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26 November 2009 @ 05:46 am
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Angela Hartlin's memoir, FOREVER MARKED: A Dermatillomania Diary has finally been released! Please join her Facebook Fan page to spread word about this skin picking disorder along with her experiences with it.

People with this disorder have traits of Body Dysmorphic Disorder and usually suffer from depression. It is an Impulse Control Disorder that is fueled by high levels of anxiety. The first few pages can be previewed at the Lulu.com site, which includes a better definition of Dermatillomania.

Even if you do not have Facebook, the prices are listed there for Canadian, American, and International buyers. If you do, please spread the word of the fan page to everyone on your friend's list, even if you have to tell them that you're spreading the word for a friend! We need to raise awareness about this silent disorder and help break the stigma on mental health in general. You never know who is suffering in isolation from having this condition.

Please e-mail forever.markedATyahoo.ca if you want to purchase from Angela directly; she offers a lower shipping price than Lulu.com does. Include the country that you live in and she can send you a quote. She ships the day she gets a payment (or the day after), then sends an e-mail to confirm that it was sent.

Thank you. <3


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17 September 2009 @ 08:16 pm
Hi. I'm Miranda and I'm new here. I'm 18, and I have been self-injuring for 4 years. My family found out last November when I took an overdose and ended up in hospital. And now they act as if nothing ever happened, they pretend that I don't do it. That makes me feel more abandoned and depressed than ever.

I'm a very lonely person. I can never fit in with other people, so I try to stay away from them as much as possible. This, of course, makes me feel worse. I thought this place would help though.

And, yeah, I'm supposed to be seeing a counsellor soon. I just hope that she can help somewhat.

I recently made an art/writing community for people with mental illnesses. Check that out if you want to, it needs members. It's called mind_art. I hope I'm allowed to mention that here.

I really hope to make some friends here! You all seem really nice.

 
 
13 September 2009 @ 09:18 am
poem  
Each day filled with once forgotten memories
Memories so vivid so realistic
That I cant separate past from present
Thinking that its happening all over again
Heart starts to race
Beating faster and fast
Chest tightens
I need to cut
It's the only way this feeling will stop
I need to cut
It's the only way ill snap back to the present
Please make it stop
Please
Ill do anything

Memories so vivid that I feel it
Feel it as though it was happening now
Over and over
Every time I take a shower I remember
I remember what she did
How it felt
How cold the water was
The only way I can shower now is with burning hot water
Otherwise I remember
I need to cut
It's the only way this feeling will stop
I need to cut
It's the only way

As day turns to night
Flashbacks turn into nightmares
Plaguing my sleep
Never giving me a break
One nightmare after another
Each of a different memory
Yet all so intense
So vivid
Waking up scared
Shaking like a leaf
Gasping for air
I need my blade
Just one little cut
Make all of this stop

Maybe if I cut ill be able to sleep
Maybe if I cut ill be able to take a shower
Maybe if I cut ill be able to….


i have this posted at http://selfhelp.yuku.com in the creative corner.  maybe ill see you guys around there.  take care and stay strong.
 
 
30 August 2009 @ 03:51 am
I will tell you if you are willing to listen,
though the words are hard to find,
I will let you see the honest truth,
spoken from a cutter's mind.

The razor blade became my very best friend
in my young teenage years,
I released the pain that hid inside
through a different type of tears.

The shining, sharp edges of my only friend,
so soon to hit a vein,
crimson rivers forming patterns,
- the bittersweet sort of pain.

My soul so slowly disappeared,
I could feel that it was gone,
but I never really had the time to care,
for I had my blade to rely on.

I always made sure to fake my smile,
I never gave them a reason to worry,
but each and every crimson scar
hid a secret story.

Every day, the same routine,
I put on my fake disguise,
and the razor blade helped me remove the pain
they could not read from my eyes.

Everything was dead in this uncaring world,
yet they didn't see how it hurt,
I couldn't express the pain I felt,
just choked on every word.

Therefore I relied on my dearest friend,
the one who pain releases,
my life was like a blackened puzzle
full of missing pieces.

But there was one piece that was missing
from the very painful start,
and I believe that missing piece
was the one that belonged to my heart.

They say they understand how I feel,
but the truth is, they never do,
you will never understand self harm
unless you have gone through it too.

I have been judged because I cut,
and each time it just gets tougher,
but before your prejudices start to unfold,
remember - I didn't choose to suffer.

It was not my choice to live like this,
have it run through every vein,
I did not choose to die inside,
to live my life in pain.

