So I went and had my Essure Consultation v.2.0 today. He wanted to make sure that we both (him and I) understood and were okay with the idea that I could change my mind. Lots of things happen in life and my philosophies could change, just so that I'm okay with that. There is no turning back. Oh yes, doc, I'm QUITE sure. And if I do change my mind? I'll consider adoption or fostering so that I can help out existing people rather than create more.

He's never done it on a 23 year old before, and never on a nulliparous woman. Oooooh goodie, I get to be his guinea pig! I have no qualms about that. And hey if you can't get it in there, sure go ahead and stick a paraguard in there (even though I really don't like the idea of IUDs). But you'd better try your damnedest to get it right the first time.

Sooooo I came away with consent forms, and prescriptions for the cervix-softening pills and Valium. He said that he doesn't usually use the cervix softening stuff, but since I haven't had kids then it might be a good idea (I actually brought it up before he did!). Ladies and gents, we could be looking at an IN-ZARKING-OFFICE procedure as soon as March 9th!

He asked me if I'd talked about it with anyone else before, and I told him about the previous consultation. Just as I suspected, he seemed genuinely shocked that Dr. A-hole refused to do it on me without being put under, and definitely raised his eyebrows when I mentioned the women supposedly screaming in pain. He seemed a lot more confident in his abilities than the other guy.

Woop woop! *cheers*

Urge to kill....rising.....

( Family. UGH. )

So did the stupid Tebow ad air during the Superbowl?

I was too busy watching the Puppy Bowl to watch the Superbowl.

My best friend Jen is awesome. Even though she is not CF, she fully supports me. Two years ago she 'bought my breeding rights' for a beautifully framed Canadian nickel. (Best Christmas Ever.)

She texted me today that she got her bloodwork back and is 'officially' pregnant. I'm incredibly excited for her: not that I'm biased (lol) but she's going to be the world's best PNB! She also said in her text that I could announce it to people in my life.

I told my 'other best' friend J, two CF friends who are also happy for her, and my mom. <---She said she wanted to know, as Jen is almost a part of the family.

J sends me the expected response: "YAY!!!"

My mom and I had the following exchange via text message:

ME: Dr. confirmed it: Jen is pregnant! YAY!
MOM: I want to be a grandmother too.
MOM: I want to be a grandother!!
ME: What is wrong with you?
MOM: I want to be a grandma!
ME: I love you. You have problems, but I love you.
MOM: I know.

On the one hand, lady! Give it up! We've had this talk, and the answer is "not by me you won't be".

And on the other, just, LOL. That conversation is so indicative of our relationship...

I'm half expecting her to call me tonight and say it all over again. At which point I'm telling her that I'm putting her in a home. :P

Taken from ONTD_P...

( Rage inducing )

What the fuck is wrong with people.

Just found out the other day. Makes me want to grill her on the details of her belief and demolish them logically, incidentally destroying the friendship. Restraining myself with great effort.

I had enough trouble with her being the gang's token conservative, but at least we could agree that the GOP had forsaken its ideals and was galloping into insanity. No middle ground on this one.

Like The Onion, but better (in my humble Brit opinion anyway ;)

I thought it was funny, maybe you will too :)

( Text for linkphobic )

Hello, everyone!

I'm with the Chicago chapter of the World Can't Wait and I do some organizing around abortion and birth control rights since June when it was announced that Dr. Tiller was murdered. Since then I attended his funeral and have counter-protested groups like the Pro-Life Action league, Operation Rescue (better known as Operation Kill-Doctors) in Nebraska in front of Dr. Carhart's clinic, and the 40 Days for Life group here in Chicago.

Before the announcement of CBS's decision to air TeAbow's (Tebow teabagger) commercial for the Super Bowl we've organized a nation-wide campus tour called "Abortion, Morality and the Liberation of Women" with Dr. Susan Wicklund, author of This Common Secret: My Journey as an Abortion Doctor and Sunsara Taylor, writer for Revolution newspaper.

Check it out here:

http://salsa.democracyinaction.org/o/1170/content.jsp?content_KEY=6811


You'll see a photo of me (I'm at the far right side of the photo) and other activists down the street from Dr. Carhart's clinic in Nebraska where pro-choicers significantly outnumbered these pro-fetus/anti-woman bullies!

Bring this message to many more people! Link to us on punch-you-in-da-Facebook and Twitter.
Call or email Lina Thorne: lina@worldcantwait.org • 718.825.9119

So I was checking out one of the DBJ groups I'm a member of on facebook and saw a link to this article.  I've seen Sun articles before about butthurt moos trying to get DBJ groups banned.  What interested me about this one is the fact that the people campaigning to get them removed live in my city.
( cut for the linkophobic )

I love how at the end of the article it mentions how facebook is basically saying tough shit to those who find dead baby jokes offensive.  No babies or children are being harmed when I say I like to put babies in the blender to see the look on their faces.  Seems like they don't know the difference between a joke and reality.  Having the groups banned because someone finds them offensive would set a bad precedent.  Next it could be a group about hockey or anime that gets banned.

The following is a little personal tragedy that I'm trying not to let fill me with rage. I figured perhaps sharing it with people who would understand my position might make me feel a little better, if not keep me from losing what little faith I had left in humanity.

