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Saturday, July 26th, 2008
12:43 pm [lilyjaderose]	any thoughts? women's bisexuality an 'identity,' not phase: study By News Editor Lesbians who have been consciously or subconsciously screening out bisexuals as potential girlfriends should pay attention to the results of a new study, which debunks the commonly held myth that bisexuality is just an experimental or transitional phase. Researchers from the University of Utah, who assessed 79 non-heterosexual women five times over the course of a decade, debunked the stereotype that bisexual women aren't able to commit to monogamous relationships. Study author Lisa Diamond wrote: “It is interesting that this finding provides a notable counterpoint to the popular stereotype that bisexual women are incapable of committing to a single partner. Not only did bisexual women tend to pursue exclusive, monogamous relationships over time, but they were more likely to do so than either unlabeled or lesbian women.”( Read more... ) http://www.afterellen.com/node/34359 Current Mood: indescribable -[ bi? ]-
12:41 pm [lilyjaderose]	oh my! i found this entry on another site. i wanted to know your thoughts on the matter. I just read that Jenna Jameson decided to turn "straight." so i thought i'd check out any other bi porn stars and see how open they are with their bisexuality. Are these ladies really bisexual or are they only bi for pay. How many of you have actually watched their work? One of my friends who knows people within the industry has said that most people within it (female and male) are actually bisexual, which is pretty interesting. Other bi porn stars include - Briana Banks (of Briana Loves Jenna fame) - Alexandre Frota - Barbara Dare - Justin Joli In fact there are so many that there's an entire wiki page devoted to them. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Bisexual_porn_stars http://www.afterellen.com/node/34152 Current Mood: curious -[ bi? ]-
12:23 pm [lilyjaderose]	any comments or concerns? (i've been MIA for a while so forgive me if this a repeat) WEST HOLLYWOOD, Calif. - To police, Steven Hirschfield was violent and out of control when he clambered aboard a patrol boat sent to rescue him in the San Diego Bay during a gay pride party. The 37-year-old bodybuilder, shirtless and wearing sneakers, seized an officer's stun gun and beat him in the face, they say, before he was fatally shot while reaching for the officer's weapon. Their account has left his grieving family in disbelief. Family members suspect Hirschfield, whom they described as deeply artistic and loving, was a victim of homosexual bias and a police cover-up. "He is not violent. I have not seen him hit anybody in my life," his sister, Kristine Hirschfield, said at a news conference Friday. "It doesn't make any sense." The family plans to file a federal lawsuit claiming Hirschfield's civil rights were violated and conduct its own investigation into his death. http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080726/ap_on_re_us/overboard_shooting Current Mood: contemplative -[ bi? ]-
Sunday, July 20th, 2008
4:44 pm [queerunity]	Obama Pride - Video Collage Collage of videos demonstrating Obama's commitment to the Queer community! http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/07/obama-pride-video-collage.html -[ bi? ]-
12:17 am [bandcqulsj]	A MasterCard Commercial you won't see A full tank of gas: $45.00 A stop at the drug store for suncreen and a beach towel: $31.45 Another stop at a convenience store for munchies and drinks: $12.25 A bi-male at a clothing-optional beach: PRICELESS!!!! :-D Ah, I love Sandy Hook, NJ. :-D X-posted to a few comms. Current Mood: happy -[ bi? ]-
Wednesday, July 16th, 2008
1:51 pm [lmw16]	Inter LGBT phobia , distrust & segregation I'm a bisexual who volunteers at the LGBT resource center at my college and I attended a safe space training session yesterday. If you're not familiar with what that is I'm not sure I'm that great at explaining but...it's a session for - generally speaking - college staff members that teaches them how to talk to and deal with issues that might come up with students in the LGBT community of their college. Apparently there's quite a common issue in the LGBT community of people who are coming out, not knowing who to turn to, and turning to authority figures within their school who are ill equip to deal with those issues. "Advisors" and class "counselors" get it particularly bad because of their helpful professional titles. But when you think about it they're there to advise your classes, your degree program, not your sexual awakening. However because I'm a peer helper at the center that is my job. And since I "work" at a college space for LGBTs I