexual services (phone sex, escort services, etc) and not have a conflict between your faith and your work? Is it even possible that a sex worker with a faith could pray for her clients and care about them as human beings, and actually use her faith and her work together in a positive way? Or are sex workers kind of 'doomed' and heading for 'hell'? Are sex workers 'bad people' or can they be compassionate human beings providing sympathy, care and understanding? . . {cross-posted to 0hyourgod at this post here. (18 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, November 15th, 2008
7:23 pm [curiousityrules]	Serious topic I have to ask this and please understand why I created a dummy profile to make this post. I am not a troll but I like anonymity due to the subject of the post. I want to stop masturbating for good, because of the immense guilt I feel afterwards, but even with a lot of effort, I still can't. Have you stopped this habit and if you have, how did you stop? All comments are screened. (Comment on this)
Tuesday, October 21st, 2008
10:59 pm [atthemariinsky]	as basic as it gets... What is lust and why is it bad? Specifically, what is the distinction between desire, a virtue, and lust, a sin? (5 Comments |Comment on this)
Wednesday, September 17th, 2008
10:32 pm [9chambers]	Can someone become holy? Can someone really become "holy" or really live a "holy" life (in the true sense of the word)? I don't mean through the promise of Christ or for the most part. I mean, can a person get saved and then somehow grow into a person who just quits sinning? Because there are a lot of "holiness" pastors out there who preach that we need grace to pay for our past sins but we can get saved and through the power of Christ somehow live without sinning from here on out. I don't think that's scriptural at all. Do you? Can someone become holy? Is anyone reading this holy? Current Mood: irritated Current Music: (library noises) (7 Comments |Comment on this)
Monday, August 11th, 2008
10:04 pm [catholic_heart]	Male circumcision Someone on my flist just posted this study, indicating that male circumcision is apparently a stronger deterrent to HIV infection than was originally thought, as well as significantly reducing the likelihood of the transmission of another common STD. Just thought I'd share, since we were just talking about it. (11 Comments |Comment on this)
Thursday, August 7th, 2008
3:35 pm [annemarie]	Circumcision I realize as Christians, we aren't bound by the covenant of circumcision. I still wonder if there would be any reason not to circumcise from a Christian standpoint. Would it be seen as standing with our Jewish friends to circumcise our male babies? My husband and I are sorta trying to get pregnant. We will circumcise any boy babies we have but I was wondering if there would be any religious significance to doing it? Current Mood: curious (33 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, August 3rd, 2008
9:01 pm [christianblog]	There is not enough love in the world... On 17th June, at a meeting of the Northern Ireland Grand Committee, the Member of Parliament for Strangford, Iris Robinson (wife of the North of Ireland's First Minister and her party's Health Spokesperson) made the following comment: ""There can be no viler act, apart from homosexuality and sodomy, than sexually abusing innocent children." This remark, morally equating homosexuality to paedophilia, caused dismay. For one thing, she seemed to be implying that homosexuality was worse. I reflected on her comments and I feel they are clearly homophobic and discriminatory - making an irrational equation between the love and commitment of consenting adults on the one hand, and the violent and non-consensual abuse of children on the other. Therefore I decided to register her name in the .com version to present an alternative christian view of homosexual love and sex. My response is lengthy, but you can find it here at www.irisrobinson.com if you choose to take a look. If you do, and would care to click on the button to voice your own views, you'd be very welcome. In addition, if you know any forums or communities where this case (and even my website) could be publicised, please know that I'd be grateful for this alternative and more open christian view of gay and lesbian relationships to be circulated - as well as challenging the (in my view) appalling comment that was made, for which - though officially recorded - no apology has been received. This was not an isolated comment. I find it very worrying that MPs with governmental influence can promote views as hurtful and potentially harmful as I believe hers are. Such views seem to me to provide religious sanction for those who might commit hate-crimes, and they also contribute to a climate of disgust and marginalisation. sincerely, Susannah Clark (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, July 19th, 2008
10:13 pm [annemarie]	Gardasil How do you feel about the Gardasil vaccine? If you have a daughter or daughters, would have them take the vaccine? I'm sure most of us would hope a daughter or daughters would only have sex with one person, there is always the possibility that might not happen. It's also possible a daughter might only have one sex partner in her life but he could have been with others. There is also the possibility of rape. I would hate to think a girl would get HPV from being raped. (11 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, July 12th, 2008
1:00 am [annemarie]	sex education I know a lot of people in this community probably are opposed to any sex education in the schools that is more than abstinence based. While I disagree to some extent, I respect that position. Most people opposing sex ed in schools say it is the parents job to teach their children about sex. I agree parents should teach their kids about sex whether the schools do it or not. My question is this. If you believe teaching sex ed the responsibility of parents, how much do you think parents should teach? Do you think just telling children not to do it is sufficient? Do you think parents should explain concepts like contraception and sexually transmitted diseases? How much, if any, sex education did you receive from your parents? Was it satisfactory or did it leave you with questions that went unanswered until you started having sex? Do you wish they had taught you more or did they teach you too much? Current Mood: curious (24 Comments |Comment on this)
Thursday, July 3rd, 2008
4:57 pm [annemarie]	I don't remember where I read this but I thought I'd share I'm pretty sure it was in church magazine for young couples. For married couples, "Good sex is a gift from God. Great sex is a gift you give to each other." Do you agree or disagree? What are your feelings on the subject? (7 Comments |Comment on this)
Friday, June 20th, 2008
9:22 pm [autumpne_reyn]	adultery is it considered adultery/ a sin to be attracted to your fiance? at what point would it be considered lust? is it a sin to lust after your fiance? any opinions or biblical knowledge? Current Mood: contemplative (19 Comments |Comment on this)
Friday, June 13th, 2008
1:30 pm [annemarie]	Nuns Have you ever known anyone who became a nun? I don't. I wonder just how strong someone's faith would have to be to forego sex for the rest of their lives. Your thoughts? Current Mood: curious (10 Comments |Comment on this)