You may see someone shining, smiling,
but remember that depression deceives,
for that person may be hiding the darkest secrets
underneath those sleeves.
 
 
Current Mood: cold
 
 
29 August 2009 @ 11:17 pm
hi dudes, i'm savannah.

as summed up in a response -
i've found self-injury to be a fleeting emotional white knight of benevolence for myself. it's kind of an elusive leitmotif so it's hard to explain. shrinking, feeling wasted and weak, vomiting out my disgust, eating light, etc. i'm 5'7 and like 115lbs but losing another 10 would feel great. securing myself in an unhealthy way and having the ability to make myself feel an array of different ways gives me comfort. so... control and masochism for me. i just can't kick the high off of being sick and paying the physical price for feeling something deeper than amusement and arrogance. 

i don't really excel in undressing and analysing my methods, so that's as far as i've gone into it.
the 'self-injury' i'm referring to is restriction in diet and as well as a few weak control mechanisms i use for whatever reason.
it's not really the food or the weight i'm hating, because i know how healthy and great i look. read: last sentence up there.
for those of you who need someone specific to talk to, i'm here btw x
 
 
Current Mood: blank
 
 
29 August 2009 @ 05:10 am

Hello. My name is Samantha, and I suffer from SI (self injury). A few months back about eight or nine I was in a state of depression. I wasn't diagnosed it, but I know the symptoms and if I had gone to a doctor they would have told me I suffer from it. At the time I wasn't really liked, my boyfriend was in a different school than me, I had failed the grade I was in, and I was having trouble with my family. I felt worthless to the world. As though nothing or no one couldv'e changed it. My parents told me that they were going to put me into therapy but that never happened so I just kept cutting. I was talking to a women in my school for a few months about it. She was a lady who would come in and be my therapist for about a half an hour. But she would never make me talk about my cutting. So we mostly talked about fun things in my life that were happening and my boyfriend. I like her. She made me feel like I had one more friend in the world. Aside from her I only had my boyfriend. 
Well that didn't work out for me and I kept cutting. for about three moths straight. On and off durring the months sometimes for weeks and days straight. Then I finally did stop. After my aunt told me that I couldn't see my boyfriend I said that I would stop. So I did for a little while. About 2 months. Then I cut myself again. After I did that I stopped yet again. my family, friends, and my boyfriend thought they saw improvement. But inside me nothing had improved. I was still broken. The only thing that changed was that my scars were gone. But I still didn't cut for quite sometime. About 4 or 5 months. Until last night. I have so much to deal with I thought that was the only way out. So I went for it. And I accomplished what I had wanted to. Making myself bleed some of the pain out. 




 

 
 
Current Mood: disappointed
 
 
24 June 2009 @ 08:59 pm
Hi! I was diagnosed with anorexia when I was 15. I'm 25 now.. I've been doing self - harm since elementary school. It manifested mainly into cutting. I have attempted to OD on pills quite a few times. I'm also bipolar, have anxiety not otherwise specified, and OCD. I just wanted to say hi to everyone. I just found this community and think it's great that it is available.
 
 
19 June 2009 @ 03:51 pm
i was reading a poem about some depressed kid in highschool who slits their wrists.



don't you hate it when people label cutters as emo kids?




I'm a cutter myself and I found it aggrivating to say the least.
 
 
19 June 2009 @ 03:36 pm
Hey  
Hey,
I am a recovering cutter.  I want to help others get better and i made a supportive website.  The website has forums on things like cutting and eating disorders amoung so much more.  The link is http://selfhelp.yuku.com and i really hope that i see some of you guys around there.  I find that the more support systems i have the more happier i am and the more i realize things will get better.  I hope it also helps you the way it has helped me.  See you around.  Stay strong and take care.
 
 

Would you like to help us understand how to help people who self-harm?

 

Self-injury (sometimes called “self-harm”) involves harming yourself on purpose. Some examples include cutting or burning yourself, taking an overdose of pills, or banging your head. Right now, very little is known about why people start or stop self-harming. The Personality and Emotion Research Lab (PERL), a research team from Simon Fraser University in Canada, is conducting a study to learn more about the experiences of people who self-harm, and we want your help!  We are interested in how emotions, life experiences, stress and coping styles affect self-harm. We hope that this research will help other people understand more about why people self-harm and what they can do to help. 

 

What you can do: If you want to participate in this study, you will fill out online questionnaires on self-harm, emotions, coping, symptoms, and life events. These questionnaires will take approximately 2 hours to complete.  

