Current mood:	confused
Current music:	days of the new - touch, peel and stand

intro / asking for help
first, the intro:
melissa / 33 / pansexual / poly / living in ohio.
anything else you would like to know, feel free to ask.
:)

now, the asking for help:
i have been involved in poly relationships since 2000. some worked well, some didn't. from each experience i try to learn a little more - about myself, about others and about relationships. right now, i find myself in a very different situation than any other i've been in - i am a secondary to a man in toronto (5-6hrs away). my primary relationship is in a bit of chaos (moving, family obligations, etc) but i love her dearly and am sure we will make it through just fine.
i feel like i am unable to really get my footing in the secondary relationship. we started out casually chatting and quickly became quite interested in one another. i do truly care about him, but have never been in the secondary role or in a ldr. granted, the distance isn't unmanageable; i have a very flexible schedule and love to drive!
i guess what i could use the most help with is how to acclimate to a new position (secondary), situation (ldr), and relationship (stephen) - all at once. ::sigh:: i want to do this; i want to do it right. i just feel a bit lost and hope that there are a few folk out there who are willing to drop me a line or lend an ear (even virtually).

thank you!

[cross posted to askpoly, polysecondaries, and poly_ldr]