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Title: The child murder epidemic
Source: The Daily Mail
Link: Can be found here
Summary: A news programme called Dispatches went to councils all over England and found out that there are around 183 child killings in the UK between 2004 and 2008. (Another article on the site reveals that exactly 62% of children are killed by their parents with a further 17% are suspected to be killed by parents.)
I'm not going to copy & paste the article unless someone asks -- it's just too long.
In other news, everyone seems to be less excited by SIL's new baby. It still doesn't do much. She cries a lot, passes gas a lot, and threw up on my MIL several times (I hate hate hate throw up so I run away when I see the kid). MIL thrust the baby into my arms once and got a picture of me holding it with a very forced smile and is going to send it to my mother, who will upon seeing the photo whine and wail about how she wants grandchildren. *heavy sigh* Anyone got £3,000 to loan me so I can get sterilized?
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I am so glad I found this place :)
Just one thing I wanted to throw to you all because it really angered me the other day. I am firmly pro-choice and I mentioned this to a close friend (who being a feminist I thought would be supportive). She told me she was pro-choice too, but she doesn't think women should be allowed an abortion at anytime if they get married and have financial security. WHAT????? I explained to her about a woman's right to her own body etc etc but she was having none of it, saying the woman was selfish. Eugh. Just wondering, what would you have replied to her? And is anyone else outraged that this woman calls herself a feminist?
Sorry for the rant x
Please tell me if it's been posted before....
www.wowowow.com/relationships/dear-margo-h
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O really? While it seems well meaning, I'm a bit peeved at how mysogynistic it all sounds... Am I being overly sensitive?
EDIT: Another margo post... this one kinda made me smug...I'm a mean-hearted bastard sometimes :P
( young mom is jealous of her sister's life )
I totally think the sister is jealous and should be!
Somewhere along the way, though, the series lost its way. I’m not sure what happened. Like with Rory’s best friend Lane, remember how great Lane used to be? I asked my husband. We agreed that she should have been in a band or maybe become a DJ but DEFINITELY not turned into a little housewifey.
As if on cue, in this extra lame episode where the post-knocked up Lane (or should I call her LAME) has been swooning on and on about how her husband will go on tour while she stays at home with her twin babies, her friend Rory turns to her in admiration and says, “Wow, when did you get all mature?” LAME says, “I think it turns on when you become a MOTHER.”
HATE.
No wonder we stopped watching.
Mine happened last night. I have never been this mortified in my entire life. Before I get to the point, I have to explain a couple of things.
( Cut for language and stupidity... )
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cranky
That said, my annoyance today involves the much heralded Michael Jackson funeral memorial thing. Personally, I'm rather unaffected by his death, but I can appreciate his importance as a musician. I've tried to just ignore most of the hubbub about The Big Event today, though I live in Orange County so it's somewhat local to me.
I almost got away with it, too! But in the past half hour, I've had not one but two co-workers attempt to commiserate with me about what they viewed as the most gut-wrenching, heart-breaking moment of the memorial. As the Los Angeles Times wrote, "Michael Jackson's young daughter has told a public memorial service in Los Angeles that she loves her father."
They just stared at me for several moments, expecting me to get as teary-eyed as them about little Paris-Michael. I only answered with a non-committal "That's something." But seriously... I don't care. I don't care that one of his brood spoke publicly about her creepy father. It didn't affect me. So stop staring at me like you expect me to burst into tears.
Ugh. Well, I feel a little better for the venting.
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annoyed
She grew up, not quite fitting in with her family. She always had trouble being a prim, proper girl, and sadly had a mother who was competitive with her with many things (from gaining affection from Anne's grandfather to writing). She also suffered sexual abuse at the hands of her mother. Anne later got married and had two daughters. She was a gorgeous woman, and worked as a model, early in her marriage.
( Read more... )
Would she had lived longer, perhaps even be alive today, if she had not had children?
I know there were many factors in her life that causes her to mental regress, but from what I read it seems her inability and failure at fitting into the '50's model wife and mother played a HUGE part.
xposted
Now, I live in an apartment, and a couple of months ago a new family moved in with a couple of teenagers who often sit outside on the porch steps when I get home from work or wherever. Being it's summer, I ride my bike more than I drive, so they know I do it a lot.
Of course I can't prove it was them, but most adults don't go and do shit like that just for shits and giggles, and nothing ever happened to it last year. I don't even know them, that is to say I'm not on a name basis with them, so there was no reason for it.
I shouldn't even be this angry about it, but I am. Why is the concept of "leave other people's shit alone!" so hard to understand?? And people wonder why I hate kids? They're assholes. >:(
- Location:at the library
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angry
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Yes, I realize that this is a city-owned "family" fitness center, and that you have brought your evil hellspawn here for swimming lessons. But this is the WOMEN'S locker room - it even says so on the door. The city has put in a family changing room right next door that is restricted solely to people with kids and the handicapped, and it's much larger than this one. So why in the name of everything holy did you find it necessary to bring your coked-up crotchnuggets into the WOMEN'S locker room?!? As an adult woman who has just had a long day at work and is here for some SRS FITNESS, I would really like to be able to dress without the younger of your sprogs STARING at me. Yes, I'm well aware that my hair is currently a darker red than is generally found in nature, but that doesn't exactly qualify me for freakshow status. And I would especially like to be able to dress without your child-thing "singing" "TUR-tle lives in the WA-ter" - just that one verse because that's all it apparently knows - over and over and over again at the top of its f**king lungs while you ineffectually tell it, "Maris, don't be so loud." There is a nice, big "family" changing room in this center, and it leads right to the pool. Go use it.