decided I needed this. The sessions are appropriately confidential, in fact we've had some issues with the school newspaper trying to "sit in" on the sessions which are basically like sensitivity training & therapy centered... so some pretty sensitive things are being said and explored. To make a long and painful story short we here at the center were quite pissed when the paper sent photographers to try and take pictures and writers to go in and write down what people were saying after we told them no a hundred times. The key word is TRY here. They didn't succeed, but they made the day pretty shitty even calling us with the audacity to complain that it was very secretive that the windows of the room the meeting happened to take place in were frosted with fake paper sticker frosting. Oooh, high tech! Stickers are so evasive! Those sneaky gays! But the point of this whole rant is that something in particular struck me about the meeting yesterday so hard that I came out to four strangers as bisexual in some strange attempt to assist their understanding of gay life. The thing was...straight people think that all of us bi's, gays, lesbians and trans people know love and understand each other as part of the LGBT movement. NO. We don't. It's funny, especially here in the bible belt...the fact that straight people never even think, maybe LGBT people don't all get along with each other. We didn't even barely touch on things like inter-LGBT discrimination though and I wished we had. It took 3.5 hours for this session and it still wasn't long enough to talk about all the issues. I really wish we would have talked more about the fact that it's not one big happy rainbow. There's bi phobia, trans phobia and more, all within the LGBT community. Not to mention internalized homophobia! We don't all just love and accept all non straight people because we're not. We grew up in a homophobic world just like them. We even hate ourselves sometimes for being gay. I didn't want to really have to come out to this room of strangers especially because I'm not "out"... but when they started talking about this i felt obligated to chime in because everyone in the room with me was an older heterosexual person coming there to learn how to deal with students in crisis. That was, of course, also the reason that I was there...but I was different because at least I had a couple things in common with the people they'll hypothetically be working with. Also, instead of hypothetically working with people like this or maybe meeting student sexual identities face to face I already have, not to mention my own. So I chimed in... "I'm bisexual and I volunteer at the center and I feel weird sometimes when I mention my boyfriend." Why? "Because they might hear that and assume I'm heterosexual" - which they have and they have asked...even the nicest people...why are you here if you have a boyfriend? "Or they might assume that I don't know what they're going through so I can't help them, which is what i'm there to do." Does that not even dawn on heterosexual people? That even if you are gay friendly you might be considered untrustworthy or unable to help because you're straight? Why is that? Because straight is so "NORMAL"? Because you're a grown up with a nice smile painted on so of course you know how to help? It's just weird, because they know there's a kind of war going on, and they feel for the hate crime casualties, they even pick a political side of it and decide...i want to help "the gays" but they don't seem to realize that they're wearing the other sides uniform wherever they go. At least they have the safe space sticker now. One little patch on their heterosexual lives that says "I actually can help you". Still, I can't help but think that a lot of students would rather get help from someone gay and knows what they're going through from more than a couple games in a room for 3.5 hours...which is why I'm so worried about what orientation the next director of the center will be. Because it might be this bisexual married guy and I'm sad to say, even I, a bisexual person, trust him less to be able to help the LGBT students because he's "only" bi - and because we can "choose sides", our pain is less and therefore our experience is less valuable to the gay community - theoretically speaking. Which brings me back around full circle. We don't all love each other, we don't all love ourselves. Just look at the Lesbian/Gay rainbow...all the bars carefully separated by perfect lines...and bisexuals and pansexuals have their own flags. They may lump us into one unified movement, but we certainly haven't done ourselves that honor. -[ 7bisexuals | | bi? ]-
Wednesday, July 9th, 2008
