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| Saturday, May 17th, 2008 |
strumquill
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6:27p |
Note to self: no politics at East Side Pride I played my audition today for East Side Pride. This year, since it is my 20th year of being out, I plan to do a set about my jaded personal relationships called the CODY BITCH set or something fun. I played two tunes - Damaged Goods and Move On- and the Entertainment Committee seemed to enjoy them. I explained that "I tend to be more proud of my angst than my joy." It was well received. At the very end of the questions one of the committee said, [paraphrased] "Stephen my only reservation is that last year you used the Pride stage to air some of your own political agenda where you ended up saying 'fuck VANOC'". I found out from the Pride Committee president after that some of the sponsors were not happy about my doing that. I told the panel that "I hear ya, it WONT happen" though I didn't apologize. [I was curious about the sponsorship connection too. I know VanCITY bank is a major sponsor of Pride but what is the VANOC connection. Well, a Google search turns up some employee connections between the two orgs]. I guess that last year I had just had enough with hearing about VANOC seeming to renege on their 2003 promises and the tune I was singing at the time, My Pretty City, was about those very issues as well as the corporatization and marginalization that the 2010 Olympics seems to be bringing to Vancouver. Also I guess I was channeling the spirit of Stonewall which was always about airing protest and controversial topics throughout queer history, in a neighborhood of lesbian/queer/trans activists. So I thought it was an appropriate venue to throw out a Billy Braggism to VANOC. [Nonetheless, I still thought at the time that singing Fuck VANOC didn't come off well and I had not enough time to explain it to the audience well - though I assume the EAST Side Pride crowd, which was historically the Stonewall in the Park venue would be pretty in the know. [the comment got some cheers]. I learned something important today: If you want to sing about your personal story perspectives as a gay man at a Pride event; in these days of corporate sponsorships, you'd better NOT involve your politics. Stonewall is history. I will hear if I am playing East Side Pride this year in June. |
destabee
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6:51p |
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sweetkahi
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1:02p |
Tired
Today I am feeling tired. Not quite all the way to my core; but at least half way there. Last night I met with an old friend who has been chatting with me online for a few years. It was a nice change. We tried out a new restaurant. The spaghetti sauce was too acidic, however the pasta was excellent.
We headed out to the club where I got him a sponsorship form. I also got to finally turn in the sheets I have been carrying around for two months. The place was busy, but I only knew a few of the folks there. I considered stepping up and starting a few conversations but I felt insecure. I only stayed until 1030. My fever keeps coming up and down averaging about 99.5. I am looking forward to my appointment this week. Hopefully I can get something to kick out this infection.
I got up this morning and I cleaned up. Around 10am I had someone come out to price new energy efficient windows. The special was to get an energy upgrade including attic insulation and some other household improvements for free with the windows. To replace all 10 of the windows it would be a bit under 8 grand. I told him I had to think about those costs and will have to see how I felt about doing those upgrades. He offered the insulation and upgrades for 1400 but even that will take another three months for me to save up for. If I don't get on their 'special' the package would cost about 12000.
While he was here I made the spinach side for the potluck later today and then tuna sandwich and a cream of broccoli and cauliflower soup. I also managed to cut out some even spaces on the door jam and will get some lovely dry wall replacements.
Today I am tired because I wonder how I can hold onto the faith for others when I feel so faithless right now. I am trying to remember that I can choose my attitude,but right now it feels like it takes too much energy to make that change. Hopefully the time with friends today will help. |
destabee
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7:21a |
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blackazurite
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12:51p |
The annual WGT picspam... It's time again for some pictures of this year's Wave Gotik Treffen. I've been looking forward to this since about December, and it was very great in the end, but much too short, and rather exhausting. Still, I won't complain too much. Anyway, here are the pics I already found online on various sites. Click on the text below to see all the pictures of the corresponding day, and click on the pics to see them bigger. 
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I'm already pondering what outfits I will wear next year. I think the white one will make it into next year, and I want a complete golden outfit, and something fantasy-like, too. And perhaps a Geisha outfit. Anyway, a year is long and I still might not know what it'll bring in the end.
Current Mood:  artistic
Current Music: Lufia - Sinistral Battle |
| Friday, May 16th, 2008 |
strumquill
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9:03p |
One of the best "Dear Jay" letters I've written :) I share this, not because I want to spew drama and show off like some jaded, hard geezer diva [I DONT need to show anyone that I am a crustacean BITCH - hard on the outside: soft on the inside]. It's just that this letter so EXACTLY expresses how I feel about being out, gay, and, most importantly, how I insist at age 45 of being FREE of negative assumptions being ascribed to my gay spirit and natural playfulness in romance and lust. AND I KNOW I am NOT the only over-40 fag (I say that term with affection) who must feel this way. ----------------------- Dear J--: I have been thinking more about your email. I just can't agree that my invites to you could be interpreted as pushy. And, frankly, I am too far along in my own comfort zone to want to be viewed as some older guy with negative and intrusive motivations. Lots of people ascribe negative motivations to me which are not true and I have been patient with that for so many years - as a teacher I still have to put up with that from the youth and even parents I work with (but I'm well paid for that). BUT in my personal life, I am celebrating being out of the closet for 20 years now. I am really too far along in my own life and accomplishments to have to spend time justifying myself to people. Especially my friends. I no longer feel that I have to convince people that my motivations are anything but healthy and wholistic. Moreover, I no longer have the desire to bother saying "Hey no, I'm a nice guy, you needn't fear this older fag, I mean what I say I really do!" If you or anyone else wants to have those suspicions about me, there is NOTHING I can do about that. The days when I thought I could really change such opinions of me, or other out gay men, are long gone. Life is really too short and I am not getting any younger to spend on that kind of public relations. So I refuse to play these appeasement games any longer, for ANYONE, not even my mother. If people can't deal with me as I am, a fun loving altruistic guy, then they can move on, or I will. ( Read more... ) |
technomom
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7:32p |
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destabee
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6:04p |
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destabee
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12:09p |
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maewe
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4:07p |
I think I might feel dead inside. |
| Thursday, May 15th, 2008 |
gerardp
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8:13p |
Looks like I'm gonna get back to work This has been a crazy busy week but in a good way. I've had three job interviews in the past 7 days and it looks like I'm getting a job out of one of them. I got an offer today and I'll be starting work on Monday. Drag is that the commute is down to the Sunnyvale/Santa Clara area. Nothing against the area but the commute may not be fun. It's a contract job, six months to start, so, if I can't stand the commute, I can always just try to find other work ... but it'll keep me off the streets. Current Mood:  satisfied |
serolynne
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10:36p |
*Gulp*
About to start the last episode of Buffy. |
jenn_x
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3:41p |
Im using a wee bit of sick time this afternoon...I woke up with a headache that was hovering on migraine proportions and figured I would muscle my way through the day until I started to feel queasy. No I am home and rocking the AC and hoping to catch a wee bit of a nap.