 

Who can participate: We are looking for people who currently self-harm (whether you are trying to stop or not), those who have self-harmed in the past and quit, AND those who have never self-harmed.

 

What’s in it for you: Participants who complete the questionnaires will be paid $5 CAD (money transfers via PayPal). You can also choose to participate in our long-term study, where you will fill out a shorter version of the questionnaires every three months for two years. You will be paid $5 CAD each time you complete a set of questionnaires (about 30 min each), and you will get a $15 CAD bonus once you have completed all 9 sets for a total of $60 CAD. Telling us about your experiences will give us important information on how self-harm changes over time, and could help develop and improve treatments for people who want to stop self-harming.

 

Please contact us at perl@sfu.ca if you are interested in participating or if you have any questions.

 

Thank you,

 

Personality and Emotion Research Laboratory (PERL)

Simon Fraser University

Department of Psychology
RCB5246, 8888 University Drive
Burnaby, BC, Canada V5A 1S6

 
 
31 May 2009 @ 02:01 pm

i just made a random commnuity because i was bored.. i need some people.  i dont even know what to do:)

anyone want to help me?

its called: dyingforbones_x

=]
x
 
 
06 March 2009 @ 07:27 pm
I can't do this any more...I look like shit. I have gained so much weight and I hate it so much. This is it, this is my new resolve...my new contract. I've got to get back to the way I was...even that wasn't where i needed to be but at least it was better than this. I look so big. I truly hate myself right now.
 
 
02 March 2009 @ 01:18 pm
Hola!! I thought I'd share something nice with you. This is a site dedicated to help women appreciate what they have. It's really a treasure. I really don't remember having being moved so much by someone's words. :)

How to Feel Good About Yourself When You Don't Love Your Body

4 Ways to Be Kind to Our Bodies --- and Body Image

What is my ideal body weight?

Minimize the Media's Influence on Your Body Image

How to Make Peace with Your Body's Changes

4 Ways to Stop Criticizing Your Body

How to Free Yourself from "Fat" Thoughts
 
 
23 November 2008 @ 04:22 pm
hello, long forsaken world that i turn to when i have no where else to go. truth lies where the darkness splits light....for me that's here. who can help? I need information about BPD from anyone willing to give it. I can absolutely not do therapy, it would mess up my whole life. i know i need help but i just don't know what to do anymore. so i keep running. now i'm trying to run as far as bahrain. the back of me mind says what the hell is wrong with me. but yet i am so pulled there right now. when i get there though and everything goes wrong as it absolutely will, where will i turn?
 
 
26 September 2008 @ 10:35 pm
Hi there. I started this site back when i was 16.

I have to warn you there are a lot of graphic pictures and stories that may be triggering, but im trying to rejuvenate my page, so if you would mind looking at it, and if your interested sending me poetry and stories and pictures to post. i will totally give you credit for anything you send, or keep you anonymous, whichever you want.

so if you have time and dont mind, please check it out.

http://www.geocities.com/theonlyathenea/thebleedingwords5
 
 
08 August 2008 @ 02:18 pm
Hello....I am new here. I was hoping to find some new friends here.  I'm pretty sure I have
some kind of eating disorder. I currently weigh 108 pounds.
I have a very poor self-esteem....and it would never be nice to get some friends on here to talk to.
So I hate to beg......but will anybody be my friend?
 
 
Current Mood: scared
 
 
31 July 2008 @ 10:38 pm
I cut again today just once though so i guess im getting better right? not like anybodys reading this anyway...but hey i just gotta keep my head up right? look the truth is i dont know what to do with myself right now so can anybody just please add my msn and just talk to me im really lonely and i need friends to help me get better so plz add me at brandonboo1993@hotmail.com
 
 
26 July 2008 @ 12:38 am
i haven't visited this site in soooo long, my life has completely turned for the better these past two years, i have gotten over my meth addiction i have stopped worrying about my weight since i started gaining so much, but the one thing i can never seem to control is this is cutting, i only cut on my legs, but i went for almost six months until i cut myself again, i don't know what to do........ i know the answer is to stop but i cant. i started cutting myself when i was 13 and i am going to be 19 in four months..... this cycle is really getting to me



also something new i started this year is hitting myself instead of cutting....... i banged my head against the door edge i had this huge bruise on my head and it almost split open...... seriously does anyone else do this...
 
 
Current Mood: disappointed
 
 
11 May 2008 @ 12:41 am
 
 
Current Mood: indescribable
 
 
05 January 2008 @ 11:45 pm

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