4:44 pm [eddiecoyote]	bisexual identity filling out a sexual autobiograph questionaire for therapy... I got to the last question...  here is my answer.  crossposted in bi_pride what parts of your sexuality do you want to change?  Expand upon?  stop doing? As I wrote earlier, I've come out to some friends and communities (not all obviously) of my bisexual identity.  I am trying to embrace this sexuality within me and to see it as fluid.  I am not attracted to all women, certainly, and I'm finding it amusing that because I accept the part of me that has sex with men, that I am not attracted to all men.  The ridiculousness of this is hilarious to me.  But, every now and then when the wind is right and magic floats down from silver stars in a velvet sky, I feel myself as a sexual being and I can feel that air move in my lungs and my blood flow in my veins.  I am.  I am… a wonderful, beautiful being (tears in my eyes now as I write that last part) and I look at those around me as beautiful human beings as well and I connect with them, I talk to them, and I touch them.  Sexuality, when I am in this rare state, is not about genitals or penetration or about submissive or dominant or such.  It is about my essential beautiful self meeting your essential beautiful self and that wonderful dance that can happen.  Ever see two Aikido masters on a mat together?  It isn't a competition, it isn't a fight.  They are both extending their circles, both circles contain the circle of the other, and they move with each other in a beautiful dance, a rhythm, a harmony.  Aikdio is 'the way of harmony'.  This connection with others doesn't have to be a genitalized connection.  This is, I believe, a strength of the bisexual community, in that we try to look at the beauty in the person and don't, as a rule, filter out that beauty because of genitals.  This state is, for me, rare.  I have lots of baggage, lots of roles that demand me to be something else, lots of expectations, lots of bullshit.  I want the third way, the better way, the way that isn't either/or but the way that is. Current Music: Pearl Jam - Release -[ 4bisexuals | | bi? ]-
9:53 am [chasingtides]	Coming Out I am planning on coming out to my parents at last. I know I have the support of friends and other family members and, since my parents are religiously and politically conservative, that's important. However, since I'm anticipating at least some resistance from my parents, I've been looking for literature to give them. There seems to be a fair amount of information geared toward the parents/family of gays and lesbians, but I'm having some trouble finding anything for the parents/family of bisexuals. I know my parents at least partially buy into the stereotype of bisexuals being indecisive, using it as an excuse to sleep with everyone, and that bisexuality is just another name for being hypersexual. I'd like to have more than just my word to dispel such myths. Are there any books/website/brochures that could help me with this? (Also, any advice and/or stories about coming out would be appreciated.) Current Music: Indigo Girls - Rites of Passage - Jonas & Ezekial -[ 5bisexuals | | bi? ]-
Sunday, July 6th, 2008
11:35 am [bialogue]	Words Matter ( This thoughtful essay on the current politics of inclusion/exclusion in the American LGBT Community and when and if 'the ends justify the means' is X-Posted with permission from the author 'Lindasusan', a Bi-identified LGBT person from San Francisco CA ) Current Mood: pensive Current Music: "We Are Family" by the Spice GIrls -[ 3bisexuals | | bi? ]-
2:56 am [eddiecoyote]	introduction Hello! I just joined this community.  I'm happy to find you.  I'm cross posting this to another community that I just joined as well...bi_pride .  I am 37.  Live in Portland, Oregon.  Bartend, go to college, and a bunch of other stuff.  Nice to meet everyone here.  In some areas I am out.  I volunteer at the Queer Resource Center on campus.  A couple of my friends know.  I marched in our recent Pride Parade too.  It was a blast.  In other realms I am not out, keeping it a secret like my family back home in the South as well as the military (tell your senator to vote for HR 1246).  My LJ is public and so those things dealing with bisexuality are friends views.  I look forward to getting to know you all. -[ 2bisexuals | | bi? ]-
Friday, July 4th, 2008