Ugh my head, eye, shoulder and neck are screaming at me. And because I am home, the cats are trying to crawl all over me. Apparently they didnt get the memo that it is 97 degrees outside and therefore to hot for cuddling.
going to collapse now... |
bjorker
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1:25p |
Holy shit!
I think I need to move to California!
Current Mood: Elated. |
queerbychoice
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12:14p |
MARRIAGE I CAN LEGALLY MARRY MY GIRLFRIEND!!!!!(Or, well, I will be able to when she gets her domestic partnership dissolved.) Current Mood:  ecstaticCurrent Music: Stardust eating |
yesthattom
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10:59a |
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iw1shup0nastar
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11:07a |
Spring 2008 semester grades Just thought that I would share with the folks that check my LJ my grades for this semester. 3 A's and 3 B's!!!!!Whoot!!!! I couldn't be happier with my grades right now
Those sorts of grades haven't been seen on a Jenn report card since... the mesozoic era!!!! Current Mood:  surprisedCurrent Music: Jazmin lapping up water from her bowl |
destabee
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10:11a |
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destabee
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9:03a |
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destabee
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8:25a |
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technomom
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7:12a |
Tarot for Knitters! Originally published at Enemy of Entropy. Please leave any comments there.
This is truly cool. It’s a limited edition, hand-printed “knitting tarot” deck. I learned about it via new LJ friend ![[info]](http://stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) ciannait.
They aren’t releasing many images, apparently, unless you’re a friend of theirs on Flickr. What I can see looks very clean and simple.</lj>
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| Wednesday, May 14th, 2008 |
mivegan
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10:49p |
hmmmm I feel like I never post and I should... I also feel that some people use lj and/or blogs as therapy, but I don't want to do that... Even though I should be in therapy and can't afford it... I'll just start filling out the writer's block crap. I did have an exciting year though. A year of camp, that went just okay... Campers fantastic, staff decent, and behind the scene things horrid... But try, try again... This year should be better with some people missing. Which is in like 28 days... I started a new job in September, which ended up being a good find. Nice pay, nice connections, and fun! I got a new family member in June, which has ended up being more exciting than I thought. Although I think it will be more fun when he's older. A new kitten managed to wiggle his way in... a decision that was difficult because I didn't really want another one, but he was sick and the sweetest thing ever. Now he's eating my blinds, but I'm glad he's here because he makes me happy. I went home for xmas and then onward to VT for snowy camper fun! I also visited Harvard for the first time. I was the legal guardian of a 13 yr old for 8 days, scary. I went to England, Wales, Northern Ireland, and Ireland in April. I started and passed my first graduate level class... Who knew it could be done??? I moved out of Cowtown, Sonoma, to San Rafael in fancy dancy Marin... Because I am that rich??? The rent is insane, but I think I can make it work (eep!). Coming attractions: I am turning 29 in a volcano on the Big Island in Hawaii... I am preparing for a 19 state road tripping extravaganza. I am fantasizing a trip to Cornwall, England, during winter break. Definitely going to Amsterdam and possibly Belgium in March/April during Spring Break time... A trip to Alaska for my 30th... At some point I've got to make sure I get all 50 in there before May 22nd, 2009... That's my goal! Distant Attractions: Grad School: Contemplating CSU Hayward, University of Plymouth in England, University of Vermont, maybe somewhere near Boston... Volunteer Work: Thailand, South Africa are some of the places I'm mulling, but the tickets themselves over $2000... I don't know why I'm never comfortable where I am... I wish I had someone to keep me grounded. I started an online dating site because all the guys I meet are married or gay... But you can't very well be honest in your dating ad: Neurotic Girl seeking Balanced Guy to Talk her Down out of her Manic State... Although that's one hell of a headline! That's enough for tonight... Current Mood:  anxiousCurrent Music: Hallelujah - Rufus Wainwright |
sweetkahi
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8:07p |
Took my final this evening. The last of the last finals for my bachelors degree. *yeah*
I am doing good outside of that. Work is going well. It is getting a little busier and I am catching up on some training.
I got the house cleaned up and am expecting to have Doc over tomorrow before dinner.I also have to go by the library and then UPS to pick up something that requires a signature from OCS.. no idea what that is.
The back door that I kicked in is looking good. I want to finish some spackling and then cut out the holes for the strike plates. Woohoo; handiwoman badge.
Off too finish watching Top Chef |
destabee
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6:45p |
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technomom
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3:08p |
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