So today at about 2pm, my mother-in-law rings us out of nowhere (she lives in BC, we're in Manitoba) and sounds kind of manic about something so I hand over the phone to the sleeping hubby (he works nights) and proceed to stick my fingers in my ears. Little while later he comes out of the bedroom, sits down looking somewhat dumbfounded and says, "[my sister]'s pregnant."

So I inquired as to the details and learned that apparently, she had a "friend" whom she had previously tried dating but it never worked out so they decided to stay "friends". Well, while being "friends" with this guy, she never thought to use any form of birth control what-so-ever. At this point, I was tempted to call her back and ask, "well what the fuck did you think was going to happen?"

That mistake aside, he also tells me she has every intention of keeping it because "she can't go through with any alternative because she'd be too heartbroken".

To divulge some minor details: his sister is 22, unemployed, living with her mom, and apparently taking correspondence courses online for daycare management. The reason I'm upset about it is not because she's having a child, but because she's having a child that she herself has already called a mistake. Also, the "father" is already backing the fuck out as fast as he can over the whole situation.

So long story short, we're skeptical about the whole situation but that's frankly putting it really nicely. He's taking it a lot better than I am, but that's kind of to be expected. I'm not about to suggest getting an abortion because I know how upsetting that can be for some people, but I don't understand why she couldn't at least consider adoption where the kid would have a chance at a better life--possibly with both parents who are able to support it. I'm starting to seriously think that getting pregnant flips off the logic switch in some women's heads.

Also, on a more personal note, I'm worried that their family is going to expect me to do that thing that some women do where they gush all over babies and that I'll suddenly desire to have my own. I haven't really gotten into my childfreeness with them--they're pretty content to think that I might change my mind some day and I'm pretty content to let them keep thinking that. I'm just worried that my "true colours" are going to be horribly exposed and relations are going to go sour. I'm not much for dancing around family members' feelings when it comes to these kinds of things. Advice, perhaps?

Sorry for the tldr. I really needed to let it out. :(

-Mru

http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2010/02/04/another-reason-to-root-for-the-saints-this-sunday/

Eminently bangable Scott Fujita is the bomb.Now I have to watch the Super Bowl. I want the Saints to win!

I had to put my cat Osiris to sleep on Monday, and by the next day, some people were already asking/encouraging me to get another cat. I mean seriously, like my best friend said, they wouldn't be saying that if I had just lost a child. You know what? Osiris was like my son, just like my other kitty Bastet is like my daughter. Maybe in a few years I might get another kitty, but at the moment, I can't see myself doing that. I'm too hurt at the moment. Stupid people being insensitive. Thanks guys, I just needed to get that off my chest.

I love Dr. Marty Klein's blog:

Speaking As Janet Jackson’s Nipple…

'I wasn’t good enough for you so-called decency groups, but a commercial about abortion is? What about that stupid argument you used on me 6 years ago—“I don’t want to have to explain Jackson’s bare nipple to my kid”—what, it’s less complicated to tell a kid what abortion is, and what “choice” and “pro-life mean”? Focus on the Family (the sponsor) is just plain disingenuous here. Or as you non-nipples might say, they’re full of bull.

And then CBS caves to right-wing pressure and rejects an ad for a gay dating site—guys hugging, or kissing, or whatever. Ooooooh, that’s so hard to explain to a kid. Try this: “those guys really care for each other, so they’re being affectionate. That’s what people do when they’re really into each other.” It’s the same approach I told you all to take when I was exposed for a half-second during Superbowl XXXVIII: the truth. “It’s a nipple. All women have them. Heck, men and boys have them too, right Timmy?”

Being comfortable with sex is not a right, and government shouldn’t be protecting people who are uncomfortable with it—any more than it protects people who aren’t comfortable seeing mixed-race couples hold hands, or women broadcasting the news.

Of course, we do have a name for people who are uncomfortable talking with their kids about life. They’re called parents. So my advice for when a nipple or boy-boy kiss is staring you and your kid in the face, and you’re uncomfortable? Parent the kid. Be uncomfortable and parent the kid.'

thought those of you who haven't seen this might enjoy a few lulz:

http://www.gaiaonline.com/forum/entertainment-discussion/the-2nd-annual-super-bowl-of-advertising-live-chat-2-7-10/t.58385961_1/

Gaia Online has a thread to discuss the advertisements which appear during the Superbowl. One of these ads is an Pro-Liar ad by Focus on the Family. As far as I'm aware the Superbowl is not supposed to air advocacy ads and I'm pretty sure they refused to air an ad by Planned Parenthood, so they are also showing bias towards the Forced-Birth movement. So join this thread to register your disgust at the FotM ad. (*FAIL!, FotF NOT FotM)

X-posted to childfree  (Slight edit here because I put X-posted to cf_hardcore by mistake. Ooopsie. Oh and to change icon to cute lizzy-wizzy)

Edited yet again due to borked html Edit - headdesk headdesk headdesk, spelling fail and html still borked!)

My friend just linked this pic to me:

Teen Preggo Barbie!

I've no clue where he found it, or if it's real, or anything.
I just have the picture, and instructions to post it here.

So, yeah. Enjoy.

By which I mean, feel free to be horrified.

picture for the group:  Contraception win!

But for the rest of you, the Skepchick blog is a blog from a group of rational-thinking women writing about skeptical (and generally, science-related) issues - each of them post as the mood strikes them. One of them is currently pregnant, and her post today is entitled What pregnant women won’t tell you. Ever.

Enjoy.