It always bugs the crap out of me when places put in "family" bathrooms and changing rooms and the like - which as a general rule tend to be nicer than those allotted to the public at large - and the people for whom they're intended refuse to use them, preferring to inflict their spawn on everyone else. If I can't use their changing rooms, etc., why should they be allowed to use mine?
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Another reason to not have children...
When babies attack: Labor pain is just the start
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I haven't posted on here in awhile because I've become a little more relaxed when it comes to being infuriated over children. It's not necessary for me to bitch and complain about every annoying thing kids do.
However.
A friend of mine that I met on LJ, who was a member of this community before she got a new LJ, got divorced and married someone else. She was rabidly childfree before hand, and now she's on Facebook talking about how they're going to 'start TTC in October!'
I finally hid all updates from her because it was getting on my nerves so badly. She was never actually childfree!!
Same thing is happening with my good friend out here. Of course, that whole situation is a huge clusterfuck, but whatever. I just can't believe that these people change their minds so very easily.
I'm running out of CF friends FAST.
As I was perusing the produce section to pick out some stuff to make salad, I notice a dad with his daughter, which I'd put at about 6, in the child seat of his cart. I wouldn't doubt that he was a great dad, as his child was pretty well behaved, even if she kept staring at me. But dad had a rather unfortunate shirt: on the back, it had this picture of a sexy (at least by the media's standards) woman wearing a scuba tank and a thong, and nothing else, seen from behind, with the words "Get ready for some Bottom Diving" on it.
I do wonder if the girl ever asked him some uncomfortable questions regarding that shirt. Anyone else seen any fine examples of parental wardrobe malfunctions?- Mood:
excited - Music:Ron White's "Behavioral Problems"
So, I've recently moved into a new apartment. It's a longer walk to get anywhere from here, it's more expensive, and I really miss my old flatmates, but it's all so very worth it. Why? There are very few children here. My neighbors across the courtyard have a couple of young children, and there's a little girl running around sometimes who I think lives directly downstairs from me, but they are quiet! They don't leave their toys on the sidewalks, the don't yell, the only reason I know they're there at all is from hearing their mother(s) calling them inside for meals!
In my old neighborhood, this was so far from the case. There were fourteen children under the age of 12 on my block, all from only three households, plus the playground outside the church three doors up.
My landlord and his wife (who look to be in their mid 30's at the very oldest, and live right next door to my old apartment) have eight damned kids! (O_O)
I guess it could have been worse, they aren't really bad kids, but good lord, do they ever shut up? All afternoon, every day, screaming and shouting and pushing each other down the sidewalk in their wagon, and leaving their toys blocking my sidewalk and yard.
I could usually just tune it out after a while, or put on headphones, but one of my flatmates was working night shift at the time, and he wanted to strange the fucking sprogs for keeping him awake all day.
It's so damned nice to have some peace and quiet at last! (^__^)
There was a bride on there tonight who apparently didn't want children and didn't bother to tell the fiance this, as the fiance wanted kids right away. OK, fine, there are so many reasons these marriages won't make it I promptly forgot about it.
Until the confessional after the wedding, the groom announces that he planned to sabotage the bride's birth control so she would get pregnant. She looked really angry and said, "You WOULD do something like that too."
Well, lo and behold. Happy update!!! Groom finally got his way on something!!! Only 6 weeks after the wedding! Bride announces she is "pregant!!!!" Yay!!!!!!
WTF! >:( This is something to take lightly?! Your groom sabotaging your birth control?!
Granted the bride was no winner, but oopsing someone you're supposed to love? DIAF.
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Due to the industry my husband is in there arent a lot of jobs in his field in the city in which we live. For the last 3 years he has worked in a town 400km south of here and came home on the weekends, that is when he wasn't traveling the world giving trainings and solving problems. This whole time he has been looking for a job in our city and finally found one.
Now I have gotten a job offer in a city about 700km away. My husband and I discussed it and think I would be silly to pass it up although it is only a 2 year contract but one never knows what will happen in two years and there is, from what someone told me opportunity for advancement. Now you know the Bingos are flying.
"Your husband is back in your city and you are leaving? Dont you love him? If you loved him you'd give him a child."
"How can you have a baby if you two are never together?"
"You should stay and have some kids. You arent getting younger."
"You are putting off starting a family...AGAIN? If you wait much longer it wont be possible."
ARGH! If we had wanted kids we would have had them by now don't you think? And if I "gave him a child" he would wonder where I got them from and call the cops. LOL I have to try to look at it with a sense of humor or Ill wind up punching someone.
Edited because part of a sentence somehow vanished. Sorry bout that.
I was expecting crowded, yes, but I wasn't expecting these gems:
Moo hauling her small child through the crowd and making the child walk on it's own. The little girl was probably 2 ft high, and skinny, no where near safe with trampling crowds. I nearly stepped on her twice.
A corral of SUV strollers in the center of this giant tent, kids galore, with moos all around. They would send one adult off to collect free ice cream for all at one time. While this kept the strollers out of the most crowded areas in the tent, I have to wonder at the brains behind bringing in such huge strollers in the first place.
The pre-teen brats pushing and shoving to get through the crowd, then watching the biggest of the group turning on the two smaller ones going "the next one who pushed me gets put in the trash can."
~B
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