2:39 am [folded_notes]	I'm Living Proof. It's been such a long time since I've updated here. I have finally gotten intimate with someone that has always understood me. I'm in an almost two-month relationship with my best friend, a beautiful girl that I've known for four years. We are both bisexual and very proud. I feel so comfortable around her, and we completely understand each other. We're so honest with each other and our preferences, and we believe that love shouldn't be labeled by gender. I'm living proof that one can be bisexual and also be in somewhat of a "straight" relationship. We're really gay though, haha. I mean we go to promotional events and rallies together, and melt when we see any couple gorgeous and happy together. It's just the way we are, and the way we always have been. We've had experiences with the same sexes, relationships, intimacy, etc. And I'm not nor have I changed my feelings about my orientation or how I am...unlike others I have seen depending on what kind of relationship they are in. ...Which kind of concerns me because I'm just waiting for my Mother to tell me how happy she is that I've finished my whole "gay phase" and how "I've come to my senses" and have "become straight". ...Because I will be forced to get in another fight with her how I'm a bisexual in a straight relationship. I'm just waiting for it to happen...lol. I love who I am, I'm an amazing guy that has found love, and I am proud to be bisexual. ...And is wondering: Is there anyone here that is in a similar type of situation with me? Current Mood: pleased Current Music: "Can't Stop" by RHCP -[ 14bisexuals | | bi? ]-
1:43 am [bialogue]	[USA] Bi Personals Site Boots Trans Member as reported in Bay Windows by Ethan Jacobs staff reporter Wednesday July 2nd 2008 and UPDATED July 3 2008 When Nick Teich created a free account on the online personals site BisexualDatingNow.com last week, he decided to disclose that he is transgender. Perhaps he shouldn’t have. "They say, tell us about yourself in your own words. And I stated, ’I’m a 25-year old trans guy living in Boston.’ . . . I didn’t want to mislead anyone looking at my profile, so that’s why I put that," said Teich. Within a day he had received three "smiles," which members send to express their interest in getting to know each other. Teich thought little of his decision until he wrote to the site’s customer service staff about a problem he was having using the site. He exchanged e-mails with a customer service representative named Kiar Dupuis, and after reading his profile Dupuis informed him that the site does not allow transgender users. "I am sorry, as a transgender, our site would not meet your needs. I am afraid we have to remove your profile," wrote Dupuis, according to an e-mail provided to Bay Windows by Teich. His profile was deleted shortly after he received the e-mail. ( Click here to read more and to find out how to protest this - and PS TangoWire is a Gay owned and operated company!!!!! ) we are x-posting this, we originally found this info on ftmichael's post on ourqueerfamily and neverbeuseless's post on gsa_lj but it's quickly spereading across the internet, it's now on "Pams House Blend" too. That'll get some action for sure! Current Mood: shocked Current Music: "We're Not Gonna Take It" by Twisted Sister -[ 1bisexual | | bi? ]-
Thursday, June 26th, 2008
4:23 pm [genderpac]	The Gender Public Advocacy Coalition is pleased to announce the release of its 2008 GENIUS Survey in partnership with Ernst & Young.  GenderPAC works to ensure that classrooms, communities and workplaces are safe for everyone to learn, grow and succeed.   The Gender Equality National Index for Universities & Schools (GENIUS), GenderPAC’s most recent effort to end discrimination and promote awareness, encourages colleges and universities to recognize the benefits of a GenderSAFEtm campus - supportive equitable and protective for all students. Choosing to participate in GENUIS sends a strong public statement that bullying or discriminating based on the race, sex or gender of a student, faculty, or staff member is not tolerated at your institution   Fill out the survey at:  www.gpac.org/GENIUS2008survey, and make sure that we have data for as many schools as possible. Your voice will help us continue to work towards a safe and welcoming environment for every student.   While we greatly appreciate the interest taken in GENIUS by students, staff and faculty at academic institutions outside of the United States, at this time GENIUS is only able to track schools based in the United States. -[ bi? ]-
7:42 pm [girlfuckedup]	what to do so i  havn't posted like in ages so i;m still in school and we did homosexuality/lgbt/ bisexuality pansexuality in religous education oh my gosh some of them think mostli boys think that lgbt/glbt are going to take over the world we shouldn't have pride and display our relationships in public and now so i get my grade i have to say represent both sides of the argument how can i represent the negative side of the argument of something i don't believe in. and if i don't i fail year nine religous education because i kind of flunked out of the other tests i wasn't in school ans stuff. arrgg i'll just write a nice note about not writing veiws i don't believe in i thought i was lesbian but now i seem to be liking the odd boy along the street and the most girls still more girls than boys though sexuality always was fluiditity (is that a word) hope you all are okay sorry about the random post Current Mood: anxious Current Music: none brosken speaker -[ 4bisexuals | | bi? ]-
