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Because it was an intelligent honest question...
Posting this for mattybee because I felt that his question was valid and deserved a real answer.



My Man said this, I am posting it here for you... From one Hetero man to another.

'If a straight girl wants to reverse the role that she plays in real life (I.E. taking all the time) and be the dominant partner, with a guy, then she has two choices in RP.

A) She can play a dominant female... with a strap on or. B) a homosexual male.

Option A is problematic because: If someone is playing a straight male character to their dominant female, they are not ready to blur the lines of their sexuality by doing the buttsecks... which is commonly a homosexual activity. Most straight men will tell you that the Buttsecks Will NEVER happen, because admitting that one likes their prostate loved on while sexing is pleasurable would mean they were somehow gay. (and most straight guys.. have issue with that right there)

Thusly, Option B is the only thing left to said ladies. Which is playing a gay male, be it top or bottom.'

I personally, myself, agree with this. It is difficult to make people understand that a girl just might want to give it now and again, to assert her own dominance over another, as is so commonly done to women the world over, thusly, it is most likely an outlet for their own manliness and desire to top their man or their boy toy or whatnot. (This is strictly an opinion, not set in stone so no flaming please)

It is socially unacceptable IRL to have a girl who is dominant and a girl who wants her man to scream for her in bed, thusly... again, back to the outlet thing. Got to get it out some how, right? lest she bind and gag her man and butt rape him mercilessly.

Women are traditionally...sexually repressed, oppressed and often portrayed as hussies or whores if they like sex or any thing resembling deviant. And the idea that a woman is dominant and assertive shatters the age old picture of a quiet, demure little doormat who bends to her husband's/man's will without question or even voicing any desire for herself, living only for him.

The world still clings to this obviously outmoded view of women and has a hard time adjusting to the fact that women have their own sexual desires and can often be as competitive and aggressive as men. It upsets the balance, so most chicks... may be using Yaoi as an outlet for their sexual frustrations that they cannot express In real life. Be it because they are in a place where it would be unsafe to do so, or because they are.. 'in the closet' so to speak about what they like. It is difficult to explain to a man that you want to top him, or.. make him beg or any number of things that may include the buttsecks.

Alternately... I have to say I have never seen a straight guy do Yaoi. They just don't do it. It falls back to the fact that men have been programmed their whole lives to be manly and macho and to hate the buttsecks. Society has taught them that it is wrong and unacceptable and that if they like it they are wrong too. But even in the Kama Sutra there are hints for women to make their man feel spectacular this does include things like massaging the prostate during sex. which is all the Buttsecks really does. A long drawn out way to reach that sweet spot. Or... commonly known as the G-Spot.

But then again... most heterosexual men cannot RP a girl, be she straight or Gay. This is simply a lack of knowledge in regards to how a girl thinks, acts and other weird girl things... like obsessing over your ass, or squealing over a cute outfit. Men are just not wired that way. Poor dears. They can try all day long but it is simply not in their nature. That is to say, that I have indeed seen a gay guy do a spectacular female. Perhaps it is because they are closer to girls then straight guys, or because of their inherent whatever it is that makes men gay. They simply have a deeper understanding then straight men. But again, I have seen very few gay guys do girls. Simply the way it is. It is mysterious to be sure, and baffling to almost everyone of a heterosexual bent. Why would a girl play a gay man? It is a strange turn of events and I think it has become so popular because they see that it is acceptable to express this way so it has become HUGE. It has become a fad, just like being bisexual was a fad for a while, but the hubbub died down and it is almost mainstream now.

However, rejecting someone's app simply because you do not or cannot do the buttsecks is rather stupid, especially if this RP said they accepted Het also. But... I digress and I have been extremely long winded. But I do hope that this post explains a bit. I myself loving the Yaoi but having a smart objective man to help me explain what and why Yaoi is so popular.

Again... For those flamers out there... This is conjecture, not fact and I am sure that my opinion is biased but I hope all of you are adult enough to take what is said with a grain of salt and act maturely about this issue.