10:41 am [queerunity]	URGENT ALERT: ARIZONA residents contact your senators! SCR 1042, a bill that would place another amendment to constitutionally define marriage on the ballot, is pending in the Arizona Senate. The bill was voted down on a forced floor vote, but a motion to reconsider the bill was approved. SCR 1042 is scheduled to be re-voted on again this Friday, when Republicans who previously were unavailable to vote will be on the floor to cast their support for this discriminatory legislation. They are two votes shy of making this happen. Here are some talking points you can use to help write your letter. We encourage you to write a letter in your own words and call your senators. * This issue has already been decided by Arizona voters when they became the first in the nation to defeat an anti-equality marriage amendment in 2006. * Arizonans have said over and over again that this issue is not a priority. It's time for the Senate to take care of the business that matters to the people of Arizona, like the budget. * This amendment is not necessary. State law already prohibits gays and lesbians from marrying in this state, and the Arizona courts have already upheld this law. Stop wasting time and taxpayer money on this issue. * Stop this divisive and desperate action by a handful of legislators who are pandering to the like of Cathi Herrod and the Center for Arizona Policy, a subdivision of national extremist political groups. http://eqfed.org/campaign/scr1042_senate2 http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/06/action-alert-arizona-residents-contact.html -[ bi? ]-
1:10 am [nyabn]	[NYC]: Pride! Pride! Pride! All Are Welcome To Come Celebrate with us this Sunday June 29th ( This year don't get left standing on the sidelines. Instead, please come and join us in the Bisexual/Pansexual and Poly Contingents in New York City's 2008 LGBT Pride Parade on Sunday June 29th and be part of all the fun and excitement. ) Current Mood: excited Current Music: "On The One Road" by the Wolfe Tones -[ bi? ]-
Saturday, June 21st, 2008
11:08 am [inki]	Sunday June 29th: March in SF Pride with the Bay Area Bisexual Network For those of you anywhere near San Francisco: Sunday June 29th Exact time and place TBA, probably 11am near Beale and Folsom The Bay Area Bisexual Network wants you! To join us in the Pride Parade! The BABN Pride Parade contingent welomes all bisexuals, pansexuals, folks who don't like to label their sexuality, and similar types, along with their partners, lovers, and friends. If you have never marched in Pride before, it is an eye-opening experience. You'll see a lot of people you know down the route, and there's nothing quite like being totally visible. It's really heady and exciting. In addition, we are looking for bi-cyclists to bring bikes to the parade, circle out in front of the contingent during the parade, and be fabulous on wheels. Or alternatively, for people to wear rollerblades or similar and zip around out front. Please let me know if you are interested in doing this, and I can help arrange bike transport and other details. If biking and blading are not your thing, come and march or ride the pickup truck - most people in the contingent will be marching. ( more details ) -[ bi? ]-
Friday, June 20th, 2008
12:28 am [rhonan]	Seattle BiNet Coffee Social Join BiNet Seattle for our monthly Third Saturday Coffee Social at Wayward Coffee House, 8570 Greenwood Avenue North, in Seattle from 4:00-6:00 pm this Saturday, June 21, 2008. This is a mixed-gender social gathering for bisexual, bi-curious people, their partners, and other bi-friendly folks. These meetings are open to anyone who wants to attend. Newcomers are especially welcome. Look for a table that has a BiNet Seattle sign. The atmosphere is laid back and casual, so come upstairs, pull up a chair and introduce yourself, and join in on Seattle's best Bi monthly social gathering! -[ bi? ]-
Tuesday, June 17th, 2008
9:39 pm [sambo_the_secon]	Hi peeps! Hey! I joined this group recently as I recently realised that I am indeed bi.  I had pretty much always been curious, but came to the conclusion that it was more than just curiosity.  So, this is my hello post to the group! Hi! :wave: Current Mood: calm -[ 13bisexuals | | bi? ]-
Monday, June 16th, 2008
6:24 am [queerunity]	Whats Your Queer Swing Political Issue? ( Read more ) -[ bi? ]-